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How can you tell if he Really Loves you?

Updated on May 3, 2011


How do you know if he loves you?

How can you tell if your boyfriend loves you? This is a question asked way too often, unfortunately. You may want to stop and ask yourself why you are asking this question in the first place. Is there a reason behind feeling un-loved? Maybe you just aren’t so sure, because they tell you all of the time, but you just do not see it.

Men and women are programmed a little different. You should look at your relationship at a different angle. Men and women have a different language.

Men will show affection by doing things for you. Women are verbal creatures. When there is not enough conversation going on in a relationship, it often makes the woman feel like she is not loved. When you are asking a question such as, “does he love me;” try not to pay attention to the lack of conversation.

Pay attention to what he does to understand that he loves you

Pay attention to what he does

When women speak on average 20,000 words per day, and men speak an average of 7,000, you should know that there is a lot of, “can you hear me?” going on in households worldwide.

Pay attention to what he does for you. Does he take the trash out? Does he mow the lawn? Has he cooked dinner? Taken you out for lunch?

When a man is doing something for you, consider that as a way they bond, and show their affection.

Did you notice that men are able to shake off an argument better than women? This is not because women are weak, but because women are verbal creatures. Arguments are mainly verbal.

That being said, men find it more difficult to shake off something bad being done to them, than they would if something bad was said to them. Did you notice? You probably get more upset after an argument, and he is more relaxed. Sometimes he is more upset if you forgot to run an errand and you are more relaxed.

This is probably why women are the main ones to break a relationship off. Women can hold resentment to things such as men not speaking too much, and little arguments. If there were as many “bad doings” in a relationship instead of arguments, or lack of communication, the men would probably break up more than women.

showing love and differences between men and women

This being said, you should look at the relationship and ask yourself what he does for you. Pay attention to the little things. You will probably see that he really does love you.

Now that you understand a little more about the gender differences between men and women, you can strengthen your relationship.

It may not be as important to you to go to the game with him or go out, but it is important to him. It may not be important to him when you want to talk more, or you want to hear sweet things more often, but it is important to you.

Take this advice, and strengthen your relationship. Understand that he loves you,(more often than not) and work with it.

Go to the game, and talk his head off. Show him this article; it may help him understand your needs more. After all, if you’re going out of your way to show him you love him, he should show you in your language.

You can get him to open up and talk just be being to the point with him. You have to be, since most men have a tendency to lose track of what you are talking about quickly. They get distracted sometimes. They even have jokes and commercials about it. It is a fact that men and women speak different languages.


Have you ever heard of a relationship breaking up because he was a nice guy, but he just doesn’t talk?

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Understand Each Other

Maybe after you make your mental list of everything he does, you will see that he loves you. You should not have to feel this way, and you both can take steps into understanding one another better. Try not to go through several relationships (unless they are un-healthy) without first understanding this.

Take a step towards understanding each other more. Your relationship could become more positive in the long run.

It is better to work on a relationship that is healthy as long as you two love each other, than it would be to start back to square one, and later ask yourself the same question, “does he love me?”


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    • sarclair profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thanks again for your comment. I hope it will help you with your relationships.

    • SubRon7 profile image

      James W. Nelson 

      7 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      All those "ones" from me. Thank you, Sarclair.


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