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Relationships & Marriages: Should He Control You?

Updated on April 11, 2022

Men In Relationships

A lot of men like to act like they're the ones owning you for good and they might express that by different methods and ways, one of these methods is exerting their control on you.

It can be disturbing to have your man controlling you sometimes because once he feels like he's really in your heart he might rapidly take advantage of that and start to do whatever he likes.

After gathering our thoughts about this, many questions arise, like; should he really control you? Would he like to be controlled himself? Should you allow him to feel like he is in control? Is there a certain extent to which you should allow a man control you?

Keep on reading because we are just beginning to dive into this!

Should He Control You?

I do believe that successful relationships don't - under any condition - practice this kind of treatment on any woman, because being successful simply means confidence too and confident men don't feel the need to control their women.

So if you ever feel like you're being controlled by your man then know that this relationship is just not going right!

I personally don't believe in gender equality because I see that justice matters more than equality.

Example: Put 2 - one tall and the other short - persons behind a tall wall, let's assume that the tall person is capable of seeing what's behind this wall if we let him stand on a chair but the short one would still not be able to even do so when he/she's standing on a chair with the same height.

Notice that both persons were equal when it comes to getting the same height of chair, now this is equality, but is it fair? Is it justice? No, it's not!

Relationships should be based upon justice more than equality, this is my point here.

Your man shouldn't be controlling you, both of you should be getting things straight from the beginning and don't be afraid to tell him " No " for what you don't believe about doing or attempting to do. After all, it's about being in a healthy relationship, not a toxic one.

Yes, I know that loving him may make you feel forced to do what he tells you to but accepting his orders - regularly - but this can make him get used to this and may let him go beyond that. Know when to say "No" and don't be afraid to set your own boundaries, because being in a controlling relationship is one big red flag.

Learn how to say " No". | Source

How Can You Stop Him?

Simply show your presence, your power - but don't over-react - and say no to the things that you don't want to do, try to have no fears from the results of saying " No " to him because our fears can make us weak sometimes.

Don't let him know about your weakness points and instead try to find out about his but don't use them against him, for sure because he's still your man and you love him.


Successful relationships should be based upon respect, honesty, justice, love & understanding and of course many other things but these are the major things.

Feel free to add your comments/tips concerning this.


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