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Can an old man (60+) fall in love with a young woman (20+)?

  1. pinappu profile image81
    pinappuposted 5 years ago

    Can an old man (60+) fall in love with a young woman (20+)?

    We all know that love ignores all barriers like: religion, race, distance and age. But is it really possible for a man of 65-70 years of age to fall in love with a young girl of 20-25 years of age. I mean, is it psychologically possible?

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  2. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image98
    TIMETRAVELER2posted 5 years ago

    Of course it's possible.  People's bodies may grow old, but for many, their minds remain young!  While this is not the smartest thing for an old person to do, it does happen.  Sometimes the relationships even succeed.

    1. Matthew Weese profile image70
      Matthew Weeseposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Perfect excuse for a pedophile. I think it is disgusting.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew, As far as I know anyone over the age of 18 is considered an adult. A pedophile is someone who engages in sexual acts with a minor. There are not many 18 year olds who would consider themself as being a child. I know I didn't.

    3. Matthew Weese profile image70
      Matthew Weeseposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'm stating it is not love. and I understand what a pedophile is, and I'm not saying that 70 on 25 is pedophilia, I'm stating that it is not love, age is more than just a number, with that big of a generation gap it is more of a perverted lust.

    4. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image98
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew:  How could you possibly know whether it is love or not unless you are one of the people involved?

    5. greencha profile image70
      greenchaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Mathew- don't talk crap

  3. Matthew Weese profile image70
    Matthew Weeseposted 5 years ago

    No!!! A 65-70 year old man is not acting out of love when they claim to have fallen in love with a 20-25 year old woman, he is acting out of lust for the youthful figure, a woman who or girl who claims to have fallen in love with a senior citizen is acting out of emotional, physical, mental, financial insecurity's. That is like asking if it is normal for a forty five year old man to fall in love with a fourteen year old girl, the answer is "No", to fall in love there must be concrete common grounds between two people, with that big of a age/life difference there is no common ground. (Just my opinion.)

    1. pinappu profile image81
      pinappuposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Matthew I think it varies from case to case.

    2. Matthew Weese profile image70
      Matthew Weeseposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Not in my personal opinion.

    3. greencha profile image70
      greenchaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Mathew I think thats a very nieve viewpoint,in fact extremely ageist. A 30 year old man or woman can act out of lust there is no age boundary  for lustful interest. a25 yold woman can fall for aman of 60+ for lust and  financial/ emotional/m security

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Given a set of any given circumstances I believe it's possible for anyone to fall in love with someone who is kind, loving, and emotionally/physically generious towards them. Mentally the older person may know they don't stand a chance in hell of having many years together but living in "the now" he may be experiencing a joy in his heart he has never known before. Both the old man and the young man (want the same things.) It is our society that insists on saying one is "dirty" based upon his age. It's important to keep in mind (the woman) makes a choice with regard to who becomes her friend, lover, and spouse. Life is a personal journey and each of us has to run our own race. As long as both people are happy with their choices that is all that matters!

    1. pinappu profile image81
      pinappuposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      " As long as both people are happy with their choices that is all that matters!" - You rock- true US spirit.

  5. calynbana profile image82
    calynbanaposted 5 years ago

    No because the concept of falling in love is flawed. You don't "fall" in love. You grow to love somebody gradually, the fall is the infatuation stage. Is it possible for an old man to be infatuated with a young girl? Yes. To grow to love? Yes. Why wouldn't it be possible?

    1. pinappu profile image81
      pinappuposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      So, what is the answer yes or no?

  6. Li Galo profile image75
    Li Galoposted 5 years ago

    Every situation is unique.  The case of a much older person falling in love or growing in love with a person young enough to be their child or grandchild is possible and does sometimes work.  But it's not the wisest choice on the older person's part because they should know the situation will cause undue hardship for both of them.

    1. pinappu profile image81
      pinappuposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It will not be such hard if the old fellow is a multi - millionaire, eh ?

  7. cebutouristspot profile image76
    cebutouristspotposted 5 years ago

    Yes. I believe so.  Specially if she is the one taking are of him smile But can it be mutual I doubt it.

  8. greencha profile image70
    greenchaposted 5 years ago

    I dont see why not. I suppose  the probs  could occur ,or will occur if she don't love him,but thats a prob anyway no matter what the age  difference is.

    1. greencha profile image70
      greenchaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      and course  it works the other way round  a  young woman of 20+ can fall in love with a man of 60+ and a woman of 60+ can fall in love with a man of 20+. However  this question certainly has ageist conatations the way its been put-re- 'old man 60+!'

  9. kikibruce profile image86
    kikibruceposted 5 years ago

    It can happen, but it is sketchy. What is the quid pro quo? If he has money and she is trophy material the answer is obvious. Then again, sometimes people just fall in love.

    1. greencha profile image70
      greenchaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      here here.....

  10. TNT Husky profile image70
    TNT Huskyposted 5 years ago

    As morally questionable as some may find it, It's possible. And, as much as many want to detest it, It's possible for the relationship to last quite a while (at least for the older one's life, or what remains.) Some find it sickening, others, insane. From a more personal standpoint, What may keep them together is none of my concern

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    Justsilvieposted 5 years ago

    Falling in love has nothing to do with age, so yes it is psychologically possible. However being happy in a May - December relationship may be not be so easy. A 20 something is just starting life someone heading towards their 70's has pretty much lived a large part of theirs. Can see pluses and negatives on both sides of this type of relationship but would see it more as a love affair than a long-term relationship.

  12. Lor's Stories profile image61
    Lor's Storiesposted 5 years ago

    Sixty is not old,
    I'm 53 is that old?
    Most people who are sixty are very active in all ways.
    I just wanted to tell you 60 isn't old!!

    1. greencha profile image70
      greenchaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Your so right Lor's Stories. Ageist narrow minded questions like this shouldn't be allowed  on this site or any other.

  13. Kevin Peter profile image72
    Kevin Peterposted 4 years ago

    Why not? Loving a person has got no connection with age. It's something that comes from the depth of the heart.

  14. LensMan999 profile image53
    LensMan999posted 4 years ago

    I don't think that the age mentioned in the question is too old for a man to get in love with a young girl. If a girl of this age loves a man of this age, there is nothing wrong in it. Though age seems to be a great problem for some people I am against such a thought.

  15. profile image61
    vuthithao89posted 12 months ago

    im in the same situation, im considering, he is 73, and im 28, but we are really fall in love, we remember to each other every moment, feeling need in our life. but im just think about its difficult to giving birth and people around will think that i come to him coz of his money

  16. mtkomori profile image85
    mtkomoriposted 7 months ago

    Yes, it`s entirely possible, although I don`t personally know of any couple with that much of an age gap.

    As you say, love ignores all barriers.  For the older person, however, it may be difficult to keep up with the physical energy of the younger partner, and if they started a relationship, whether or not it will succeed in the long term is an entirely different story!

  17. Fiorenzo Arcadi profile image83
    Fiorenzo Arcadiposted 5 months ago

    At that age a young women provides nothing of value to an old man. I've always said that at the end of the day, on a legal issue, I think a wise old woman and a wise old man are going to reach the same conclusion.

  18. luvlywacky profile image81
    luvlywackyposted 5 months ago

    yes of course it can be.  An old man falling in love to a young woman because when it comes to love there is no age limit as long as they love each other.

 
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