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Do you think it is possible to go from friends to lovers?

  1. KrystalD profile image81
    KrystalDposted 5 years ago

    Do you think it is possible to go from friends to lovers?


  2. yssubramanyam profile image59
    yssubramanyamposted 5 years ago

    any thing, every thing is possible. relation has no end points.

    1. teaches12345 profile image96
      teaches12345posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree on this one.  Anything is possible,  but you have to consider if it is a relationship that you see as long term.  If it is not one you are willing to stay committed, it may cause much damage later.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Technicially it's possible but rarely does it happen. If someone deems you to be "relationship material" they will not want to risk losing you to someone else by insisting on building a "friendship" first. If you were physically attracted to someone and felt a strong chemistry with them you would think of them in (romatic terms) and not as a "platonic friend" who may one day become a lover....etc
    It is far easier for your lover/mate or spouse to become your best friend than it is for a best friend to become a lover/mate or spouse. In fact in most happy marriages the couple considers themselves to be each other's best friends.

  4. yeagerinvestments profile image86
    yeagerinvestmentsposted 5 years ago

    Yes, as I experienced that type progression in a relationship in my past. We started out as friends and then began dating. It only lasted a year, but the friendship to not last afterwards.

  5. EuroCafeAuLait profile image85
    EuroCafeAuLaitposted 5 years ago

    I know of one example.  My cousin was the boss, and he hired his future wife as his secretary associate.  They had never known each other before, but a friendship did develop between them.  Finally, after five years of being friends / professional colleagues, they began dating. Things went so well that they married and now have three children.  So yes, it can happen.

  6. weekend profile image61
    weekendposted 5 years ago

    Yes, absolutely! I've done it with practically all my friends up to now, and always within a very, very short period of time. The reverse is tricky, though.

  7. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    Yes, I think it can work and when it does, it must be wonderful.  My daughter experienced the reverse and it hurt her deeply.  She had a best friend in high school, they were inseparable.  They got together romantically and went out for a few months and then he broke up with her. 

    She was devastated because she not only lost her boyfriend but also her best friend--they were never able to fully recover the friendship.

  8. ExpressFree profile image75
    ExpressFreeposted 5 years ago

    It is very possible...FRIENDSHIP is a very good foundation for a LOVE relationship.

    1. yssubramanyam profile image59
      yssubramanyamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      well said, keep it up..

  9. SteveSpencer profile image60
    SteveSpencerposted 5 years ago

    For that lucky guy's sake, I sure hope so!

    Yes, it is very possible and you already know this because you can so easily see yourself loving him.

    The concern you feel is because of the other obvious truth. Once friends become lovers they can never go back to that same friendship if it doesn't work out as lovers.

    1. Iris Roberts profile image37
      Iris Robertsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yep, that was why we took it really slow...

  10. newcalendar profile image70
    newcalendarposted 5 years ago

    Yeah it is, the opposite is also true though as lovers can become good friends. At the minute my best friend is my former partner and I've fallen for her again recently but won't tell her, it makes things awkward.

  11. Amanda Gee profile image61
    Amanda Geeposted 5 years ago

    Definatly Yes. People who are friends before they are lovers, then to be the best lovers. They become best friends and lovers, and share a wonderful relationship.

  12. algarveview profile image90
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    I think so and also think those relationships are usually (though not always) more lasting than those that start from physical attraction and only then comes friendship...

  13. profile image48
    ajb921posted 5 years ago

    It depends on how you are using the term "lover". If you are talking about going from being friends to being in a happy healthy relationship, then yes, it is possible to go from friends to lovers. The best relationships consist of two people who either start out as best friends or become best friends. If you are using the term "lover" to mean sexual partner, than no, sex ruins friendships no matter how much people would like to deny it. After sleeping together your view of each other will forever change, and no matter what, your "friendship" will never be the same.

  14. dobo700 profile image60
    dobo700posted 5 years ago

    Yes, I don't think you can be lovers without being friends. But you can't go back from lovers to just friends.