what about a sitution whereby the man keeps apologizing,what would one do?

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  1. ifeyinwa profile image52
    ifeyinwaposted 7 years ago

    what about a sitution whereby the man keeps apologizing,what would one do?


  2. Bel Marshall profile image58
    Bel Marshallposted 7 years ago

    Since this is under "Why do people stay in abusive relationships", I will answer this according to the assumption that you are speaking of someone who is abusive (physically or emotionally, they are both abuse).
    Apologies are often just added manipulation in these cases.  Is this man seeking help from a therapist?  What is he doing to change the pattern of behavior?
    Regardless, LEAVE any relationship that is abusive as it only gets worse.  If he is seeking therapy and you wish to try again, do so only after being a part of those therapy session and only with the blessing of the therapist.
    Honestly, even therapy leaves me hesitant but it's a better option than one who just keeps saying he is sorry.  Sorry doesn't mean they will stop, even promises of stopping doesn't mean they will stop either.
    Get out, get out now and then seek a recovery therapist for yourself to help you not repeat this pattern for yourself.

  3. akirchner profile image95
    akirchnerposted 7 years ago

    If the man keeps apologizing for abusing, it's a common symptom and someone in that situation should seek professional help.  People that abuse often apologize but then go right back to doing the same thing over and over.  They may be 'sorry' but the abuse needs to stop and the only way for someone who is an abusive person top stop abusing is usually through professional help - to find out why they need to abuse other people and learn how to resolve the issues within themselves.  There is hope for the situation but unfortunately, most people in the situation need professional advice.

  4. Pearldiver profile image82
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    I'm sure in your heart you know the answer to this yourself...
    Abuse is abuse... Here's some honest advice: He's NOT a Man!
    He knows he isn't and he hopes that by saying sorry that you won't notice that he isn't man.. enough to get Real Help for HIS Sickness.. instead of infecting the world and your life!
    Ditch That Bitch!  You have the right to life WITHOUT ABUSE!
    - Was this Answer Abusive Enough? 
    - Get out of the relationship and meet some Real Men!

  5. Meridian.1960 profile image57
    Meridian.1960posted 7 years ago

    From this mans veiw. The appologies are making him feel better about himself and keep you under his control.
    Emotional or physical, abuse is abuse. He gets major help or you get out. There are GOOD men out there, you deserve nothing less.

  6. FrankiesGirl6Yr profile image79
    FrankiesGirl6Yrposted 7 years ago

    They continue to apologize because they are forgiven and they will to continue to apologize as long as they are forgiven. But after the first half a dozen sincere "I'm so sorry baby, it'll never happen again" the apologize just become a reaction, a mear verbal phrase that's backed with feelings of nothingness and sure knoweledge that it will happen again, the first time you piss him off.
    I'm sorry is only worth their first shame, after that it means nothing more than fu** you or shut the hell up and quit crying. If this question is in regards to abuse, no matter how good the acting is while those words are spouted, it will never mean what you want it to.


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