If you're in a relationship, is being infatuated with others any better than fantasizing about them?
I got this response to a question on whether fantasizing was appropriate. I thought it was interesting opinion because infatuation seems a lot worse to me. Do you agree?
I agree, Fantasizing is pretty harmless if you're in a committed relationship. By letting your imagination unfold you are pretty much aware that's not possible for it to happen in real life. But If you are infatuated with someone else while being in said committed relationship, feeling can become involved and develop into something more. I know a lot of people who became infatuated with other whilst on a relationship and grew out of love with their partners and ended up breaking up and hurting.
We all need to be concious if we are in a relationship, and make sure we respect it and avoid situations that might lead to emotional and romantic feeling with someone outside said relationship. Fantasizing is ok, though. I doesn't hurt anyone as long as the stay the way they should stay: just a fantasy.
I also agree that infatuation is worse than fantasizing.
If you're in a relationship with someone, why "would you" fantasize about another? Get out of the relationship if you want someone else and go for the person you're fantasizing about. You'll soon learn that until you're really happy, the same thing will happen over and over. It's hurtful for a mate to be infatuated or fantasize about someone else - and very unnecessary.
Well, this is the thing When you are infatuated with someone, you will fantasize about them. So it isn't a case of "either/or", but more like one leads to the other. If you are infatuated with someone, aren't you fantasizing about them? If you are fantasizing about someone, aren't you infatuated with them?
The person who "inspired' the question had the notion that infatuation was much worse than fantasizing. I don't agree, since I believe that when you have a crush about them, you may fantastize about being with them on different levels anyway. However, to say that fantasizing necessarily leads to crushes may be a bit far-fetched.
Many persons probably are non-exclusive about fantasizing without developing a crush. You may know that someone has a crush on you, but there are those who persons may fantasize about without their ever knowing. There may be an area of intersection between the two, but there are also areas where they may be separate and where one may not necessarily lead to the other.
Thanks for the answers to this; it was interesting getting different viewpoints.
by mega1 8 years ago
I'm just sayin - maybe there are alternatives? oh, the pictures in my mind!
by Peeples 5 years ago
Do you think fantasizing is good or bad for a relationship?
by seriousnuts 7 years ago
How do you know when you're in love (not infatuated)?
by Shopping-Online 6 years ago
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by Rajan Singh Jolly 6 years ago
Have you ever been infatuated by someone?Who was it?
by lovelife999 8 years ago
I think when we start thinking and liking someone with zeal to get her/him.what would you say?
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