Acco, Of course your buddies are going to ask you that question, however if you are not ready do not do it. Sex is something special between a couple. Being over premiscious can lead to STD(Sexually transmitted diseases), unwanted pregnancies and the AIDS. Are you ready for any of that? Tell your buddies to tuck it in and save it as it is not worth dying over or use protection. But if you are not ready do not do it, and there is nothing wrong with waiting as you are focused on education and others things, you did not need to get off of track or destroy your life over a little fun. Just my opinion.
Sorry to say this but I'm sure you can come up with a better subject to talk about. If you have a problem go see a doctor...a shrink or some other professional that can cure your...? Does anybody really give a flying fig about your sex drive or non-existing one? Other then you, that is. Is the internet really a place where you should seek this type of advice?
WOW!! This is way too personal a question. Anyway I remember the first few threads where you mentioned about the Nigerian culture/traditions. Hence it just maybe because of the ideals of "virtue" that you may not be openly experiencing (and sub consciously suppressing) these feelings. You are as much an individual as anybody else and don't let the peer pressure/opinion affect you adversely. And as you subsequently mentioned the best course to take would be to approach a Doctor/Counselor. Best wishes to you my friend
Every person is unique and so is their sex drive. It's nothing to be worried or ashamed about and there's nothing wrong with you! To those "friends" of your who are complaining and bugging you about this, tell them to grow up and it's none of their business. I deal with the same thing everyday because I have chosen to wait to have sex until I am married and you need to get some thick skin and ignore it. My true friends accept me and love me for who I am and I have an amazing fiancee who couldn't care less about not having sex. From what i've heard it's not that great anyways. Sex should enrich your life, no be the focus of your life.
Let me ask you this, have you seen playboy? pussy.org, or a hot chick? hmmmm? Or look at Chris like GT does, maybe that'll do it. Oh, if you're a eunuch, you don't have a pecker. So then you'd have to get with a dude to uh, never mind.
You may not feel the deisre because you have had sex yet, the thought is there but the feeling doesn't always exist. After you have it, is when the thoughts, patterns and desires for it really grab onto you and become strong, don't worry!!!!
That's funny pecker, really. Haha. I have noticed that Vecernji List is usually populated with naked women and I'm not sure what they are doing there but they apparently don't have a problem with nude people.
Calm down. You probably have strong self control both is natural and normal calm down. Hey I dont mean to pry but have you had sex before? that also can make a difference because if your friends are active your point of view can be different or change from time to time. calm down dude you're fine and your are not gay.
wow!! "hate that word/act" ? that's a strong word! It's been my experience that a person that "hates' the word or the act is suffering from some guilt issues and questions/doubts about their own sexuality. If the opposite sex isn't doing it for you then branch out. What's the shame in that? Woman on Woman, man on man, love, sex and arousal, its all the same. Don't be a hater. Don't knock it 'til you try it.
If you consult a doctor regarding your lack of sexual desire make sure it's a psychologist and be brave enough to confess your hates and fears. Maybe you'll make some real progress and finally find yourself to be a secually alive and vibrant individual regardless of preference.
To be honest, I find sex (and romance) something I just can't be bothered with. I'm WAAAAAY too busy with my various hobbies and arts to begin to slow down and allow someone to come so intimately in my life.
I do have close relations to my friends, family, and pets though.
All I can say is....THAT IS SAD. To not desire the touch of a lover, a kiss, an embrace, the feeling of two becoming one, the rush of an "O"......Unlike anything...comparable to the high of a drug.....OH HELL NAH... if you do not have sexual desires then you need to see a DR. because that is not normal.
Sex is important. They say sex actually improves your health. Ok I have to admit I am down on Romance these days. The world is changing and there are some many ways to get the relationship you need . I have found a few but unfortunately it is not content for Hub Pages. lol
I am a over weight middle aged house wife with a better sex life now than I had at twenty.
If you have absolutely no libido (sex drive) seek a physician's advice. They can do tests for testosterone levels. Both men and women have testosterone, and the level can affect your mood dramatically. It is only something wrong if it affects your life. If you are looking to get into a relationship (either now or in the future) it is something worth exploring. Try different things to turn you on.
A healthy sex life is important to a healthy relationship. Healthy sex is good for you! People who say they have no time? Really? People should make time for it! I have two jobs, am a student full time, and am studying for a major entrance exam. If I can fit a quickie between classes, someone can make time.
I think about sex more than men do (average every seven seconds). Actually I'm thinking about it right now... sex...mmmm. Just kidding!
yes its true.HP addict? I am convicted.But i love it,when AE is online,i like her,her manner,humor and everything.How i wish i can fly over to states,just to have a one on one chat with AE or at least countrywomen.I'm to be crusified for this?Ok stone me!
Aww! Jjrubio just changed pic,she's looking like a "snow-white" aren't she? AE why did u changed pic? U too look like a lonely queen in da new one,what? Am i crazy or what?My one and only one? AE? O no! No!
This is probably the weirdest question, I have seen on a Forum, but it certainly has had its fair share of comments, so maybe, that was the ulterior motive........ If you are for real, Too much personal info for this type of place. Eunuch guarded the harems, in Egypt and were castrated, so the Pharoahs had nothing to fear. You aren't guarding any Harems are you, if the answer is in the affirmative, here lies the answer to your problem. Otherwise never take medical advice from friends. I also am hopeful that it is only, your command of the English language that suggests, it may be possible to indulge in this type of behaviour, once demised.... All in all a fairly scary Hub.
I suppose if someone feels comfortable discussing this on an online forum that is great. However, I do not think anyone's experiences are going to help you in this area if you are experiencing frustrations with this issue. It will just take your own experiences for you to decide what is best for you.
Thank u sweetiepie,i have taken the nicest advice here,it really helped me."Shil19.." and co,plz your thought was never never my intention,i just thought it wise to learn from experts,hoping that HP got alot of experts here to help,rather we have alot of criticizers,distractors and deceits.Thank you all.For SHIL197.. try and dedicate your hub to me,cos i gave u the insp...
It is, but I think sometimes people are too quick to chide on forums. I was not trying to criticize you, but honestly I think people are giving you a slightly hard time here. Others talk about sex much more than you do, and what you asked was innocuous. I honestly do not like to see people getting frustrated with you questions, that is all. However, I did not think you were weird or what you asked was weird at all.
I do not think anyone hates you or your country. Please do not think that, this is a negative thought. You should think more positive and many people on Hubpages like you I believe. I just think people need to lighten up a bit. That is all.
I don't see why the "in life" part was necessary, but there are sexual disorders where people either have a very low sex drive or are actually repulsed by the act of sex. You might have the former, but I'm no doctor, I can't diagnose anything.
my bf and i have dated for over 5 years and i think we have sex 4 times a week. it helps that we are still pretty attracted to each other, even when we thier were times when we were broken up we had sex. i dont know if that was a good thing or a bad thing