Why is after a long time being single you take leap of faith and just keep falli

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  1. phoenix_028@yahoo profile image61
    phoenix_028@yahooposted 7 years ago

    Why is after a long time being single you take leap of faith and just keep falling hopelessly?

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    What is a leap of faith? whatever it is.......it may not be your answer.  If you consider "faith" leaving it up to someone else, maybe it's for you to take matters into your own hands.

  3. Wayne Brown profile image84
    Wayne Brownposted 7 years ago

    People do things for many different reasons. Some feel the clock is ticking and time is running out. Some are just tired of being alone and think that they may have expectations which are to high so they settle. Some are just determined to make something happen.  Love happens when we least expect it. We don't make it happen. We don't find it...it finds us. Love is much like opportunity. There's an old adage that says, the best thing you can be when opportunity knocks is "ready". Time dims the pain of old relationships. When that person stops being significant to you so do the feelings that accompanied that time in your life. No, you don't want to go there again but at some point you realize that love does not come without some risks thus you must take a chance.  The question is have you applied your previous experience and have you made changes in your needs and attitudes which will effect the outcome of the next situation. What are you bringing to the table?  What do you expect them to bring in return?  Are you willing to overlook all that if the guy is cute? LOL!  We have to apply some level or learning and logic but we also have to remember that it is an affair of the heart and not just the mind. WB

  4. Nellieanna profile image80
    Nellieannaposted 7 years ago

    I appreciate both the first two replies.  They say a lot.  We live through things in order to learn -- LEARN.  We train our "faith" in realities.  We learn that it is our own choices which bring us wherever we are.  We THINK through the choices and make leaps of good sense. 

    That may not sound as romantic as jumping blindly into a relationship based on trivial attractions or feelings.  Feelings are vital to a relationship; - and feelings should be able to survive the natural tests and challenges which come to any situation in which two different people are involved intimately.

    When we've examined the relationship and know it can work, then we can give oneselves &  partners all the passion & delight of every moment, rather than just that first fizz that happens when two people of reasonable attractiveness meet & then find they don't mesh.

    We choose & create our own lives, be they emotional prisons or wondrous emotional palaces.  (I have tried both & I'm here to tell you: the prison is a futile and hopeless habitat, no matter how much faith one brings to it!!!)

    Taking responsibility for our present predicament, climbing into our own driver's seat & steering a better path is the way out. Embracing our own lives, realizing we did it so we can undo it, we can come back up and out of poorer choices.

    I wish you a very much happier NOW and all to follow, Phoenix.

 
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