Can an old man (60+) fall in love with a young woman (20+)?

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   pinappuposted 11 years ago

   Can an old man (60+) fall in love with a young woman (20+)?
   
   We all know that love ignores all barriers like: religion, race, distance and age. But is it really possible for a man of 65-70 years of age to fall in love with a young girl of 20-25 years of age. I mean, is it psychologically possible?
   
   

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      TheShadowSpecterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Anything is possible when the heart is involved.  The heart does what it wants rather than what society expects it to do.

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 11 years ago

   Of course it's possible.  People's bodies may grow old, but for many, their minds remain young!  While this is not the smartest thing for an old person to do, it does happen.  Sometimes the relationships even succeed.

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      Matthew Weeseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Perfect excuse for a pedophile. I think it is disgusting.

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         TheShadowSpecterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

         Pedophilia has nothing to do with it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew, As far as I know anyone over the age of 18 is considered an adult. A pedophile is someone who engages in sexual acts with a minor. There are not many 18 year olds who would consider themself as being a child. I know I didn't.

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         TheShadowSpecterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

         Actually, the definition of pedophilia appears in Fifth Edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), but you're on the right pathway.

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      Matthew Weeseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm stating it is not love. and I understand what a pedophile is, and I'm not saying that 70 on 25 is pedophilia, I'm stating that it is not love, age is more than just a number, with that big of a generation gap it is more of a perverted lust.

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         Olealeaposted 23 months agoin reply to this

         No.  People can fall in love with anyone regardless of age.  Lust can happen too regardless of age. Each case is unique.  You can  not say that every relationship that has a big gap is purely lust.  Many times,  it's love.  Love is an attraction between the same and similar energy

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            TheShadowSpecterposted 23 months agoin reply to this

            Agreed.

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               luvlywackyposted 23 months agoin reply to this

               yes I agree it can be fall in love to a young woman

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      TIMETRAVELER2posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew:  How could you possibly know whether it is love or not unless you are one of the people involved?

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Mathew- don't talk crap

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         Olealeaposted 23 months agoin reply to this

         I agree

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   Matthew Weeseposted 11 years ago

   No!!! A 65-70 year old man is not acting out of love when they claim to have fallen in love with a 20-25 year old woman, he is acting out of lust for the youthful figure, a woman who or girl who claims to have fallen in love with a senior citizen is acting out of emotional, physical, mental, financial insecurity's. That is like asking if it is normal for a forty five year old man to fall in love with a fourteen year old girl, the answer is "No", to fall in love there must be concrete common grounds between two people, with that big of a age/life difference there is no common ground. (Just my opinion.)

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      pinappuposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew I think it varies from case to case.

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      Matthew Weeseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Not in my personal opinion.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Mathew I think thats a very nieve viewpoint,in fact extremely ageist. A 30 year old man or woman can act out of lust there is no age boundary  for lustful interest. a25 yold woman can fall for aman of 60+ for lust and  financial/ emotional/m security

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Given a set of any given circumstances I believe it's possible for anyone to fall in love with someone who is kind, loving, and emotionally/physically generious towards them. Mentally the older person may know they don't stand a chance in hell of having many years together but living in "the now" he may be experiencing a joy in his heart he has never known before. Both the old man and the young man (want the same things.) It is our society that insists on saying one is "dirty" based upon his age. It's important to keep in mind (the woman) makes a choice with regard to who becomes her friend, lover, and spouse. Life is a personal journey and each of us has to run our own race. As long as both people are happy with their choices that is all that matters!

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      pinappuposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      " As long as both people are happy with their choices that is all that matters!" - You rock- true US spirit.

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   calynbanaposted 11 years ago

   No because the concept of falling in love is flawed. You don't "fall" in love. You grow to love somebody gradually, the fall is the infatuation stage. Is it possible for an old man to be infatuated with a young girl? Yes. To grow to love? Yes. Why wouldn't it be possible?

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      pinappuposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So, what is the answer yes or no?

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   Li Galoposted 11 years ago

   Every situation is unique.  The case of a much older person falling in love or growing in love with a person young enough to be their child or grandchild is possible and does sometimes work.  But it's not the wisest choice on the older person's part because they should know the situation will cause undue hardship for both of them.

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      pinappuposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It will not be such hard if the old fellow is a multi - millionaire, eh ?

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   cebutouristspotposted 11 years ago

   Yes. I believe so.  Specially if she is the one taking are of him But can it be mutual I doubt it.

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   greenchaposted 11 years ago

   I dont see why not. I suppose  the probs  could occur ,or will occur if she don't love him,but thats a prob anyway no matter what the age  difference is.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      and course  it works the other way round  a  young woman of 20+ can fall in love with a man of 60+ and a woman of 60+ can fall in love with a man of 20+. However  this question certainly has ageist conatations the way its been put-re- 'old man 60+!'

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   kikibruceposted 11 years ago

   It can happen, but it is sketchy. What is the quid pro quo? If he has money and she is trophy material the answer is obvious. Then again, sometimes people just fall in love.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      here here.....

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    TNT Huskyposted 11 years ago

    As morally questionable as some may find it, It's possible. And, as much as many want to detest it, It's possible for the relationship to last quite a while (at least for the older one's life, or what remains.) Some find it sickening, others, insane. From a more personal standpoint, What may keep them together is none of my concern

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    Justsilvieposted 11 years ago

    Falling in love has nothing to do with age, so yes it is psychologically possible. However being happy in a May - December relationship may be not be so easy. A 20 something is just starting life someone heading towards their 70's has pretty much lived a large part of theirs. Can see pluses and negatives on both sides of this type of relationship but would see it more as a love affair than a long-term relationship.

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    Lor's Storiesposted 11 years ago

    Sixty is not old,
    I'm 53 is that old?
    Most people who are sixty are very active in all ways.
    I just wanted to tell you 60 isn't old!!

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       greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Your so right Lor's Stories. Ageist narrow minded questions like this shouldn't be allowed  on this site or any other.

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Agreed.

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    Kevin Peterposted 10 years ago

    Why not? Loving a person has got no connection with age. It's something that comes from the depth of the heart.

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    LensMan999posted 10 years ago

    I don't think that the age mentioned in the question is too old for a man to get in love with a young girl. If a girl of this age loves a man of this age, there is nothing wrong in it. Though age seems to be a great problem for some people I am against such a thought.

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    vuthithao89posted 7 years ago

    im in the same situation, im considering, he is 73, and im 28, but we are really fall in love, we remember to each other every moment, feeling need in our life. but im just think about its difficult to giving birth and people around will think that i come to him coz of his money

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    mtkomoriposted 6 years ago

    Yes, it`s entirely possible, although I don`t personally know of any couple with that much of an age gap.
    
    As you say, love ignores all barriers.  For the older person, however, it may be difficult to keep up with the physical energy of the younger partner, and if they started a relationship, whether or not it will succeed in the long term is an entirely different story!

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       He's got to stay in shape.

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    Fiorenzo Arcadiposted 6 years ago

    At that age a young women provides nothing of value to an old man. I've always said that at the end of the day, on a legal issue, I think a wise old woman and a wise old man are going to reach the same conclusion.

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       Olealeaposted 23 months agoin reply to this

       No.  You don't know the true value of love. An old woman has so value that you can't see,  old man

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    luvlywackyposted 6 years ago

    yes of course it can be.  An old man falling in love to a young woman because when it comes to love there is no age limit as long as they love each other.

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    edhanposted 5 years ago

    When comes to love, it does not matter for age. For older man to love younger woman, it is likely to be for companionship. As long as one is happy, whether old or young, it does not really matter.

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    emgeposted 2 years ago

    This is a very old discussion but remains topical. The ancient books of Hindus have touched on it. It is realistic for an oldish man to love a younger girl and is highly recommended for longevity and rejuvenation in life.  But I wonder how one draws the line between lusting and love.

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    Brenda Arledgeposted 23 months ago

    I don't think that's considered love.   It is probably just lust.
    
    She makes him feel young again.  Which from his viewpoint is love.

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 23 months agoin reply to this

       Brenda?  I think that, at the end of the day, the heart does what it wants rather than what society expects.  I've known of a lot of same-age relationships and marriages that have ended in disaster, whereas quite a few age-gap relationships and marriages have prospered.

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          Brenda Arledgeposted 23 months agoin reply to this

          There are wonderful relationships that last and stand the test of time between those of different age groups, but this age difference is way too big of a gap...20  to 60 is 40 years.
          Go ahead...try to convince yourself that it's just the heart...but watch that money in your billfold.

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             TheShadowSpecterposted 23 months agoin reply to this

             Oh, I realize that there are gold diggers everywhere.  However, there is really no one-size-fits-all formula for this.  I find it puzzling how we Americans seem to have more of an issue with this than other cultures.  Take the Western Europeans as an example.  They don't seem to have much of a problem with a 40-year age gap, with the exception of England, of course.

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    Vladimir Karasposted 23 months ago

    I think it's absolutely possible, albeit very individual, nothing to generalize here. Some women get attracted to the "element of maturity, wisdom, experience" of older men. Some others are spiritually attracted to each other. Others may have different "normal" reasons. From the perspective of man, of course, if the dude is still sexually active, he will enjoy having a younger partner, but again, the reasons may go beyond that physical attraction, meaning a true love. When it's about love, we can never judge by our own tastes.

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       Brenda Arledgeposted 23 months agoin reply to this

       Interesting way of explaining it.  The element of maturity is one thing...being sexually active is another.

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    PurvisBobbi44posted 23 months ago

    It is possible, however, what do they have in common? She is young and maybe wants children. I don't believe a man that old can comply with children. I would have to say it is probably lust. If it is lust, they will know in a short time.
    
    Just a country girl's opinion.
    Bobbi Purvis

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 23 months agoin reply to this

       Donald Trump was in his sixties when his youngest child, Barron, was born.

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       Brenda Arledgeposted 23 months agoin reply to this

       Guess you & I are from the old school.
       I'm fine with that.  Too many years between this one to be matters of the heart.

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