Why is it so hard to understand that forgiveness does not mean you will still be a part of my life?
I can forgive people, but I have no need, inclination, or want to keep them in my life. Do you feel the same? Do you believe with forgiveness automatic trust comes with it?
The rule, or at least the one that has worked best for me, is forgive, but don't forget. Forgiveness does not require masochism.
I absolutely agree with you! Forgiveness does not equal forgetfulness or automatic second chances.
Forgiveness is a gift a person gives to them self. It's a decisiion to no longer dwell on something negative and mentally move on. As you stated it does not mean you have to continue a relationship with the person who hurt or betrayed you.
I do agree with you. i have been in the position of having to forgime someone that I did not want back in my life. She didn't understand that concept. She couldn't understand that I needed to forgive her for my own sanity, and that, for my own sanity, I really couldn't continue to keep her around in my life.
With some people and under some circumstances, forgiveness does mean a rekindling of trust. But there are times, and people, that forgiveness will not fix the trust issues. Even time won't fix the trust issues. Those are the times you have to forgive to save your own soul and peace of mind, and still feel theneed to let hem go.
I totally agree with you. It's like saying, we are related; I love you but I don't like you as a person. It's true. And forgiveness is a real problem with me. I do not forgive well. I'm a real bitch when it comes to vendetta. But I'm toning it down for the holidays, promise.
I think there is no "automatic" anything that comes with anything unless you allow it. There is no written rule or law that tells you how to be human, unless you believe in Moses. But that's another subject.
Personally, I have always had my doubts about the burning bush so I say do what you want and don't worry about anyone else. It's your life. If they can't handle your truth, your opinion, your way of thinking, it is not your issue, it's theirs, so why waste time thinking about it? You're wasting writing energy you could be using for your next great hub!
by threekeys 2 years ago
Does forgiving mean you are then friendly towards that person or situation
by Debra Allen 22 months ago
The Bible says that all one has to do is ask for forgiveness. Now being that, do you think that Satan might have already asked God for forgiveness? Now before you rattle off scripture.....I don't believe...but I could be wrong....that the Bible has nothing to say on that.
by Rishad I Habib 2 years ago
Can you forgive a man who has raped you?Emotion is impermanent just like everything else in this world. Nothing lives forever. Just like happiness - anger & hatred may not last forever as well...I believe it wont be easy to forgive a rapist but would it matter after 30 - 40 years of the...
by JP Carlos 5 years ago
Where do you draw strength to forgive someone who did something wrong to you?
by LoliHey 2 years ago
How will you know when you've finally forgiven someone?Is it possible to forgive someone but still hate him or her?
by Lori Dudley 2 years ago
Why is it so hard to forgive?Out of all of the qualities of a person, the hardest thing to do seems to be to forgive. A person may have said or done something to us that seems so unforgivable and we choose to keep this view even though it eats us alive from the inside out. Why is that? How can we...
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