Have you been disappointed by your best friend? What do you do?

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   Cheesing a Dreamposted 14 years ago

   Have you been disappointed by your best friend? What do you do?

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   Barry Silverposted 14 years ago

   I do my best to get over it. People are not perfect, even best friends.

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   Rochelle Frankposted 14 years ago

   According to your "positive thoughts and positive energy' theory, but it behind you. If there is anything positive still remaining in your friendship you can keep that, even if you are not quite as close.

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   prettynutjob30posted 14 years ago

   Yes,and I forgave them because my friendship with my best friend means the world to me.

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   lazkoposted 14 years ago

   disappointments are not rare event between persons. im getting over it each time and i think its normal, everyone have to develop the ability to forgive. we`re all not angels and do mistake always ...

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   Daffy Duckposted 14 years ago

   Everyone has been.  It's just a matter of whether or not it was on purpose.

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   tymmyposted 14 years ago

   I have been disappointed over and over again by my best friend, and whenever it happens I just see it as one of those things that happen in life. I put it behind me and move on, afterall, nobody is perfect.

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   fflores041985posted 14 years ago

   I guess it depends on the severity of the thing that makes you feel that way. Some things you can get over easily but then again it's harder for a girl sometimes. If it is serious then it gets complicated, but there is a saying that says: "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." There are a lot of things that can be fixed by simply talking but if it is serious I wouldn't consider that person a best friend and I would go by that saying I mentioned. But I do have to point out what everyone else is saying and agree with them, nobody is perfect.
   
   You do have to learn to forgive though, in order to be forgiven. That doesn't mean that everything will go back to the way they were, but it is a burden on you and your heart when you don't forgive. Trust me, confession and forgiveness will ease up the burden in most occasions.

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   Becca Lopezposted 14 years ago

   Everyone will disappoint you some time in your life and sometimes it is your best friend. When my best friend disappoints me I try my best to get over it and remind myself that she is my best friend.

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    rob_allenposted 14 years ago

    Yes, in fact, my best friend and i never talked for over 6 six. can you imagine that? But now, were okay, it felt like we never fought that long.

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    WindMaestroposted 14 years ago

    I am disappointed. I tell them that I am, and we talk it over. But get over it, and I forgive them, because after all, isn't that what best friends are?

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    Southern Museposted 13 years ago

    Yes.  I was disappointed quite a few times by my ex-best friend, but we always managed to work it out.  However, one day she did cross the line in trying to deliberately end my other friendships with our mutual friends, and I ended the friendship.  Friends are great, but only when they're true to you.  Everyone make mistakes, but it's up to you to decide whether to forgive and move on (because you can't forget) or whether to end the relationship.  It's just like a romantic relationship - you have to make sure that it's truly beneficial for both of you in order for it to be worthwhile.

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 13 years ago

    My best friend of a lifetime ended our friendship and it was very difficult. She wouldn't even let me speak for myself or hear anything I had to say.  It was just over.  I had to let it go.
    If your friend disappointed you, then maybe you can talk with them and let them know that.  Try to discuss it calmly, and see if you can take the friendship in a new direction, if possible.

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    Keith120posted 13 years ago

    I have been disappointed plenty of times by my best friend. I didn't always didn't tell him because that wont help the situation. I mainly make myself available when he wanted to talk about it. At times I did comfort him which always helped but mainly when I cheered him up and helped him is what counted the most. We all make mistakes and I would want someone to comfort me when I cant quit get it together.

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    Enviroment101posted 13 years ago

    If you not getting what you what from a relationship , why not pick up yourself and simply leave. I dont get why some people make this into a real question - what do you do. (No offense). There are to many good things in life to experience and explore, why waste time with something that isn't giving you, what you want?

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    Laura in Denverposted 13 years ago

    It depends on the severity of the situation what you do.
    
    First, express your dissapointment because misunderstandings happen and there may be a valid reason by your best friend.
    
    Second, sleep on it for a few days before further contact. In sleep, we resolve.
    
    Third make your decision about recourse or if there is a need for recourse. Wait for a response from the friend.
    
    Best of luck! --Laura in Denver

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    Etherealenigmaposted 13 years ago

    My best friend of 20+ years turned on me because of something I did that she didn't like. This was after I told her about it, asking her to help me to deal with the situation and work it out. But, because she had a personal issue with the situation, she decided to cast judgment on me, and so, that was it for me...all it took. I cut ties with her.

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