What do you think about a younger woman dating an older man? (or vice versa)

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   LisaKoskiposted 12 years ago

   What do you think about a younger woman dating an older man? (or vice versa)
   
   I've been dating a man that's 30 and I'm 23. We get a lot of jokes about it but there are also those who are against it simply because of our age difference. Do you think this is justified or does age really matter?

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   Curiadposted 12 years ago

   I don't see any problem with that as long as the motives are pure. I was living with a woman 7 years younger for 6 years. The problem comes in when the reason is based on money or reputation such as in so many "Hollywood" relationships.

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   ChristinSposted 12 years ago

   my partner is 9 years younger than me and aside from people teasing us sometimes, we don't notice it.  We are totally right for each other and if we had let age get in the way we would have really missed out.  Age is just a number and it shouldn't matter. 
   
   The only way I can see age complicating things is if both partners have different life goals - this does happen with age differences sometimes.  For example the older partner may not be interested in starting a family because they already have children and the younger partner may want children of their own, things like that. 
   
   If it is simply because of the age - there is nothing wrong with that partnership.  Don't let others judge you unfairly.

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   Angie497posted 12 years ago

   Unless we're talking about couples where one person is so young that we're talking about 'below the age of consent,' I don't think age differences should really be an issue. Some couples that are the same age have nothing in common, don't get along all that well, and don't last. And there are some couples with huge age gaps that can only be described as made for each other. One of the happiest couples I know, she's 21 years older than he is. Of course, I could be a little biased, because I've almost always dated younger guys - biggest age difference there was 23 years...

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   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   all that really matters is how happy you both are. as long as both parties are adults, the rest is irrelevant.

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   Marie Gailposted 12 years ago

   My brother-in-law is 12 years older than my sister, but they are beautiful together, raising 4 of the most beautiful girls you have ever seen.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   I think it is perfectly fine. But observers will think my judgement is clouded. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 32. I've been dating him for two years and it's the best relationship I've had yet. He knows what to do, how to fix things, what certain procedures are, and has a vast area of knowledge from the medical fields to psychology to astology to mechanics. He is past the point of recklessness so I don't have to worry about him picking fights, getting into foolish car accidents (anymore), spending money on college (anymore), and he normally comes home before 12 instead of college students who are out partying until 5 in the morning or worse.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      At 19, how many relationships can you have had? Don't take this the wrong way, but at 19, you are still a teenager and have very limited life-experience. I would question why a 30 year old guy, who has it all together, was dating a 17 year old girl?

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      Zebosgirlposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      exactly. They are much more mature and do not want to party when they are older. Plus it is fun and exciting for the older man to show off his younger woman. My fiance's friends comment on how lucky he is to have a much younger pretty woman.

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      lburmasterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Five. He doesn't have it all together. I have never met someone who is perfect. Plus, why would I want someone my own age? They are just as foolish as me!

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      My point is, lburmaster, and this is not an indictment against you personally, but 30 year old men shouldn't be dating 17 year old girls. I know why a 17 year-old would want to date an older man, but this 30/17 thing really rubs me the wrong way.

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   CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

   Dear Lisa,
   
   It just depends. There are some very mature young ladies and some rather juvenile older men.
   
   The average age difference in the United States is the groom being 6 years older than his bride, so you are pretty darn close.
   
   I also think the age gap is magnified in the younger years. This is to say that if a young lady is 20 and her suitor is 30, this age gap is far more significant than if the same young woman was 30 and her suitor was 40.
   
   Yes, the age gap is still 10 years, but the emotional, psychological, spiritual and mental developments that occur between the years 20 and 30 are enormous.

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   rambansalposted 12 years ago

   The younger women by dating an elderly man get the additional benefit of experience without having it by themselves. But, still the gap should not go beyond 20.

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    Zebosgirlposted 12 years ago

    I find it to be a wonderful relationship. My fiance is 27 years older than me.(I am 24)

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       CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       You are getting down with a 51 year old man? What could the two of you have in common? I hope this isn't a mid-life crisis meeting a gold digger? I'm not saying your relationship is like that, but it is usually the case with this age disparity.

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    EclecticHoosierposted 10 years ago

    Honestly, I don't see 7 years as much of an age difference really. I've dated women as much as 15 years older than me and as much as 20 years younger. It depends largely on the individuals involved - their personalities, backgrounds and experiences, etc - and their relationship dynamic, but I'd say that an age difference of about 10 years more or less is very acceptable.

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