Why do many women find it a threat to be a submissive wife?

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  1. Kebennett1 profile image58
    Kebennett1posted 14 years ago

    Why do many women find it a threat to be a submissive wife?

    Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19

  2. HelloStranger profile image59
    HelloStrangerposted 14 years ago

    Because men will walk all over you if you are too submissive. If you say yes to everything they say, and your just this complete robot to make him happy, he's not going to respect you. It doesn't mean that you have to say no to everything and always argue, but it means that women have a mind of their own and some of us aren't afraid to use it.

    1. Levertis Steele profile image78
      Levertis Steeleposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree! My husband's friend did not ask a woman out on a second date because "She had no mind of her own and lacked stamina. She was a 'yes' woman." Men do not all want the same traits in a woman. I am a leader, and my husband appreciates it.

  3. landthatilove profile image60
    landthatiloveposted 14 years ago

    I don't find it a threat. I find it inconvenient especially when I need to make a decision and he is not there to guide me along. Come on why waste your brain and dignity by handing it over and trusting it to someone else?

    Besides, look around at how few good men there really are. If you find one who demands that you submit to him then you better get running because that is just sick

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Hey Keb! Well I've been blessed with a very independent wife. She keeps me running! She knows where shes going and exactly how to get there. Now I do talk big but I grovel better. If were refering to sex she does induldge me if I behave. The key word to the scripture you quoted is missing, It's 'righteous'. If a man is righteous then a woman will never have to worry being treated correctly.

  5. Moonchild60 profile image75
    Moonchild60posted 14 years ago

    Submissive in what way?   I was a submissive partner for a while and I didn't mind.  But then it was more a sexual thing than anything else.  I was turned on by the ability to totally let go and allow someone else to take the reins.  He never told me how to live my life or what i could or could not do,  There were just certain rules of submission that turned me on, so I didn't mind.  I think the extent of the submission expected is an issue also.  I never felt threatened by the submission.  Remember in being submissive I was giving him the power,  Without me to give him that power, he didn't have any, so to a certain extent I had control too.

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    reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

    Because you dont exist after you give up who you are just so that someone else can feel important or be "in charge".  Who wwouldn't find it to be a threat, unless you weren't a threat to begin with.  You totally are subjecting yourself to every and anything.  Omg this is unreal what does the lord have to do with this.  Are you using scripture to make yourself believe this .  Logic and mature behavior, period!

    1. Levertis Steele profile image78
      Levertis Steeleposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That scrpture says to obey when it is right in the Lord. That does not mean obey anything a man says. It must be right. A decent man wouldn't stop a woman from using her mind sensibly? "Submissiveness" does not mean "slavery.

  7. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

    Because it's a theat to their own identity.

  8. ddsurfsca profile image71
    ddsurfscaposted 13 years ago

    why are so many people worried about wives being submissive, and I cannot find one person who is concerned or even wondering about if the husbands are loving and not harsh?  Why would this be?  Perhaps because it is men who are doing the questioning about submissive wives....Let me ask everyone this....does  a wife have to be submissive to a husband who is not loving and is  harsh or worse than harsh with them??
    I believe both must hold up their own ends of the agreement or like a contract, it is void.

  9. appam profile image60
    appamposted 13 years ago

    As long as the husbands are fully understanding, there is nothing wrong in the wives being submissive.It adds lot of pleasure to life.But once the husband takes this as a weakness in wife the thing will take a different shape which is altogether unworthy.

  10. pageantgirl31413 profile image77
    pageantgirl31413posted 13 years ago

    There is a difference in being submissive and your husband caring about your view points and being submissive and he could care less. My husband shows me respect, therefore, I can be considered a submissive wife. He has the last say. I am a stay at home mom and my schedule revolves around him. He listens to everything I have to say and makes his decisions on what is best for the family. There are men that are not like that. They could care less about their wives and all the do is expect more from them. That is when I think the wives should not be submissive.

  11. mercurialmaven profile image60
    mercurialmavenposted 12 years ago

    I think this has to do with social conditioning more than anything else. I honestly don't think most men are bad guys. I think we all have our flaws BUT for some reason here lately, it's almost as if the flaws of men are the only ones making the news/media/hollywood movies. Very rarely are women shown as being controlling or nagging and it's NOT seen as something "humorous."

    I can guarantee you that any man living with this kind of woman is not happy at all and there's nothing funny about it.

    Currently, the trend is for women to be selfish and narcissistic. What about me? What about my needs and my wants? What about my this or my that? So when it comes to submission our first thought is "but how will that effect me?!" and not "What could this possibly do for OUR household and OUR relationship."

    I've been in 50/50 relationships and they're tiring, delegation and submission have allowed me to embrace those things I care deeply for, pay attention to my home, take care of my fiancee (who in turn takes care of me) and have the kind of life so many of my girlfriends "can't imagine." but then the moment THEY Have it, they're talking to me like it's something brand new. LOL!

    Now I will never say he is perfect, no one is perfect, but he tries and when I try, he tries harder. It really is an amazing thing.

  12. Levertis Steele profile image78
    Levertis Steeleposted 11 years ago

    Some women find it a threat to be a submissive wives because all husbands are not fair, good, kind, loving, supportive . . . . Who would not want to submit to a good man? That is so wonderful! Some women must take the wheel because their husbands are leading them on roads to no return. Consider the man who wants his wife to help him run a crooked business. Consider the man who is unreasonably jealous and physically abusive. Consider the man who has had a mistress for most of his marriage. It is easy to be a submissive wife in a "marriage made in heaven." It is easy to be submissive to a not-so-perect-man who is doing his best. The good woman would gladly support him, be there for him.

    ". . . as is fitting in the Lord" means "Use common sense and submit to husband if it is right," "Love your wives and do not be harsh." Some men do not love their wives, and some are very harsh. So, women standing on the outside and telling others to be submissive need to trade places and get a first-hand education on the matter. All kinds of situations occur in many marriages. How do you tell a woman to submit to a husband who keeps her crying because he won't stop seeing his boyfriend that she just found out about? She is worried about contracting a VD! She is embarrassed that her family and friends will learn that a man stole her man. That kicks a woman's ego to the curb. This is reality. It is happening every day!

    Some women think that they know everything about men and are always acting as if they, only, know about submission. Usually these are the main ones who are in the dark about their husbands' infidelities. Truth is truth! We do not have all of these divorces, killing husbands and wives, remarriages, etc because it is fashionable.

    While there are some great husbands and wives out there, there are some husband and wife monsters, too.

    I am glad that you asked this question because too many "perfect" people ignore the truth and focus on fantasies. Because of the high number of infidelities on the husbands' parts, women are becoming more corrupt, as well. So, men are losing the respect of their women, and pretend that this is not happening. These behaviors kill any chance of submission. Marriages have far too greater problems than submissiveness. The problems must be solved first. In the meantime, the good marriages will enjoy what others have lost track of.

  13. Kebennett1 profile image58
    Kebennett1posted 11 years ago

    After reading all of the answers to my question I feel it is time to chime in! The first part of the scripture says "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." Which I believe certainly means that the Lord does have some room for wives to use their brains to decide if submission is right in every circumstance. If your spouse wants you to do something that is wrong, sinful, hurtful to yourself, or others etc...( And they shouldn't IF they are Christians) then of coarse you should not do it. Submission also does not mean that we can not use our brains to make most daily simple decisions, but when it comes to major decisions like vacation planning, a major purchase, other major decisions, etc.... A discussion should ensue and the husband who is head of the household should have the final word. The second part of the scripture says "Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them." This balances out the entire scripture. The husband IS to be a good and thoughtful husband, so there shouldn't be any reason why the wife should feel uneasy about letting him make the final decision when it comes to major things. Submission does not mean "walked on", it means giving our husbands respect as the head of our households. This respect should be deserved if they are following their part of the scripture. If the wife and husband are Christians then this Question was primarily directed at you! If one is and one isn't then you are unevenly yoked which God's Word warns us about and this is a good reason why!


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