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Help! I'm in a Relationship and Falling for Someone Else, What should I do!?

  1. profile image56
    ella singposted 13 months ago

    Help! I'm in a Relationship and Falling for Someone Else, What should I do!?

    at first I used to like this other guy but then we didn't really talk much and it wasn't going anywhere so I eventually stopped liking him. I met my boyfriend and we had lots in common we where really happy together.One day I saw that guy again we talked for a bit and from then on he would text me or call me everyday, and we became really close friends but that was it,Until he told me that he really liked me then all the feelings came rushing  back. But I knew I had a boyfriend so I concealed my feelings for the other guy Until I saw him again in person, and now I can't stop thinking about him

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 13 months ago

    Maybe you don't need to be in an "exclusive relationship" now.
    You sound fairly young and this is a period to explore and grow.
    "I used to like this other guy but then we didn't really talk much and it wasn't going {anywhere}."  Where is it you want to "go"?
    There's nothing wrong with "casual dating" while you pursue other major goals in your life.
    If you are in a relationship and want to see someone else it clearly means it's time to end that relationship.
    Note: It's okay not to be in an "exclusive relationship".
    Some people treat relationships like jobs; they won't leave one until they have another one lined up.
    Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

  3. Deeniepoo profile image60
    Deeniepooposted 13 months ago

    If you are genuinely happy and in love with your boyfriend now then you should cut off connection with the other guy, or make it clear you want to be just friends. I think it's easy to fall for someone else when you're in a relationship because sometimes it feels like it has gone stale and the thought of someone else wanting you and taking interest in you is so exciting. If you can see yourself staying with your boyfriend and having a life with him, most likely you're just feeling lust and what always helps me (I've been in your situation before!) is the saying that the grass is greener on the other side, because it's not; it is greener where it's watered.

    So I guess you have to decide whether you want to water your grass and make your relationship exciting and fix any problems which might be causing you to drift into someone else direction, or whether you want to start something fresh with this other guy. Have you thought about talking to your boyfriend about it?

    I hope I've helped a little!

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    peter565posted 13 months ago

    Oh boy, this is a tough situation.  A piece of advice, nice guys usually steal other people's girl friend, unless her boy friend is a jerk, I mean technically, they are just dating, so, there is nothing wrong about stealing other people's girl friend, but most good decent men is considerate enough for other people's feeling, to not do something like this.

    I know, I've been in similar situation before, there was this girl I really like and she really like me to, but, she already got a BF, which they have been "just dating" for 10 years. It was one of those relationship where she is just going through the motion of things and she got no feelings for him.

    Normally, when seen people in a relationship like that, I would have told him/her that they need to be honest with them self and to each other, about their feelings and decide where they stand and what are they going to do about it next. Then decide what to do next. But this time, consider my unique position in this story, I've decided to keep my silence. I also decided to start keeping my distance from this girl, been considerate for her BF's feelings. I figure if it is meant to be, then after they broke up, mother Satan (I'm a Satanist) will still make sure we meet up again in this life or the next, after they broke up, if it is not meant to be, even forcing it now, would still ended up in break up, later.

    My suggestion for u is, 1. Don't leave ur boy friend for him, if this other guy truly is a good person, it is unlikely he will want to steal other people's girl friend. So, if u dump ur BF for him, most likely, it would just drive him away. 2. Decide where u stand with ur current BF and decide what to do about it. If u choose to stay together, stick with this guy, if u choose to break up, then break up. 3. If u choose to break up, (not dumping ur current BF for the new guy) then if it is meant to be, u and this other guy u like will still have a chance to be together, if it isn't meant to be, forcing it is no use. 4. If u choose ur current BF, then grow distance with the other guy, if it is meant to be, later in life, u and ur current BF will still break up and u will still meet up with this other guy and got together. Or otherwise, u and this other guy, will still be together, in ur next life.