How much should you tell your spouse when discussing a mutual friend you once had feelings for?
Here's the situation: I got an email from a mutual friend of ours (My spouse and me) wanting to catch up and also asking for some advice. Our friend forgot my spouse's name (it was an online friendship) but I have to forward my spouse the email because the advice she asks for is something that my spouse can answer far better than I can. The kicker is, I once had feelings for our friend, and I found out recently that our friend also may have had feelings for me and may still have those feelings. How much should I tell my spouse when dealing with the situation?
I wouldn't tell your spouse anything about the feelings and if you still think there are underlying sparks that could be ignited you should rethink connecting with this person. It could have adverse effects on your relationship.
You should not tell them any of it...BUT you should also not pursue anything, flirt etc with the other person!
if you are smart, don't breath a word about your feelings for this friend to anybody, let alone your husband. your husband is the last person who should get to know this. besides, he doesn't deserve to get this bad news that will trouble him for days.
if possible, don't ignite friendship with this 'friend' of yours as it may lead to more trouble in future.
once the two people met and you not virgins and the two of you know that and you two are clean , there no point in bring up who and why you had a relationship with that person. just make sure it in the pass and move on with you new married spouse. you and your spouse are one so you know dam well that telling her anything about who you screw will hurt her her so why tell her and why would you do that
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