There are men who have either emotional or physical affairs within the network of friends that the couple has and men who have either emotional and/or physical affairs with a woman the wife doesn't know. I sense there's a deep psychological difference in motivation between these two groups. I'm wondering if that psychological difference in the case of a man who cheats with a friend's wife or relative's wife, for that matter, has to do with his competition with the other man. The closer the couple is to the other couple the more risky and dangerous the behavior.
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a thorough analysis, Dashing. Thanks for your comment. I'm still not sure about the psychological part. If you're a guy, for example, you're not only hurting your wife, but you're betraying a guy friend (or male relative if that's the case). hmmm...
Danicole. Definitely..."you can vilify that nameless faceless person" (if you're a man, you can vilify the other husband or a woman can vilify the other wife. There's something deep about being able to betray a friend who you know is a good person.
KatyWhoWaited, Cheating by it's very nature is a selfish act. The cheater doesn't think about his/her spouse and likewise doesn't think about his/her best friend. They're only out to please themselves. Afterwards they say I never meant to hurt you
Dashingscorpio that's so true. I call BS to I never meant to hurt you line. Of course that will hurt someone, cheating hurts, especially if it was with a good friend. The cheater really meant to say "you were never supposed to find out." Smh