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The Unwritten Girl Code
What is it ? Does it exist ? A real guide to how females are suppose to act in public, privately, and when they are around their friends ? Yes, this guide does exist that stands to speak on the wrongs and rights of what is expected of a female. It is still unwritten to this day even though there have been many interpretations of how a female shall represent themselves. All in all, the goal of this unwritten girl code is the principle that you are to never break a rule and that if you ever do that you may receive severe consequences in return. Many of the rules that are in the unwritten girl code are just principles that we have developed as we have started friendships with females and have grown up in a society that holds females to a certain regard of following the norms and values that have been set forth. Here in this article, I'll go through a few of these standards and values that we expect from friendships and relationships with friends and family. Some of these expectations are as followed:
1. Never Speak To A Guy Your Friend Likes
This rule is simple and easy. You are to never speak to a guy that your friend likes or is interested in. In your friend's eyes, if you were to go against this rule, then you wouldn't truly be her friend. In a way it is seen as respecting your friend and not breaking this rule that has been ingrained in our minds over the years.
2. Always agree with your friend
No matter what the situation is, you are to never go against your friend. Unless, you feel that they are clearly in the wrong and you want to suggest to them how they were by explaining the situation to them. Mostly, when your friend gets into it with another girl then clearly you are suppose to side with your friend everytime. However, when it comes to family, you don't necessarily blurt out that your friend was wrong, you explain to them how you view both sides and how you really feel about the situation.
3. Be Honest
When it comes to friendships, the best thing that you could do is be honest with your friend in the beginning. Try not to get big headed in thinking that you can get away with a lie because eventually that lie will catch back up to you. Over time, you will see yourself telling lie after lie until you have a web of lies. Rather sooner than later, you will find that you will mess up and say the wrong thing causing your friend to realize that you have been lying the whole time. In order to avoid hurting your friend's feelings more than what you already are, you should be honest with them, when they ask you a question or want your opinion on how you feel.
4. Give Advice
I say that you should give your friend advice because nine times out of ten they will ask how you feel about a situation. They will ask you what you would do if you were in the situation and how to handle it from there. As a friend, you are suppose to give advice that is sound and just,also, explaining how you feel and how you feel that your friend should have handled the situation.
5. Never Date,Talk to, Text, or Acknowledge your Friend's Ex
This rule is simple and quite easy to follow. However, this generation, doesn't seem to be following this rule. There seems to be this who cares attitude and I'll do what I want air that seems to be spreading from female to female. Im not saying all females have this mindset; I am saying however that not all females feel to uphold this rule to a high regard. It is usually broken in a time of stress, in the presence of alcohol, a traumatic event, or in the presence of drugs.
Here above are just a few values and examples of what would be apart of the unwritten in the girl code. There are possible hundreds and hundreds of things that you should not do when you have a friendship with a girl. The main point of the unwritten girl code is to give truth on what a real friend does and who a real friend is to you. On the other hand, not everybody will agree with what should be a part of the unwritten girl code, but there are a few rules or values that everyone will agree on.
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