Why did they cheat?
When this question is usually asked, people tend to continually receive the same, biased, socially acceptable, religiously applicable answers. The answers that people want to hear, or the answers they think are right simply because that's how they were taught. A question I have for everyone else is this:
Why is the answer never one stating that human nature is one of a more polyamorous relationship base? Is it only because of religion? Because society deems that relationships with more than one person are wrong?
Then why is the female human set up to be fertile at the same time as others?
Rats, for example, go into estrus every 5 days or so, In adult female rats, constant light leads to the cessation of the sexual cycle and formation of permanent estrus after 6 to 7 days.
Go to wiki on 'Concealed ovulation or hidden estrus' and read about the , 'Cuckoldry Hypothesis',
Men cheat because of evolutionary psychology. It has to do with the availability of fertile females in a socially depopulated area. A great example would be a colony of chimpanzees. Essentially, there are only so many females present, and the males find that the greatest chance of having offspring to carry on their genetics is to have as many mates as possible. In a monogamous or monamorous society, this equates to cheating. Why do we still cheat? Genetic tendency. Most of us are descendents of men who cheated with as many women as possible, simply proving that the tactic worked. So, one could argue that there is a genetic tendency toward infidelity. Two great examples of this are Ghenghis Khan, of whom about a quarter of all people of Asian descent are related to, and Neill of the Nine Hostages, an Irish warlord. Anyone named O'Neill is descended from him.
It really seems as though we assume that the natural way is the what we choose automatically. Indeed, there are some persons who believe that they are born knowing "right" and "wrong" as opposed to it being inherited. Monogamy is assumed to be the best way; the way that humans evolved to raise a family.
However, that neglects the nature of attraction. Monogamy is like being able to do 300 pushups daily. Some persons can do it and we all have the potential to do it, but many of us would struggle to attain that standard. However, I don't think the fertility issue justifies polyamory.
I suppose people skirt over this issue because it questions the very foundation of fidelity. If you question monogamy, then you are virtually questioning the sanctity of monogamous relationships and providing a viable argument that supports polyamory (which would be cheating). Monogamy is uspported by religion but in evolutionary psychology, one school of thought is that it was a response to changing circumstances and roles. It's an interesting point though.
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