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Im really falling for my friends daughter. I just turned 31 and shes 19. We were

  1. profile image45
    barraposted 7 years ago

    Im really falling for my friends daughter. I just turned 31 and shes 19. We were texting and one...

    flirty message gave the game away. She did say she likes me too which should be great right. Eh eh. The problem is shes very pretty, and god does she know it. I am on the other hand very average. However i can be really witty and she always kills herself laughing at my jokes.We were alone today(which i was dreading)and the converation was limited and murder to be frank. BUT, when we walked to get to her aunties i was making her laugh again. She started to send me txts whilst in the same room in company with xs and a sideways loveheart which took me a while of turning the phone to work out what

  2. Analog Talk profile image59
    Analog Talkposted 7 years ago

    Oh this is a difficult situation. It's so "Californication" in some ways (check out that David Duchovny series if you haven't yet).

    I'm pretty sure this situation won't sit well with your friend. I say quit while you both aren't in too deep yet. Personally, I don't think a relationship can last without the support of friends and family.

    If you and her decide to go through with this, though, I hope you can overcome the generation gap.

  3. juiwei2000 profile image60
    juiwei2000posted 7 years ago

    Hmm...31 years old and 19 years old, twelve years gap, so there is an bit of a age gap there, but it is not really that much of a big deal it is not like you are 45 and she is 19. (that would be creepy)

    To my knowledge girls are more different to guys when it come to relationship, girls focus more all the emotional aspect of things e.g. how a guy make her feel, while guys usually focus on the more practical aspect of things e.g. whether she is hot or whether she would be a good mother.

    Some believe in a casual relationship, girls usually go for romantic guys or bad boys, in a serious relationship they go for father figures or guys who can make them laugh, so you are doing alright.

  4. goldenpath profile image71
    goldenpathposted 7 years ago

    Take caution.  Though she is nineteen and of legal age there is still a cautionary age difference.  This is usually brought on by superficial attributes of people.  Men like younger women.  Many women like older men as it gives them a sense of security and protection.  These are not important.  It's the qualities that enable two people to spend all their lives together that make it all worth it.

    If this is truly the case than you have all my hopes.  If it's mainly superficial I would counsel not to waste each other's time.  Take the opportunity of personal sacrifice and growth before giving in to superficial qualities.

  5. wychic profile image88
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I guess it really comes down to how your friend will react, and if a potential relationship with his daughter is worth jeopardizing the friendship. As for the age difference...I'm the last person who will see any problem with a difference in chronological age -- I met my husband when I was 21 and he 49 -- but you have to take maturity levels into account. If you're both on par for maturity and where you're headed in life, then it could definitely work.

  6. Rhonda Waits profile image79
    Rhonda Waitsposted 7 years ago

    Whats more important a short brief affair. or a long time relationship with your friend. Shes young and has not really experienced life yet. You might do more damage than good.Take caution she is your friends daughter. Don't forget this.