What should you do if a relative -that claims they want to be closer with you- refuses...
to make plans or even return calls or texts?
always be the better person, you will feel better about yourself this way
Unfortunately, I am in such a position just now. Becoming a recent grandmother (paternal side), I seem to be a constant nuisance to my daughter-in-law whom I love dearly as my own. Since my grandson has been born, she wants nothing to do with me at all, which is extremely hurtful as before the birth she never talked to her own mother. Now it seems her mum can do no wrong and yet I almost have to make an appointment to see my grandson. Even then I have to beg to hold him.
I have shed many a tear recently and done everything in my power to put the situation to bed, but with no luck and the result that my son is stuck in the middle. What I have done is decide to take a back step for a while and wait and see what happens, even thou it causes me great sorrow.
Confront them openly and honestly without anger. If they do not see your needs as relevant, it is their loss. "If selfless honest does not stir the heart; nothing will".
I would say do your part in trying to connect with them but if they don't respond then maybe they are not being honest in saying they want to become closer. Sometimes people just need space and time to clear their feelings or thoughts toward the situation. This is particularly true if it's a parent child relationship. They may want to get closer but they just need more time. If you really want the relationship I would say don't give up. Don't overdo it with phone calls but call every now and then to let them know you care and eventually they will respond....but most likely on their time.
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