why a man or say a young girl should become a lover of a woman of greater age by

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   samitzzzposted 14 years ago

   why a man or say a young girl should become a lover of a woman of greater age by many a years
   ?
   
   it is seen many a times that one of the two partners is of significantly lower age i.e. there is a long age gap between them. is it love or any sort of thing like infatuation or illusion.

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   Debarshi Duttaposted 14 years ago

   To become and remain the lover of another, who is older by several is a choice for the younger partner and an opportunity for the older partner..
   
   Or it could be pure literature and poetry..like 'Lolita' - by Nabokov.
   But 'Lolita is valid only for Nabokov..and none else..
   
   Nothing binds them for long other than free, unconditioned assent and consent from both parties involved..
   
   otherwise it is probably unhealthy and the incentives are of either the monetary or sexual nature..
   
   No one says one should. have a younger lover.In fact it rather should be the exception and not the norm..
   
   To begin with, such a relationship is a very strong illusory intoxicant and infatuation for the younger partner who is easily impressed and is suggestible to ideas and emotions..for the old one it depends..and is usually corruption.

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   Eli-Ane Phillips-posted 14 years ago

   I have to somewhat disagree.  When I was 21 I dated men 20 years my senior and it was not for money or sex.  At the age of 21, I had a new car, clothes, etc.  I did not want to date someone with less for fear of being used.  I dated men I felt were my peers economically and socially.  When you have what is necessary in life to be successful, you are not going to be influenced or infatuated with what someone else have.  I do not believe love discriminates, people discriminate.

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   Ohmaposted 14 years ago

   My husband of 30+ years is 18 years my senior. I love him. We have 2 wonderful kids and 9 grandchildren. we are happy because we love each other.
   Who you love is not a matter of choice. It is a matter of the heart. Anyone that contemplates and disects the pros and cons of entering into a relationship is simply put NOT IN LOVE.

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