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Perfect Wedding Days--What Does It Take to Have Them

Updated on November 18, 2014
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Janine is a published author in Only Trollops Shave Above the Knees, appears on The Huffington Post and at Confessions of A Mommyaholic.

July 8, 2006--My Perfect Day...

Sunshine streamed through my window that morning awakening me. It was 6:30 am on our wedding day, a day that we had been planning now for over two years. We picked July for two reasons, because July happened to be the month we first met, as well as because in NY it seemed to be the nicest month with the least chance of rain or nasty weather.

Yes, I admit growing up the one thing I dreamed of for my wedding day (young girls usually do picture this day quite often) was sunshine and warmth--two things that seem to be in abundance during the month of July here. However, I was ever so fearful that I would not be this lucky that for months in advance I prayed to whoever would listen to me in the heavens above to bless us with a beautiful, sunny day. For two weeks leading up, I checked the weather online and indeed was told that it would be sunny and in the 80’s that day. But I truly would not believe it until the day was upon us, so when I did indeed awake as I previously stated to sunshine I was truly amazed and very thankful.

The weather that day was spectacular and one could not have asked for better if they tried. Many have gotten married before us and many will get married after, but so much planning does go into that one day. What makes a wedding day the perfect day? Sit back and read on if you are indeed planning your own special day to find out the main components to indeed make the day a memorable one.


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1. Weather

I have spoke about this in length already, but will say this that the weather can indeed make or break this day. My parents got married in the month of October and had pouring rain the whole day. My mom always lamented that she never was able to take pictures outside or even have a picture taken of them getting out of the limo, because she pretty much had to be carried from the limo inside the church and then the hall too, because it was impossible for her to walk in huge puddles in her wedding gown and train. Granted my parents will be happily married for 40 years in a few short weeks, but still as much of a happy marriage as the two have had, my mom still wishes she would have had better weather on their special day. Honestly, you can’t really control the weather, but try if possible to pick a time of the year that in your neck of the woods has the best chance in resulting in pleasant weather if possible.

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2. Perfect Venue (The Catering Hall)

When my now husband and I went to look at places to have the reception at, we were less than satisfied at some. The one place we would have loved would not do anything, but outdoor cocktail hours come rain or shine in the summer time weather. Even though they would have tented the area, we still were left a bit leery. They also wanted to have the dinner portion in a room where it had steep steps to get in and out of this room, which would leave our poor elderly grandmothers to fend for themselves with their walkers and canes too. Our grandmothers were too special and important to us both to have them miss a moment of our day, because they couldn’t access the room that the party was being held in. When we finally settled upon the reception hall, we found a place that would hold the cocktail and dinner party on the first floor, where stairs would not be an issue for the grandmas, plus they truly gave us a very nice price for all that we were getting for the evening. So a win-win in our books.

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3. Pictures/Video

This day is indeed so special, so it would stand to reason that you would want to have pictures and video too to commemorate this day. My husband’s grandparents got married and had one picture from the whole day. Apparently the rest of the photos got over-exposed and that was the end of having more than that one lone photo from such a special and wonderful day for them. We searched long and hard for the perfect photographer and videographer too. We may have paid a bit more, but let me tell you we totally got what we paid for and our photos (plural) and video (too) from our day were absolutely amazing and worth every penny. I have always said that this would be the one thing we would have left after that day to remember it by. Well, this is so true and thankfully we have a ton of wonderful pictures to look back on the special day. I would imagine that most would only wish for the same as far as both are concerned.

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4. DJ (Dancing/Entertainment)

This is another thing that one does not want to skimp on cost-wise. Unfortunately, we did slightly and have to be honest if I could change one thing about our day, it would have been our DJ and entertainment. He was a nightmare from start to finish. Apparently, we were not paying him enough already and he felt he could crash the cocktail hour where he ate and drank his weight in worth. Let me tell you by the time the party was in high gear, he was feeling no pain. The list of music we had given him to play, he threw out the window and just pretty much played what he wanted. He didn’t even bother to check his CDs to make sure that the crucial father/daughter dance song was Ok (because he was too busy during the cocktail hour as stated earlier), that when he went to play it the CD was broken and wouldn’t play. Thankfully, two of our guests went to one of the other rooms with another wedding happening that night and was able to get another functioning copy of the CD, but if not for them that dance would have been completely ruined. Take if from me, you get what you pay for here completely.

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5. Food/Dessert/Cake

The food is another thing that one wants to make sure is just right (even if you are too busy to enjoy it yourself, like me). I have to admit that I was indeed too busy being the hostess that day to even sit for very long to eat much. Our waitress actually was quoted as telling my husband, “Isn’t your wife going to eat tonight?” We were given everything on the menu to taste and sample. I think I tasted about 1/4 of what I actually could have eaten and our menu was actually quite extensive. Also, the evening went so quickly that when the Venetian Hour (Extended Dessert and Espresso Hour) actually happened, I again was to busy saying goodbye to guests who had to leave a bit early to enjoy all the many dessert foods we decided upon. I even forgot some of them and was actually looking through the proofs of our pictures when we got them with my maid of honor, who proceeded to tell me that, “There was the chocolate fountain!” To which I responded, “We had a chocolate fountain!” Seriously, I just completely missed that one even though as I said previously we planned the meal extensively. Lesson learned here take a few minutes to smell the roses or at least eat all the wonderful, delicious food you planned for the night, especially if you did indeed pick out some wonderful and delicious food.

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6. Flowers

Everyone likes different flowers and no two weddings will most likely have the same types of flowers, but remember this--try to pick the flowers that you do like and feel will work the best for you that day. My cousin got married a year before us and his bride-to-be loved orchids, so most of the flowers including the men’s boutonnieres had some form of orchid involved in it. The reception tables even had these huge over-sized vases with orchids in them, which were very pretty, but not practical at all for guests who were sitting across from each other and trying to hold a conversation, because you could barely see each other through the jungle of flowers. That said when we went to pick out our flowers for our wedding, we both remembered this and made sure that we had nice small bowls that had beautiful roses floating in them, so that conversations could indeed be had at our reception. Also we both are fans of roses, so that ended up being our flower choice. Our flowers we felt were simple, but elegant and very simply put worked for who were were and what we wanted and here you can not ask for more than that.

Summing It Up...

Every Perfect Wedding Day must come to an end eventually. I mean there are only 24 hours in a day. So what does one do when it is without a doubt over? They go on the perfect honeymoon. That however is a different article all together, but if you are indeed planning a wedding and reading this, I hope you too have a perfect day and definitely take some time that day to quite simply enjoy it!!


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About the Author...

Janine is a freelance writer and mom of two. She is known for being a stay at home mom to two beautiful little girls right now. Life can totally get hectic and has learned to perfect and improvise all day and night too, because of this. You can checkout her profile and more of her family related articles here.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Thank you so much Christy and trust me I feel the same way about you, too. Just so thankful we are friends!! :)

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      How beautiful, Janine. I think you had a great start to your marriage that now boasts two lovely girls. I am so thankful to have met you xx

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Thanks Stacy and sounds like you have had a lot of wedding experience. As for the video, that sounds similar to what happened to us with the DJ and the lack of funds in the end. I will say this even though that is the one thing I Would change, I am fortunate in saying that we truly had a wonderful day and can live with the DJ not being the best.

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      My friend is getting married and I am the maid of honor... and my sister just got engaged and I am part of the bridal party. that being said, my other sister just got married and so I have pretty much been living the wedding stuff. But this is great advice. When it comes down to it, I would definitely prioritize the photos and the DJ the highest when it comes to priorities. Those are the parts where memories are made of. We had a great DJ - he actually played until he was kicked out... I do however regret that we never had a wedding video. We ran out of money and ended up canceling our photographer for the day. Biggest regret. But luckily we still ended up with some nice photos.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Oh thanks so much Joseph for reading and for you lovely comment here too. Always so appreciate your supprt and kindness, as well!!

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      Two years of planning that paid off Janine! Great with Sunshine, music and the best food. You deserved that day, and I know you are happy to this day. Thanks for sharing this important moment!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Oh Linda, so true about Sunshine and know you know this all too well. Thank you for your kind words where and was so happy help in sharing our experiences with others here :) :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      You can never go wrong when you add sunshine to the mix! I'm glad your wedding day was filled with rays of it! Excellent tips and ideas for grooms and brides to be.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Nicole, thank you for your lovely comment here and glad you enjoyed!,

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Peggy, I will definitely check out your hub article and now you have me intrigued to say the least. Thank you very much for kind words here, votes and share too!!

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      Nicole S Hanson 5 years ago from Minnesota

      Very neat hub! You hit all the biggest points here, well done!

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Except for the entertainment, it sounds as though you had a lovely day. Wishing you many long years of happiness! If you want to read a slightly different version of a wedding, check out my hub about "My case and story for wedding elopement." Our wedding, almost 42 years ago now was slightly different from yours. Ha! Up votes and sharing.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Eddy, so glad you came back and commented. I truly did try to put my ll in this one and just give a bit of advice to those who are indeed planning a wedding now. I have to admit I did love the wedding planning, because I was so excited to indeed be marrying my husband at that point. Still I do remember afterwards thinking we had a wonderful day, what could have been done differently and that is where this article was born. Thank you again though for your input and hope you too enjoy your day my dear friend :)

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      Oh Janine another wonderful hub ;I read this one earlier but a knock on the door disrupted me and I only remembered that I hadn't left a comment.and I know many will continue to benefit from this gem.

      You put your all into each hub and this is indeed so obvious by the end product.

      Even though I don't think I will marry again I still found it interesting.

      Take care my dear friend and enjoy your day.

      Eddy.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Nell, I loved hearing about your friend's wedding and the way you described the snow coming down did indeed sound magical. I wouldn't have minded that kind of snow, but was more afraid of a blizzard! Thank you for sharing your memories though and the votes too!!

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      This was lovely, and brought back many good memories from my wedding day, I remember my friend getting married would you believe it, in January! lol! but it was fine as it was all indoors, the funny thing was just as she took her vows the snow started coming down, it was magical! voted up! nell

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      We did indeed have the expensive wedding and even had an expensive honeymoon too, going to the Bahamas and staying an Sandals (all inclusive). It was enough for part of a down payment on a house and sometimes my husband says tell me why we spent that much money on one day, but to be honest we had a blast and wouldn't have done it any differently, just as you feel. So I think it what works for the couple in the end. I hope you renew after 10 years and that sounds very romantic and exciting too. Tha k you also for the votes too :)

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      Sasha Kim 5 years ago

      Sounds like your day couldn't have been better! I'm so happy for you! We decided to go very small courthouse wedding and spend our budget on the honeymoon ^_^ We went to disney world for a week! lol it was so worth the small wedding! ^_^ We've talked about renewing our vows for our 10 year anniversary... this hub will certainly come in handy if I do indeed get to plan it ^_^ thanks, voting a bumch!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Mary, glad your family seems to have had decent luck with the weather on their special days too. Thank you for sharing and for your lovely thoughts for my family here. So appreciated :). Thanks you as well for the votes and share too!!

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Every Wedding day should be perfect! Usually the sun does shine or at least our family has been lucky that way. I hope you have many more wonderful days with your beautiful family.

      I voted this UP, and shared.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Rema, thank you so much for reading this one and for your lovely thoughts and words. I very much appreciate your kindness and blessings too!!

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      Rema T V 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Hi Janine, happy to read about your perfect wedding day. Enjoyed reading. Here's wishing you many beautiful wedding anniversaries with your lovely Emma and Lily in tow. Great hub. Cheers, Rema.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Joseph, thank you seriously for your kind words here and always too. I honestly appreciate it and know you mean it. I was truly glad to share this one with you and the Hub community too :)

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      A real wedding planner you are. I agree with billy, may you keep that happiness forever. You have a wonderful family and your little angels are so adorable. Great hub, and wonderful reminders!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Dianna, so happy to hear about your wedding day and that it was just perfect for you and your husband too. I really do love hearing about others wedding days and how they celebrated. Thank yo again for stopping by here, commenting and for just being so kind to me always!!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      So happy to hear that your own wedding was the perfect day. I like your advice and suggestions for holding the perfect wedding. I remember it snowed on mine, but we still enjoyed the warmth of the day in our hearts.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Bruce, your destination for your wedding sounded amazing and quite beautiful. Glad you had great weather and sounds like you too can relate to our DJ issues even if you didn't have one. Thank you so much for sharing your story of your day and for the votes too!!

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Glimmer Twin Fan, glad you too had a wonderful day on your special day and appreciate you sharing your story here, thank you for that :)

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      Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

      I liked your 6 parts to a perfect wedding.....in my case part one was the most important part....as we got married on the beach at Hilton Head, South Carolina....luckily we got great weather.....at this point I do not even remember the backup plan if it would have rained. The only part that we did not have was a DJ....but we got 5 of the 6 parts covered in our wedding as well. Voted up and awesome.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 5 years ago

      Awe...what a nice hub. There are always those thing we wish we could have changed, like your mom wanting nicer weather, but in the end it's almost always remembered fondly. We skimped on a photographer and paid for it, but still have decent pics from other people. Nice thoughts.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Carol, so very true and about wedding days coming in all shapes and sizes too, plus it being anywhere, anytime and still be a joyful day. However, I know from experience form myself and friends too that we all just want the best day no matter what and this was point of view of that I wrote this one from, because I truly daydreamed about this day from the time I was a little girl. Thank you so much for your kind words and votes too, as always I truly appreciate it!!

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      You should always feel that way about your wedding day and they do come in all shapes and sizes. Marrying someone you love and cherish..the wedding can be anywhere anytime and still be a joyful day..Great hub and voting up.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Oh thank you so much Bill. We really did have a beautiful day and still have to pinch myself to make sure that it was real, because it was like a fairy tale truly!!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      A beautiful wedding for a beautiful couple! I love happy endings! Peace and happiness to you and your family for many years to come my dear!