I am looking for people to help me cope with a cheating husband

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   cappie10posted 14 years ago

   I am looking for people to help me cope with a cheating husband
   
   I am having a hard time putting this to rest.  We are working it out, but this has happened so many many times, I don't know how to get over it this time.

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   sbrown1703posted 14 years ago

   I Never Been Married, but I have been cheated on from a 4 yr relationship, I found out that he was going out with me and another female the same amount of time that we was together or even more, i was in love and forgave him to find out this time it wasn't the same female it was a different one. It was hard but I moved on with my life.Its other men out there believe me thats probably in love with you and is dying to be with you. As females I believe that we are always being the stupid ones and not letting go but the men on other hand will move on so quick after breaking up with us from a 5 yr relationship. I say leave him if this has happened over and over again, there are to many std's out there and its not worth your life over 1 man.

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   svencillposted 14 years ago

   I had a similar experience. Do you have children together? The reason I ask is that after he cheated on me several times I finally left. But still today I wonder if maybe I should have tried to work through it. We have three children and I see what it is doing to them. Also I believe he did love me and that there were other things driving him to cheat because he still says all the time that he wished we could get back together. I think that it is cruel to ask someone to stay with someone who is hurting them IF they don't love them. But if you do love this man, I would think long and hard about leaving him, especially if you have children. I know that advice is crazy because most people would immediately tell you to leave him but they don't know the whole story. And believe me it will be hard to make either decision and stick with it. I have been there. And I empathize with you completely and I want to wish you luck.

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   pacharkeyposted 14 years ago

   I can tell you from my own experience with this that nobody can tell you what to do - as the answer is already inside YOU.  You know your husband, your children and yourself.  It's time to listen to that voice inside your head that knows right from wrong. There are so many reasons that a man or woman cheats, but one thing is for certain when they do.  Something is missing in their lives - and it's possible it has nothing to do with you. I never thought I would find anyone again, or that I would be ok without my husband and family in tact. I was wrong. I divorced my husband and made that time about "me".  You don't owe your life to your children.  As long as you love them and are honest with them - they will respect your decisions. If, deep in your core, you can't accept who he is and what he is - without complaint, then it's time to move on. This is also a matter of self-respect and what YOU think YOU deserve. If this has happened "many, many times" what makes you think you have to accept this? Do you really think he will change? And why do you think you have to get over it? Be strong, muster up some self respect - and take care of you and your kids. What the heck would you be missing without him?

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