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Have you ever had sex the first day/night you met someone? or On the first date?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Have you ever had sex the first day/night you met someone? or On the first date?

    Recently there was an article published indicating a large percentage of men did not think less of women who had sex with them on the first date.
    Generally speaking it would not deter them from having a second date.
    Women on the other hand still believe the majority of men wouldn't have any respect for them. Men never worry about what women think the next morning. Can women ever be equal to men if they worry about what men think of them? Even if there were no STDs would you have a problem with having sex the first night simply because you were in the mood? Not hoping for anything beyond?

  2. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I think for most people it's alright to have sex on the first date IF they really are just in the mood and don't expect anything lasting from it. Yes, it may last, but to assume that it will after just one date is setting oneself up for heartache and bitterness. That said, I did have sex with my current husband the first day we were together...but that was also after six months of talking online and on the phone all the time (about nine hours a day), and he'd just left his entire life to come live with me. Some people have said that the day I met him in person was the first time I really met him, but I'd argue that it's very far from someone who has just started to get to know someone...we were both already planning on permanence, so our expectations were the same. If the couple that just met and went out once have coinciding expectations, then there's nothing wrong with acting according to that...but if one is planning for permanence and the other just wants to "scratch an itch" for one night or "keep the options open and see where it goes", then it's a good idea to wait so that neither side gets hurt.

  3. Julie2 profile image61
    Julie2posted 7 years ago

    I did have sex on a first date. If the person is good looking and you are hitting it off why not? Protect yourself as long as you both know it is what it is then everything is good... You are both having fun. If things are good afterwards you may just be friends, or F'ing buddies or you just might end up in a relationship. It all depends on what you want and making things clear to each other from jump.

    I didn't want to waste time getting to know someone to then have sex and it turn out to be bad. I frankly didn't care if the guy did have respect for me after that or not because I could have felt the same way about them. By not waiting you aren't hurting anyone but yourself if you really look at it.

    Some people want to prolong the inevitable, they feel that they should invest alot of time, months into getting to know the person before having sex with them. You finally get intimate and the sex isn't good at all. You have no sexual chemistry. What happens then? How are you supposed to let the person down gently after being with them that long? Are you going to tell them that you should just be friends now after dating all that time? or are you going to stay with them even if you know that is how you are going to feel everytime you get intimate?

    Relationships are about more then sex! Yeah that is true, BUT sex is a big part of it. You cannot be in a healthy, happy relationship if the sex is bad. That just doesn't exist. You can have the best communication in the world, be the best of friends but if the sex is bad, you are not going to be happy.

    Live, Love and Laugh! Always protected!!!

  4. VVanNess profile image93
    VVanNessposted 4 years ago

    I did, but it was a long time ago. I wouldn't have called it a date, otherwise I wouldn't have done it. Funny huh?