My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me and I was wondering if you had any advice?
My boyfriend and I started off as best friends and decided to take our relationship to the next level. Things were going great for the first year and then little things kept picking at our relationship. Needless to say, he finally called it quits and I am devastated. He is my everything and I am lost without him. He told me that he loves me but, just doesn't know if he sees us together in the future so lets not waste anymore time and move on with our lives. Should I let our love go and move on or is there a chance he just needs some time and we can make it work?
I dated my best friend whenever I was 18. I am talking BEST FRIEND. We had the same friends, same memories from high school, went through big teenage growing up stages together, and were inseperable. However, we ended up breaking up. (his idea) and things were never the same. He always said that he didn't know whether or not we would ever date again...and I saw this as a glimmer of hope. Now, looking back, I see that this was his way of keeping me hanging on without having me there. After alot of hurt, I finally moved on, and now I am happier than ever! It takes hurt to grow and learn. Easier said than done, believe me I understand! But, look at it this way: He broke up with you because he doesn't want to waste your time, but he still loves you. That's respectable though, isn't it? You have to appreciate his honesty even just a little bit.
Make sure to keep it just as friends. If not, you may end up experiencing more pain than is necessary. If he needs time, this will be the best way to either #1 get you to start getting over him...and #2 Let him see that you are strong and perhaps respect you more for not waiting to be with him. Geeze, I guess it's obvious I have been there before.
I once had the same problems with my ex ,and things were the same for me as well . Things started out great then ended up sour .The best advice I can give someone in your position is to not give up all together just yet . From being a man I know that men like to be chased by their ex's a little after a break up to see if you really love them enough to fight for them. If you give up right away then thats just another excuse that he's going to use against you for the reason he left you .
What you should do is find out what exactly he said that he left you for and fix it . Then slowly but shortly try to have little date nights with him if he's willing to hook up with you and gradually ease your way right back into his life but , don't force your way back in . Just take little baby steps towards the direction you want to go in with him and , before you know it you will be back together again in no time .
p.s. Having sex with him while your trying to get back with him is not a definite answer to reclaiming him . It means that your letting him have his cake , and eat it too. So , save the romance for later , but just making out with him no going all the way is ok I hope this helps you out some , Good luck
Well, you didn't give any specific causes for his becoming unsatisfied. . . .and those would go a long ways towards someone giving you useful advice. I do understand that that could be painful to post though.
Thanks for the advice. @ Wesman Todd Shaw... It's complicated to answer because there really weren't any real reasons. All he said was that he doesn't see us being together in the future. He said that we both want different things. I asked him what he was looking for and his answer was that he didn't know. I feel like if we both still love each other then shouldn't we try and make it work? I guess this break up is harder to take than most because we basically share a life together. We have a house, a car, a puppy, and of course bills that we share together. I just feel if the love is still there then why not try to make it work out.
Hi Mitch, time heals all wound ) your relationship lasted long & for that period of time you two created unforgettable moments right? well I think you should just give him time to think but don't let go yet. I know how it feels, really T.T but be strong for yourself; it might be a slap on your face to say cheer up but please do so and if he's decision didn't really change.. It'll be the time to move on
Yep, stop wallowing in self pity and go out and find a new boy, plenty of men out there.
okay . if you think hes the one . and you love him truely . then you must fight for everything ! show him hes worth it . show him that your relationship is worth it . show him that your love towards him wont change , if you still have love for him alot . then keep fighting for his love . everything is worthwild and life changing . so take that risk and start a new life . if you love something it would sometimes come back to you . but if it wasnt that much love . then it wasnt ment to be . always remeber that . (:
Don't give up and wait for him move on to better friendships, you will find someone else to treat you better
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