getting rid of anger

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  1. nomsa4 profile image61
    nomsa4posted 8 years ago

    life`s complected at times, when ever you wish to do something right you end up in a wrong way, and when ever you wanna be happy you end up in a sour pit whereby you want to get out but you cant, i get that a lot, i mean i love my husband and kids but i always keep shouting at them i think i`ve got anger in me of which its making me to be jealousy now, i don't want to see my husband lo look at anyone but me, i just forget that hes also a human being and he should be free to do what so ever he wishes i need prayers

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      JenineMianaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I will pray for you honey. Anger is a symptom of feeling hurt inside and it is a defense from that hurt. It says, "I refuse to let you hurt me so I will be angry at you so I don't have to feel that hurt". It is best to express the hurt in a safe way and then give it to God for healing. As for forgiveness and to forgive your husband daily. Forgiveness does not mean we have to put up with wrong behavior. Yes we are all human but husbands and wives need to value each other and if we don't receive value from someone then our hearts feel slighted. Receive your value from God. He treasures you more than anyone ever could!

      1. nomsa4 profile image61
        nomsa4posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        thanks i really needed that

  2. Cagsil profile image80
    Cagsilposted 8 years ago

    You've got anger? Why?

    What is causing the anger? How did the anger become your tool of communication?

    How long have you been in this practice? When was the first time you noticed it? Or did someone else have to point it out to you?

    Your problem sounds like you don't understand yourself or your own life. Increased self awareness probably will help. A little less ego? Might help too.

    Just a thought. hmm

    1. nomsa4 profile image61
      nomsa4posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      well my husband pointed it out for me and later on i just realize that he is right about me having anger, i have anger inside me,  when i was young i got raped by my step father and at some time i got into an abusive relationship where by i dint have a say. and now that i`ve got a wonderful man who loves & cares for me i just take all my anger in him.

  3. schoolgirlforreal profile image79
    schoolgirlforrealposted 8 years ago

    Talking about anger usually helps, so it's good you are. that's a good start. Anger is an uncomfortable emotion to have.

  4. Pearldiver profile image76
    Pearldiverposted 8 years ago

    You've been here for 2 months.... could you not have written some really mean angry hubs??  sad

    [mean.. in this sense = really good!]

    Get rid of the 'Victim' mentality and you will be able to then avoid the chosen justification for not dealing with the issue and taking responsibility for the attitude you use to get your way by negatively influencing others with your 'anger!'   

    Write.... put your feelings into a different format... and don't deny it... deal with it!  sad

    Good Luck.

  5. AshtonFirefly profile image79
    AshtonFireflyposted 8 years ago

    I can really relate to you in this way. A lot of times, when we have suffered a terrible, painful past as you have, we take it out on the people we love the most. Perhaps you have allowed these events to go unhealed in your heart and indirectly affect the way you handle your relationships in your life.
    Have you ever received counseling for these painful events in your life or made any attempt to come to peace or terms with them? Just a thought...
    Attempting to stop being angry will probably be impossible until you identify and deal with the root--which from your posts seems to probably be, the terrible things that have happened to you.
    Just a thought. Praying for you and you're not alone in your struggle.

    1. nomsa4 profile image61
      nomsa4posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      tanx i  really needed to hear that, well i didn't get any canceling but i am doing something about it cause i am so tired of taking my anger to someone who didn't do anything but being nice to me all this time, tanx a lot for your comment on this issue


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