When is it the right time to take your relationship to the next step?

Jump to Last Post 1-4 of 4 discussions (4 posts)
  1. Alya rose profile image61
    Alya roseposted 8 years ago

    When is it the right time to take your relationship to the next step?

    I have no clue what I'm doing and I don't know what to do!lol help!

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    There is no easy way to take a "risk" to find out if a person wants the same thing you want especially if you are becoming emotionally invested.

    If a person is uncomfortable with bringing up "our relationship status" the best thing to do is (ask him/her if they are dating other people.)The answer to this question will let you know where you stand.
    It also allows both people the opportunity to state if they want to date exclusively. You might also ask (where do you see us 5 years from now.) If there is any hesitation you'll also have your answer.

    What does "the next step" mean?
    A 18 year old who has been dating someone since they were 16 should not be thinking egagement/marriage is the "next step".

    With regard to marriage it's not about "time" as much as "who" "where" and "Why".

    The "who" (is this the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with?) Do you share the same goals?
    Are they financially stable, mature, honest, trust worthy, attentive to your needs...etc

    The "where" ( Are you in the right place at this point in your life to take on all of the responsibilities that come with marriage and a family?) Have you completed your education, began to build a career, paid down your debts, have enough life experience to know YOURSELF and what you truly want in a mate.

    The "Why" (If things are great the way they are what do you think will improve by going to the "next step"? What will the step after that one be? You don't go to the next step simply because you want a "new title" or you've been dating the same person for a certain amount of time, all of your friends are getting married...etc
    Marriage is not the be all end all.
    Too many people think once  they're married they can "relax".
    They stop doing most of the things that caused their mate to fall in love with them. Marriage requires the same effort as dating.
    Commitment does not mean it's ok to take someone for granted. In any relationship we are either neglecting or nurturing. It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark.
    Don't think that by going to the "next step" life gets easier. A happy marriage is a real "labor of love."

  3. Alya rose profile image61
    Alya roseposted 8 years ago

    I am in no way thinking marriage I'm too young for that^_^thank your for answering^_^

  4. nochance profile image91
    nochanceposted 8 years ago

    When it feels right. If you're only 17 then you really don't need to worry about that. Just keep doing what you're doing. The next couple steps along your line would be living together and then engagement, then marriage. That's all the steps there really are. You don't really have to know what you're doing. You're young. Just do what feels right. If you're uncomfortable then step back for a little bit.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)