Will he ever give me a 2nd chance????

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   2independentposted 14 years ago

   Will he ever give me a 2nd chance????
   
   I was seeing a guy very seriously who had been single for many years...(18) and we were talking marriage, etc and I got nervous and just broke it off.NOW, I'm beating myself up for itI thought I was doing what was right by my kids, but didn't realize that they wanted him in our family as much as I did.  Now, he's seeing someone else, who, from the outside at least, appears to have a lot in common with him.  I've left him a couple of 'missing you' voice mails&text messages and most recently sent the 'dear john' letter telling him that I want him to be happy but if anything should happen

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   HubChiefposted 14 years ago

   depends,
   
   there is no chance if anyone or all of the followng apply
   if you hurt his ego,
   if you are elder to him
   if he is alltime bahelor and you were his nth affair
   if there was not close connection that you guys ever talked
   
   I would say this, the love is a thread that we should not break, and if we do, it would always have a knot in. So I would say move on. Do not stall. There are far more like him in this world than you would think
   
   On side note, if you still believe that you guys have it, then face him at least ones and try your most honest way. "You lost the battle if you never tried"
   
   make your choice that is best for you and keep marching.
   
   Good luck !

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   Illuminatiiposted 14 years ago

   This is a warning from someone who has experienced this first hand.  DO NOT homewreck.  You let him go for whatever reason and now he is with someone else.  Do not punish this other woman for her happiness with him.  I know it sounds harsh, but it is true.  There are lots of men in the world.  The more you think about the one you can't have, the more your eyes close to new possibilities.

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   Charmed Lifeposted 14 years ago

   Too little too late. A man that has been single for 18 years
   Saw you as lifetime marriage material. This is a man that was on the look out for someone to love support share his life with and the fact that you have children he accepted as part of the package big plus from his camp.
   When you used pretzel logic (twisted) and cut him loose that was the end for your happy ever after with this man.
   You say he is now seeing someone else and they appear to have a lot in common.Leave it alone. He took you seriously and moved on. Make it easy on you and your kid's and do the same.
   If he was going to give you a second chance he would have returned your voice mail, text whatever. Sorry to sound harsh but you did what you did because you thought you were right.
   You need to accept that and move on, someone else is out there.

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   huck tooeyposted 14 years ago

   Leave the guy alone ....you had your chance...if he`s interested you`ll hear from him ...other wise move on.....find someone else to screw over

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   Suck Upposted 14 years ago

   Got nervous and broke up with him...REALLY???  I say no way should he take you back if you are that undecided...You were talking marriage and you bolted before speaking to your kids about that to me says you were not that interested in him in the first place and that it was just comfortable at that moment.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   From my experience, you're initial choice was probably the right one.  It didn't feel right so you broke it off.  You wouldn't have felt 'scared' if it had felt right. It's normal to have some mixed feelings about breakups especially when you were in a serious relationship, and suddenly they're gone.  Not only that, they're already with someone else.  But I would trust your first decision because even if he does decide he wants to get back together, you'd probably soon learn that your first decision was the right one, even if there was many wonderful things about him.

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