My wife has left me for the second time in a space of three months. We have had

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   EP5208posted 13 years ago

   My wife has left me for the second time in a space of three months. We have had unresolved...
   
   issues dating back from over 4 years ago. We both try to avoid confrontation therefore we avoided big fights and simply moved on. She has left again about a month ago stating that she didnt want to be married anymore it was too complicated. But we have told and she seems confused with what she wants. On hand she says she needs to find herself, rediscover her confidence, get in touch with God again, then maybe she will see how she feels about us, but no time frame has been put it could be 3 months it could be a year. She says she wont hold it against if i wish to date during this period. I am n

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   That is tough specially if you have children. Let her resolve her inner peace. She will go back to you once she realized things. Don't put your hopes high. Go on with your life and do the things that is right for you. I hope it gets better everyday for you, but right now I can feel for you.

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   lilibeesposted 13 years ago

   Yes go on with your life if you don't feel comfortable dating then don't but still go on, with friends, and other family members. Do the things that you usually do in your every day life. If it is meant to be it will be. However don't wait for ever wait however long that your comfortable with and if she has not made her mind up by when you see fit move on love.

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   kirutayeposted 13 years ago

   I really feel for you here. This has got to be a tough time for you.
   
   Hang in there and keep moving. Let her discover herself. In the meantime, live your life. Do the things that you enjoy, the things that keep you sane.
   I hope you have other close friends and family who can support you through this difficult time.
   
   But one thing i'd advise you not to do; Don't date yet. Any new relationship is only going to have the cloud of this one hanging over it. It will not be a good way to start a relationship. Moreover, give yourself time to come to terms with what's going on before you take the leap.
   
   Of course, eventually you will want to date others. By then hopefully your wife will have made her decision. If she hasn't, then simply do it if you feel you are ready for that step.
   
   In the meantime, i pray that you can find a place of inner peace and rediscover your joy.

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   nightwork4posted 13 years ago

   perhaps it's time for you to get on with your life and become whatever you want to be. waiting for someone who doesn't no what they want can be very trying to say the least . it's not your job to sit around waiting for someone while they get in touch with god or anything else. you only live once so make the best of it. good luck and i hope you find happiness.

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   Loving_Lifeposted 13 years ago

   My advice is to get on with your life! I think maybe whats shes doing is keeping you around if someone else doesnt work out....move on and show her that you will not be her yoyo....
   
   You deserve better....

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