If someone treats you like...

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  1. paradigmsearch profile image61
    paradigmsearchposted 10 years ago

    I just felt like posting this. I'm mainly thinking real-world, though it's equally applicable to online. Happy to say that I haven't seen too much of that in the forums lately, though that might be because I'm avoiding the R&P's again. At any rate, Happy Wednesday!

    1. Simone Smith profile image90
      Simone Smithposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      A nice thought, paradigmsearch! People who treat other people poorly often just need some help and respect themselves. It's amazing how big a difference a couple kind words can make- even when they're delivered to someone in a really bad mood.

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image57
      prettydarkhorseposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You are right Para smile smile smile

    3. brakel2 profile image77
      brakel2posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      This great post makes my day. I don't know what is happening these days. We sure do need a lot of love and respect for others. Maybe the political and economic scene are scaring people. Someone wrote a hub about facing our fears. We can be strong and gentle and loving all at the same time.

  2. Nicole Winter profile image60
    Nicole Winterposted 10 years ago

    That's awesome, paradigmsearch, thanks for posting it!

    --- Nicole A. Winter

  3. jcales profile image55
    jcalesposted 10 years ago

    That is a sign of maturing by not getting angry towards someone who does the wrong thing to you for no reason, as they have their own issues triggering their bad behavior. Good post. you may be helping people not retaliate (avoid jail) and do something they regret.

  4. Nicole Winter profile image60
    Nicole Winterposted 10 years ago

    I finally figured out the Florence + The Machine song (that I dearly love,) is called Dog Days are Over, so I totally went to eMusic and downloaded it.  (Don't worry, guys, I paid for it smile

    I've listened to it like 80 times since I got it a couple of days ago... *laugh*

    There's this great line...

    I just had to share this, I forgot to add it earlier:  "Can't carry love with you if you want to survive" ...

    Except when I was hearing it, I thought they were saying: "Can't carry it with you, if you want to survive."

    And I was thinking about all that anger that we *can* harbor towards someone who has been a jerk, (or worse,) to us.  Just let it go.

    That's Nicole's lesson today for hearing what you wanna hear smile

  5. ologsinquito profile image80
    ologsinquitoposted 10 years ago

    You are absolutely right. Normal, healthy, happy people want to do good toward others.

  6. bizarrett81 profile image70
    bizarrett81posted 10 years ago

    Such a true statement

  7. profile image0
    Beth37posted 10 years ago

    Very true.

  8. Cantuhearmescream profile image78
    Cantuhearmescreamposted 10 years ago

    I give my children two things every morning; a pop-tart and your speech, okay I'm lying... I don't give them a pop-tart.

  9. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image87
    Marcy Goodfleischposted 10 years ago

    +1,000 on the very noticeable and appreciated atmosphere in the forums.  When I first signed on here, newcomers were sometimes treated very harshly.  Things started changing a bit in the summer, and have continued to soften. It's great to see a more welcoming environment and the supportiveness that's evolved over the months.

  10. profile image53
    crossing guardposted 10 years ago

    I wish you were right.  However "human beings" are the most aggressive and most dangerous species inhabiting earth.  Hence the need for mythology.

  11. ytsenoh profile image80
    ytsenohposted 10 years ago

    Nice phrase.  Some need this glued to their refrigerator or car dashboard.  It's that kindergarten lesson from your mom, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything," although I suspect some parents said the same adage, but ended it instead with "...just keep your mouth shut!"  Have a great week all.

  12. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 10 years ago

    IMHO, one should also consider whether one has done something like treat the other person like shit first.

    1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image87
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I see your point, but another perspective is that 'normal' people probably don't try to destroy someone who has harmed them in that manner.  They might try to get even or somehow address it, but destroying is stronger retaliation than that.  There truly are evil people in the world, sadly, and there are many true stories of those who have deliberately set out to destroy others.

  13. Hollie Thomas profile image61
    Hollie Thomasposted 10 years ago

    I tend to treat people the way that they have treated me. Sometimes, a nasty person who meets a mirror vision of themselves can be a wake up call.

  14. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 10 years ago

    There are also people who take the smallest unintentional slight and assume it is malicious.

    We need to protect ourselves emotionally from sadists, but also ensure we are being honest with ourselves.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image57
      prettydarkhorseposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      There are people who thrive on being mean smile

      1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image87
        Marcy Goodfleischposted 10 years agoin reply to this

        You are so right, PDH.

      2. Hollie Thomas profile image61
        Hollie Thomasposted 10 years agoin reply to this

        Indeed there are. However, they usually target people that they feel are weaker than they are. So, someone who is normally pleasant to people, could be perceived as soft, or weak. But that is often not the case. And when someone who is normally pleasant suddenly treats a mean person the way in which they treat others, it can be alarming from for them.

      3. prettydarkhorse profile image57
        prettydarkhorseposted 10 years agoin reply to this


  15. Angela Blair profile image68
    Angela Blairposted 10 years ago

    I found out years ago that people that anger you or make you so mad you retaliate -- are basically running and in charge of your life. Now, being the old warhorse that I am -- ain't nobody gonna herd me around so gave up a lot of "quick anger" and began to think things out more logically. Does it always work? Of course not but it helps. I have one prayer I say each morning: "Dear Lord, please, on this day, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my big mouth!"

    1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image87
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Just another of the many reasons I love you!  Can I borrow your prayer?  I may need to get my boot out of my month before God can get to it, but at least it's a start!

  16. Hollie Thomas profile image61
    Hollie Thomasposted 10 years ago

    I'm not religious, but I so wish that someone would put their hand across my big mouth everyday! smile

  17. timorous profile image82
    timorousposted 10 years ago

    I can't understand how some people get so worked up about nothing. I'm convinced that their diet consists of junk food & snacks, resulting in a lack of nourishment, thus a chemical imbalance in their brain. This causes them to act/react irrationally. It also has a lot to do with their ego. If their ego is challenged, it takes up a defensive stance..more irrationality.

    It's always better to just let things be, as I wrote in my hub about why things bother some people. This is how I go about my day, with rarely an unkind word or thought. It's much less stressful, I must say. Cheers smile

  18. profile image0
    Jane Holmesposted 10 years ago

    I do think we all run into this! The world is a tough place today. I think people dwell on their own problems and forget that we all have them. We need to remember to treat people with dignity and respect at all times; always remembering how we would prefer to be treated.


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