how to overcome fear of socializing in a college ?

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  1. rajivnandy profile image61
    rajivnandyposted 7 years ago

    how to overcome fear of socializing in a college ?

  2. MindPowerProofs profile image61
    MindPowerProofsposted 7 years ago

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    I'm not going to inform you about fear. You can find everything you need on the net. I'll only give  you a little tip.

    As fear is a mental process, you can overcome this feeling with the help of your mind power.

    Researchers found that thinking about time forces you socialize more. Anything related with time can help you socialize. Think about the day,month. Time left for a holiday or celebration. Think about your age and what you have done so long...

  3. Right On Time profile image61
    Right On Timeposted 7 years ago

    It's called exposure therapy. DO the thing that you fear, stay in the situation long enough for your nerves/anxiety to come down and the anxiety/nerves will reduce. Better not to avoid.  Remember the mantra, "who cares what people think about you", and you'll feel more relaxed. And who knows, I bet there are others who are dying to talk to you! If it doesn't get better visit: http://www.socialanxietyassist.com.au

  4. Claudin_Dayo profile image59
    Claudin_Dayoposted 7 years ago

    For me, I really dont want to 'socialize' but I had to.. . I'm a college student and I'm just wearing the best cosmetic at those times; my true self. Being confident and yourself, not being ashamed of your principles I guess that matters a lot to overcome the said fear

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    Butch Newsposted 7 years ago

    There is no easy answer.  I was always reclusive.  But I had little in common with anyone and was, perhaps, a bit shy.  I was always the smartest kid in the class and never had to do any homework to achieve that... so I considered most other kids to be rather dumb.  They didn't seem to know much of anything and had no interest in the things I was interested in.  I guess I would have been considered a nerd.

    I found Sea Scouts fun.  When I was younger I was quiet but in a couple of years was a patrol leader then troop leader.  I found it easier if I was the boss and still have that attitude.

    It's all part of growing up.  After I joined the navy I went to officer school and learned that if you act like you're in charge people will be inclined to believe you are.

    So it takes a bit of time to learn self confidence and realize you are as fit and good as anyone else and there is nothing to fear.

    If you have a talent, showing it will often attract admirers and that can break the ice.

    Being clean and dressing well is important.

  6. Iontach profile image82
    Iontachposted 7 years ago

    Fear of Socializing - I don't even know how that exists...

    When your friends talk to people they know, you make sure you also talk to them too and be nice and friendly, even funny. Whenever you see them again give them a wave or say hi. All that kind of stuff will help you overcome your fear.

    I have this little motto that seems to work wonders, whenever I get scared or aprehensive to do something I say 'Just f'n do it!', and I push myself, it always seems to work.

    Make sure to go to social events, like parties and clubs, and if you are nervous, just have a couple of alcoholic drinks and you'll be fine to talk to people.

  7. Lyre of Orpheus profile image53
    Lyre of Orpheusposted 7 years ago

    Define "fear" in this situation? Is it just extreme shyness? Anxiety? Or fear as defined by dictionaries - feeling distress, feeling a threat?
    Depending on the answer, there are many different ways to deal with the problem. Starting by simply making yourself at least smile at people from your classes when an appropriate situation arises and ending in serious therapy.
    In my case I was extremely shy during my school years and didn't dare approach anyone first at all, a barrier that eventually started disappearing by itself once I started getting to know people a bit more, having simple "how are you today" and "that test was terrible!" conversations.

  8. easyfreerecipes profile image59
    easyfreerecipesposted 7 years ago

    tough one.  i would say that doing it once or twice and having a good experience could change your outlook forever and make it much easier.  go to low pressure things like movie nights in the lobby or your dorm, talk to classmates and meet up to study or work on projects.  sometimes certain "drinks" have been known to take some of the fear out of it but i am not promoting anything you shouldn't be doing...hope this helps

  9. BobbiRant profile image60
    BobbiRantposted 7 years ago

    A person who had a hard time socializing in high school might have a problem in the same area in college.  Join some clubs, mingle, you can always find someone who has similar interests in college because people from all over attend college.  So look around you, be polite and friendly.  One would hope everyone is adult in college, if not, it is time for them to become adults then.

 
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