What's one thing you miss about being single?
For those of you in a relationship, what's the one thing (or multiple things) that you miss about being single? I miss being able to listen to music while going to sleep. My boyfriend likes complete silence, I like music. But I don't play any so that I don't disturb him.
Not a "single" thing. Maybe it's been too long since I was single but I don't miss getting into a cold bed alone in the winter, or someone to share the household chores with. Sometimes I can't sleep at night, so I play relaxation tapes but I use headphones so it doesn't disturb my husband. The sound is turned down low so only I can hear them.
Good question. Freedom is the answer. Freedom to do whatever you feel like doing without regard to someone else's wants or needs. Sounds just terrible doesn't it? But self-indulgence can also be healthy and even necessary.
I understand this, but in a different view. My boyfriend wouldn't care, but I can't do my own thing anymore. Because I moved over 1,000 miles away so I could be with him. So all my family and friends are back home, & I don't know many people up h
freedom. Being able to go anywhere, do anything or make any decision on the spot! I cant say I want it back though, I love my partner too much and we so everything together, Now we plan, and think ahead and although its not as impromptu as when I was single, the memories are definitely better.
I miss living a care free life . Now I have 2 kids to feed so I must work When I was single I am only responsible to myself.
I miss drinking with friends every night Now I life a sober life .....
Reading,writing and ofcourse listen to the music but for the good company you can leave everything.
I miss the ability to do what I want at a moment's notice. Spontaneity is no longer an option for me. And I miss taking risks as well. When you are in a relationship with commitments, risks are serious not exciting anymore.
To be honest, the benefits and joys of being with my husband far outweigh the little things I might have missed. I realise that a lot of the things I did when I was single (like take 2 hour baths) were ‘fillers’ because I had nothing better to do with my time. Being in a relationship makes me set my priorities straight.
But if I had to say one thing it would be lying in on Sunday mornings as my hubby is an early riser.
Lucky for me, my boyfriend likes to sleep in on his days off. So we both get to sleep late, heh. I think falling asleep with music is the only thing I miss. But I'm perfectly fine with giving it up. I'd wear headphones if they didn't bother my ears.
Probably the thing I miss the most is the excitement and anticipation of looking forward to either going to visit the person I'm dating or having her come to my place for the night or weekend. (There is a certain energy in the air that leads you to want to make the most of your time together). Whoever is hosting makes plans to ensure their time together will be special in some way.
When you get married or live together no matter how much effort you put into it eventually that "magic" or "excitement" fades into relaxation or being "comfortable". I suppose it should come as no surprise that the more available something is the less (thrilling) or valuable it becomes. People get taken for granted in both small and large ways.
Abundance of time together can lead to compliancy in relationships. The more time couples have together the less effort they tend put forth in trying to please or (surprise) one another. Overtime most couples fall into a (routine). Many of them find a high level of comfort/security in routine. While unpredictability can be exciting it can also be stressful for some trying to raise the bar time and time again to hold someone’s attention or impress them. I guess that is why they call it "settling down". :-)
I miss going to sleep when I want and waking up when I'm ready. My partner doesn't need as much sleep as I do. I love sleeping! I go around feeling as though I'm sleep deprived most of the time.
Otherwise, we make it happen OK - and now we are both stay- at- homers that takes a lot of compromising.
Nothing, cause I am single and I love it. Some day people will wake up and realize relationships aren't necessary at all for a happy fulfilled life. In fact, I'm personally happier single with freedom than chained to some needy girl.
You might think relationships aren't necessary, and maybe they aren't for you.
But I am happier than I ever have been in my life with my boyfriend, even more than when I was single. I wouldn't trade it back for anything.
Maybe you just need to find a not needy girl! Seriously, I can respect someone's decision to be single, but I would caution against ruling out relationships because of a few bad apples!
lol :p i'm not blaming the girls i've been with. i'm sure they would have been great in relationships with other guys. it's just me. i'm just not cut out to be a boyfriend.
And some guys arent lol. I know a few who are happier not in a relationship.
Being single has his pro's and con's and so does being in a relationship.
Its a choice that everyone have to do. If in your situation the pro's and con's of being single outweight the pro's and con's of being in a relationship then go for it.
Nothing much, in fact not a single thing, being a single does not suit me or my temperament.
Lying sideways in a bed! Sprawling in all directions is no longer possible.
I'm really having a hard time with this one! I think perhaps it's because I was unhappily single for long enough (met my husband at 31), that I very much appreciate all that being in a relationship brings. I think my husband and I have always supported each others' desires to do things. I don't think either of us feels like we've "lost our freedom" or our ability to be spontaneous. We still do fun stuff when we want to, just usually together, by choice! Now, having kids, on the other hand...
The kids thing is tricky. But atleast me and my boyfriend agree that we don't want kids. If it happens, it happens but we aren't trying. We like our non-parent hobbies and activities too much lol.
Ha! I absolutely adore my kids, but they certainly impact your ability to be spontaneous or really to do anything "for yourself" (besides enjoying your children, of course!)
Whether your music is stored on your computer or you use CDs or MP3 downloads, you could use headphones. There are some real good quality ones and maybe that would be the solution. As for what one misses about being single, in my case it would be not to be able sometimes to do what I want, when I want, which is just about what you're mentioning too. I insist on sometimes, because if I felt that way all the time, I should not be in a relationship. On the other hand, I wouldn't like to be with somebody who likes the same music, the same books, the same movies, the same food, etc. One of the most interesting parts of a relationship, in my opinion, is to discover someone who thinks differently, and does and likes different things. There is nothing more boring to me than a couple wearing the same christmas sweater, just in case somebody wouldn't notice they are a couple...
I've tried different kind of headphones, but they just dont work for me. Every kind I've tried has hurt my ears & just gives me a headache. I use to just let my music from my laptop play. Its not something I mind giving up for him, I just miss it
Hahaha! I like the wearing the Same sweater part. I don'T Miss being single .i like living double ,ha ha ha with
particular benefits.who says nobody can have the best Of bOth worlds. carpe diem and catch it while you can.
I don't miss anything about being single.
I'm glad to have learned more about me after getting into a long relationship with my partner.
In fact I don't believe that there should be any differences before and after committing to your partner.
Referring to your example: Why don't you sleep in different rooms if you want to listen to music?
No, I couldn't imagine not sleeping with my boyfriend. The comfort and enjoyment I feel being in his arms is way better than the mild joy I get from listening to music. Music is no where near that important to me.
I'm glad you say that and enjoy your relationship!
I love him very much, lol. I miss listening to music at night, yeah. But I have no problem giving it up (Or a lot of other things for that matter) if it means being with him.
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