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I'm in a long distance relationship I need advice STAT.

  1. jessyferari1 profile image60
    jessyferari1posted 6 years ago

    I'm in a long distance relationship I need advice STAT.

    What would your advice be for someone whose spent almost 2years in a long distance relationship? I read lots of articles on relationships but only a few on long distance relationships. I have a boyfriend I love very much but we going through a rough patch from my point of view, I feel disconnected to him of sorts, I get really insecure about a lot of things and it doesn't help I can't tell his emotions when I do not see him. help what do I do?

  2. michelemacwrites profile image79
    michelemacwritesposted 6 years ago

    Many times when one feels distanced or disconnected, it could mean that there is trouble in paradise.  If there is still great communication in spite of the fact you two are far apart, then just ask.  Let him know that you love him and that you have been feeling as if things have changed; that you are growing apart.  Maybe it could be your mind playing games on you.  Perhaps, he is going through something that is stressful that is not your fault or it could be that the distance is starting to take a toll on the relationship.  Whatever it is, you will not get answers unless you ask a question or raise the subject.  It would not hurt as well to question yourself.  Are you happy with the relationship?  Are you becoming disillusioned with the distance between you two?  Hopefully, if its something minor, and you are convinced that the problem is not the relationship, then maybe its coming to where you guys need to bridge the gap and get closer.  If things remain unchanged after talking, you may have to consider whether or not the relationship has run its course.  I wish you the best.  Feel free to contact me.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Long distance relationships end in one of two ways.
    1. One person moves to be with the other person.
    2. The relationship slowly fades away.

    One of the reasons most people seek to avoid getting involved in long distance relationships is because they don't want to move away from where they live. They also don't want to risk becoming emotionally involved with someone that is not likely to move to their town.

    Another disadvantage to long distance relationships is the difficulty with having disagreements and making up. You're pretty much left to communicate using the phone and computers. (Neither option allows you to see a person's face reacting to what you have to say.)  It's easy to ignore the phone and emails when one is angry.

    Most people in long distance relationships talk to each other multiple times during the day as well as instant message or send emails. They also take turns going to visit with each other at least once a month or more. They mail each other little trinkets (books, cards, post cards...etc)
    However in the end for the relationship to go to" the next level" someone is going to have to move. I would think after 2 years of being together one or both of you would have brought up the subject of moving. If no one was is willing to move then the end of the relationship is pretty much just a matter time.

  4. Matthew Weese profile image71
    Matthew Weeseposted 6 years ago

    Well I'm a guy, a poet, a friend of aquired knowledge, a man of good scence.

    Long distant relationship's most always result in one or the other cheating, (I do not beleive it is considered cheating in all cases.)

    Humans need companionship, sex, intimacy, release from study/work, ext.

    My advice to you is play the field, get aquainted with others, form a social network, don't instill all your faith in this guy/girl if there is a little bit of a chance there seeing other people because you may be missing out on your chance to shine with a more compatible lover.

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    kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago

    Use Skype everyday I swear it helps-I do this and feel what your going through ugh USE SKYPE! free!

  6. bbnix profile image61
    bbnixposted 6 years ago

    I'm with Kimberly....Skype is the way!!   It is incredibly important to expand the avenues of communication, but that still pales in defining the absolute wonderful nature of seeing that someone's expression and body language, critical issues to any conversation, let alone your loved one, and Skype allows for that..

    And again, as Kimberly pointed out, its free, so that empowers hours of not just conversation, but just being with them, even quiet time while you both work on the computer or write, while, with just a glance, you see them and truly feel that you are there with them.. it's quite magical...

    Run, don't walk to Skype that loved one...it'll make all the difference in the world....but of course, nothing beats being with them, so get yourself there...whatever the cost!!

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    Arizona Sueposted 6 years ago

    I think you should ask yourself, is it healthy for your happiness to totally depend on the actions of another?  A person who is confident and centered within their self...can give another, space.  Love is not to be captured and held with fear.  Remember this, the one who cares the least.....controls the relationship.  Not that a relationship should be controlled, that is.

    1. lilmissmeg profile image60
      lilmissmegposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      its not that happiness completely depends on the other person but I think that when you get used to that person making you so happy, you could get depressed if that person isn't giving you as much as he/she used to..ya know what I mean? hmm

  8. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 5 years ago

    It is difficult to be in a long distant relationship even though they say distance makes the heart grow fonder, somehow it may not work for everyone especially if you are insecure about stuff.  it is time you had   talk with your boyfriend

  9. Globetrekkermel profile image76
    Globetrekkermelposted 5 years ago

    Long distance relationship is difficult if you are the kind of person who cannot stand separation.No amount of phone calls,emails can suffice the physical presence of the person you love.On the other hand it may work for someone who is independent and who does not rely on the one he or she loves to fulfill all her or his needs.

  10. lovendar profile image61
    lovendarposted 5 years ago

    I think if anyone is in long distance relationship he/she must understand feelings of one another. Need to keep faith and think positive all the time. Talk to him and let him understand the love you are feeling for him. Keep communication going, because its a key in long distance relationships.

  11. lilmissmeg profile image60
    lilmissmegposted 5 years ago

    girl, I know how you feel. It sucks sometimes not being able to see him especially when he is busy and can't talk to you when you feel depressed about things. And if you both have made it for two years then theres no doubt in my mind it will last a lot longer! But I am currently in a long distance relationship and im going to admit that yea, sometimes it sucks being away from him.. but what I think you should do is just call him up and express the way you feel to him, and maybe see if he has been feeling the same way. Or what could make you feel better is to plan a date for you guys to see each other that way you have something to look forward to and you can be excited about seeing him! just some thoughts , I hope I helped at least a little. hope you get to feeling better!

  12. alaknath profile image61
    alaknathposted 19 months ago
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    Eunice Anqueposted 14 months ago

    Let me ask this to you? Do you still love him? Does your love to him still the same when you were together? If so, then dont mind all the negative articles you have read, dont let it ruin in your relationship. Sometimes, what we see, observe and read influence our views and feelings which may cause conflict which should be not. It depends on how you both handle your relationship, so you see, you have reached 2 years of LDR. We have lots of new technologies now that allow us to communicate with our loveones but the most important is you have trust, loyalty and faithfulness to each other.
    If you have feel that there is a gap between you two, then make up your mind and talk. When your partner starts to give space and distant would trouble you and think that there might be somebody that is ruining your relationship, so basically good communication and eliminating of doubt also shoulder to have a good LDR.