If a male friend contacts you over a year ago upon divorcing;you talk daily for over a year and half
ex wife and he are still in court over assets; you, the new friend are getting blocked calls and msgs from anonymous callers telling you he will never commit and he finally says he does not want to bring you into his issues, after all the conversations, and visits together. Wow..Says tku for being a friend and he needs to get back on track and deal with these issues. Time will help he says. That he did not mean to end it this way but he needs to fix somethings before he moves on. Can't bring anyone for the ride when the road has problems. A little 2 late don't you think? Is there hope or doom?
I would say give it time, he is going through stuff he needs to untangle. He is probably feeling frightened by his new reality and maybe questioning his decisions as he feels insecure. He may be there for the long road with you or he may not be but the only thing you can do is try to be patient. It doesn't mean it's doomed but because of circumstances there's no way of knowing which way he may swing.
His friends are protecting him, probably know both of them well and see you as a threat, normal behaviour.
He is reacting normally to the reality of a divorce and all that it entails. There could be hope but just leave him to contact you, then you'll know it's what he truly wants.
Be careful not to be the rebound situation!
Many women hang all their hope on a maybe but men are pretty easy to understand and are often predictable. In a divorce, they go thru stages.
It is best to hold all romantic desires until after the stages are done so that you are not something that helped him get thru and nothing more. Besides that, it sounds like you have already invested enough of you to end up being hurt and bothered by his actions.
Have him earn this so that it is worth these feelings in the long run no matter the outcome. It is better for your spirit.
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