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What It Takes to Be the Perfect Girlfriend

Updated on July 28, 2013

Having a relationship with someone can be quite difficult at times. Emotions can often run wild and make things harder than what they should be. Often times human nature is the culprit, causing us to say and do things we shouldn’t do. Of course there is no such thing as being perfect per se but you can be a perfect fit for someone. With a few adjustments you can be that perfect someone for somebody.

Respect His Interests

You may not understand his hobbies. You may not even want to understand them but you should at least respect them. If he wants to talk a little bit about last nights winning game to you, listen. I'm not saying lie and pretend that you care but you can at least let him know that you are willing to take 5 minutes out of your busy day to listen to him. You're just showing that you care about him and take a joy in listening to his excitement for something he's interested in. This not only goes for hobbies but it also relates to the things he shows dear to him in his life.

Throw Jealousy Out the Window

Your boyfriend merely said thank you to the waitress and you’re all over him like paint on a wall. Questioning him, burning a hole in him with your eyes. Knock it off. No one wants to deal with that. You have to chill out. Give him his space. If your jealousy rears its ugly head time and time again, chances are high you will chase him towards little Miss waitress before you know it. When you feel the green goblin rising within take a deep breath, realize he only has eyes for you and smile it off. Now unless, you have a reason to feel like he’s a cheater and that’s why you’re jealous then you need to leave. But if he’s done nothing wrong and is a great guy to you, stop it. This also goes for him and his guy pals. If you feel a jealousy towards him hanging out with the fellas that needs to stop as well. He can’t be around you 24/7. And you shouldn’t want him to. He has to have his own time too. As long as he shows you respect when it comes to being with the fellas, let him have his playtime.

Don’t Expect to Get, Get, Get

There’s nothing more awesome than to constantly be showered with love and gifts from the beau. What you have to realize is that it’s not fair. No matter how much he says it’s okay or he loves making you happy, you have to still give back to him. Buy him a gift. When you’re out getting yourself something get him something too. What does he like? Get him a shirt, a piece of memorabilia on his favorite team. Take him out to dinner. Spending a quality dinner with him, out or in, can help the two of you connect. Wouldn’t it be nice to make him smile for a change by giving than receiving?

Share and Share Alike

No one wants to be buddied up with someone who doesn’t like to share. Being in a relationship is no different. It’s pretty much similar to the giving notion. It lets you boyfriend know that you feel the relationship is not all about you. Sharing gives your beau the feeling that you aren’t shutting him out of a part or your life. Whether it be sharing your space, a secret or a bite from their plate, there’s a certain specialness that’s tied with sharing.

Be Thoughtful

When you see that your man feels strongly about something take it into consideration. Say he lost his fave baseball cap for example, don’t be insensitive and say, “O’well.” Let him know that it’s just as much of a big deal to you as it is to him. Even though it may seem small and silly to you, you still should make him feel like his loss was your loss. To kick how thoughtful you are up a notch go out and buy him a replacement hat or at least one similar to it to show how much you care about his feelings. Putting someone’s feelings into consideration is the name of the game on this one. On an emotional level, being thoughtful about someone’s feelings is a must. Avoid discussing something that upsets him or lift him up when he’s down. Even remembering the type of Hostess snack he likes and making sure you keep it in the house can be a thoughtful gesture. It’s sometimes the little things isn’t it?

Be Affectionate

Affection is a definite way to keep your relationship going. Giving kisses and hugs for no reason are all signs that you are into him. Lots of men love the affection of a woman. Even the simple things can count. Caressing his face in your hand, lingering stares, rubbing his back while standing in a store line or running your fingers through his hair are sure fire ways to quenching the thirst of his desire for affection. It’s not everyone’s “thing” but if this is your man’s M.O. get to it.

Sex It Up

This is an extension of the last topic. If this is what gets your man going, give it to him. Now I know this can be a bit of a chore at times, especially when they tend to want it more than you but it is what it is. If you’ve been with your sweetheart long enough to know what he likes and dislikes take the time to love on him how he wants. Don’t forget that sex just isn’t sex. It’s also what leads up to it. Wear that sexy perfume he likes, put on his favorite type of lingerie, flirt with him, play with his hair. Show him that he still turns you on. These are things that men also need to feel connected with you. What can also help to get you where you need to be is to do something in bed that you both enjoy. That way you’ll look forward to it just as much as he does. In the end, it’s all about keeping you both happy and being perfect for each other.

Show Your Faults

Okay, take a deep breath and get through this one as best as you can. It’s always tough to admit when you’re wrong or to admit your shortcomings. Though difficult it proves to your loved one that you don’t think you are better than them. You can’t view it as showing your weaknesses. If anything your vulnerability only makes you more approachable to him. When you appear human to them it lets them feel comfortable being human around you. If you are in a relationship where you always have to be right your man will eventually find it hard to talk to you. The last thing you want to do is shut down the line of communication in a relationship.

Be Funny

Not only be funny but be fun. If this is the “theme” to your relationship make sure it stays that way. If your man loves to laugh then make it your job to be his little love clown. Be silly with him, laugh with him and play. When one of the things your relationship is built on is fun times and lots of giggles, it’s an awesome thing. Lots of times relationships can dead end causing what used to be funny moments not so funny anymore. Try to keep the fun in your relationship going. It’s one of our best human qualities that we possess that can carry us through the hard times. Lightening the heaviest of moments.

Show Your Need for Him

Some men need this. It’s pretty much embedded in their genetic design. That sense of manliness makes them feel special. You don’t see Spiderman giving up on ….. or Superman on Louis Lane when she needs a hero. Your superhero isn’t any different. No matter how some men grumble about taking out the trash or having to check on a creepy noise it is in their nature to be the one that handles the “manly” stuff. When you are so independent as to where you do it all, it can appear like you don’t need them. They can end up feeling inadequate and put to the side. Also, to your defense, if you continue down that path you can end up being left doing things all on your own because he’ll feel like he doesn’t need to help you. Who needs help when you’ve got everything under control? Catch my drift?

Avoid Complete Reliance

In your mind you’re thinking, “You just told me to show I need him.” That still stands but you don’t want to be so reliant on your honey to the point where when he sees you he only thinks that you want something from him. You have to still be your own person in the relationship and do things for yourself. Relying on someone to provide you with everything, whether it be emotionally or financially, can be stressful. That level of neediness is both draining and smothering. It’s fine to ask your love for his opinion or discuss things that you’re going through to make a decision about what you’re dealing with. On the other hand, to expect him to handle them for you is unreasonable. You both deserve to have a life separate from one another. When the both of you keep your own identity it allows the two of you to remain who you both were when you first met. So when you do come together, you can be that same power couple you were when you first got together.

Show Some Respect

Treat him as you’d like to be treated. If you have a disagreement in public, don’t cuss, yell and call him out of his name. It’s nobody’s business that you’ve gotten into a disagreement. Nor what you two are disagreeing on. There’s also no need in embarrassing him no matter how much of a rage he’s put you in. No person deserves that and especially if he’s your man. That goes for any kind of abuse. Verbal, physical or mental abuse of any kind are all signs of disrespect. Without respect how is he to know you carry strong feelings for him? It’s sure no way to show your love for him.

Just remember the key to being the perfect woman for your boyfriend is by being a good match for him. If you fit what's on the list of things he wants in a woman, it's just a matter of keeping up with it. Being the perfect girlfriend doesn’t have to be too difficult. It’s like anything else of value that you want to keep in your life. You have to make an effort for it to succeed and grow. Showing you care, keeping tabs on your jealousy meter and not being afraid to admit when you’re wrong are just a few ways to keep being the perfect mate for your boyfriend. With other stresses that go on in life, it can be very hard to keep some of these things going but it is all worth it in order to produce a great successful relationship. Wouldn’t you expect the same efforts from him?


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      Lolo 3 years ago

      Loud and clear!

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      Dan Lema 3 years ago from Tanzania

      Your're welcome, by the way...i wrote a "How to be the best boyfriend" version article like this, feel free to check it out anytime you want.....we're not that different in perspectives...:-)....

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      NiaG 3 years ago from Louisville, KY

      Thanks so much Danext! Have a good day!

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      Dan Lema 3 years ago from Tanzania

      Very nice hub NiaG, i totally agree with all of your points....especially the supporting and being understanding part....i couldn't have kept it better myself....

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      NiaG 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

      Thanks so much Paul for sharing it. I hope it helps give some people, and not necessarily women, an insight on what they need to do. It basically comes down to being treated like you want to be treated. And to keep a successful relationship you will just have to step it up on the things you lack in. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Awesome sacrifice and sacrifice rally well summed up

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Niag, This is an outstanding hub which is very interesting and useful. I can't object to anything you say, and must second that men of all ages really appreciate women who are affectionate and spice it up in bed. Voted up and sharing with followers. Also Pinning and Tweeting.

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      NiaG 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

      Thank you MOS. I appreciate your comment as always. Me a novel? Pssshaw! Ha! You have an awesome day!

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      NiaG 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

      Thanks so much mathira! I'm sure I've left some things out but I have found from my experience that to make a good relationship a number of these that I've listed have to work together to do so with your partner. Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your comment. Have a wonderful day!

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      Man of Strength 4 years ago from Orlando, Fl

      Good job, Nia. Pretty soon, you may have to write a novel for the babies. Voted up!

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      NiaG, you have completely analyzed the good qualities of a girl friend and I total agree to what you have written. What you had written about thoughtfulness needs special kudos as no one seems to pay great attention to it.