Why does my husband looking at naked pics online and porn hurt so bad?

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   auntymommaposted 10 years ago

   Why does my husband looking at naked pics online and porn hurt so bad?
   
   We have been together 13 years, he knows how bad it hurts and the way it makes me feel. Yetevery so oftern I still catch him or find naked pics on his phone. Why does be continue to hurt me like this?

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   Likely because you are insecure and feel this is not okay behavior. It really shouldn't hurt you unless there are other issues that accompany this. He is normal. I'd look at several things if I were you. First is he being taken care of sexually? Many people enjoy porn. Most men enjoy the naked female body. Why not find a middle ground? Watch it with him. Be involved in his wants and needs. Accept that him looking does not imply anything is wrong with you.
   Personally I see nothing wrong with this type of behavior, but if it really does mean so much to you, then you need to communicate with him about it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent answer!
      If this is all she has to worry about in her marriage she should consider herself LUCKY!

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   It's probably not about (you)!
   I suspect he was doing this BEFORE he met you and if you got divorced today and went away he'd still be doing it!
   The fact he attempts to hide it from you is his way of trying to be discreet about so it won't upset you.
   Some men love to see naked women and watching sex. Being married is not going to stop them from that. Newsflash most married men also masturbate! You're not going to convince them that it's a form of cheating. For these types of guys watching porn is a hobby.
   If you know in your heart that you haven't slacked up in the bedroom, the passion is still hot between you, he's takes care of business when it comes to the house and family responsibilities, and he's not abusive towards you, or out at the strip clubs nightly or cheating on you.....etc You probably have nothing to worry about.
   Before there was Internet porn some wives use to buy their husband subscriptions to Penthouse, Playboy, or Hustler Magazine. Needless to say it all comes down to you.
   You're entitled to have your own "deal breakers".
   If he continues to look at porn are you willing to file for divorce? If the answer is no then you need to focus your attention on the positives in your marriage. People don't change unless (they) want to.
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Stay or move on. The choice is up to us!

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