Is it healthy to keep praising ones spouse even when he's not always meeting up

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   Wistletposted 14 years ago

   Is it healthy  to keep praising ones spouse even when he's not always meeting up to expectations...
   
   and does not seem to want to change?

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   C.V.Rajanposted 14 years ago

   I don't believe in praising someone disproportionately if one is not living up to expectations. That becomes too artificial. A little praise to psychologically boost someone who is not truly worth is fine only upto certain age and at certain situations.
   
   People who grow up hearing unworthy praise end up mediocre and they always expect appreciation without becoming aware of their mediocrity. Sometimes calling a spade a spade is better, according to me.

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   Sassypoeticposted 14 years ago

   Continue to praise your husband... no one is perfect, kindly address the issue that concerns you.. because the humble husband admits his mistakes, even though he might find it difficult to say. remember a woman has fine attributes she us in contributing to a happy marriage, a wise husband will recongnize this indeed.. Keep being submissive, and supportive of your husband... A quiet and mild spirit is of great value in the eyes of God..

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   Are these expectations that he previously met, or just ones that you expected him to meet? If it's something that really bothers you, definitely sit down and talk to him honestly about it when he's ready to sit and listen. At the same time, though, while he may not be deserving of your praise in those areas, there must be some areas where he is deserving of it. Let him know what you do appreciate about him, and find ways of supporting him if there are areas where he wants to meet your expectations but isn't quite sure how.

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   Globetrekkermelposted 11 years ago

   I always am proactive when it comes to boosting someone's morale and that includes family relationships.I prefer to encourage even if my husband is not coming up to par with my expectations. I guess i learned that from him as well.he is always tactful and appreciative even small things and is not authoritative about  his expectations but make suggestions instead. Being tactful and diplomatic will get things done.Any person is more inclined to solve issues if it was verbalized in a diplomatic ,tactful and reasonable way.Try insisting in one way street rule tactics  and you will create more rule breakers if not, a monster.LOL!

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