If you're in a relationship, is being infatuated with others any better than fan

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  1. SpiffyD profile image83
    SpiffyDposted 7 years ago

    If you're in a relationship, is being infatuated with others any better than fantasizing about them?

    I got this response to a question on whether fantasizing was appropriate. I thought it was interesting opinion because infatuation seems a lot worse to me. Do you agree?

  2. Smart is Good profile image58
    Smart is Goodposted 7 years ago

    I agree, Fantasizing is pretty harmless if you're in a committed relationship. By letting your imagination unfold you are pretty much aware that's not possible for it to happen in real life. But If you are infatuated with someone else while being in said committed relationship, feeling can become involved and develop into something more. I know a lot of people who became infatuated with other whilst on a relationship and grew out of love with their partners and ended up breaking up and hurting.

    We all need to be concious if we are in a relationship, and make sure we respect it and avoid situations that might lead to emotional and romantic feeling with someone outside said relationship. Fantasizing is ok, though. I doesn't hurt anyone as long as the stay the way they should stay: just a fantasy.

  3. puddingicecream profile image74
    puddingicecreamposted 7 years ago

    I also agree that infatuation is worse than fantasizing.

  4. IntuitiveMind profile image58
    IntuitiveMindposted 7 years ago

    If you're in a relationship with someone, why "would you" fantasize about another? Get out of the relationship if you want someone else and go for the person you're fantasizing about. You'll soon learn that until you're really happy, the same thing will happen over and over. It's hurtful for a mate to be infatuated or fantasize about someone else - and very unnecessary.

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 7 years ago

    Well, this is the thing  When you are infatuated with someone, you will fantasize about them.  So it isn't a case of "either/or", but more like one leads to the other. If you are infatuated with someone, aren't you fantasizing about them? If you are fantasizing about someone, aren't you infatuated with them?

    1. SpiffyD profile image83
      SpiffyDposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I don't see how fantasizing about someone necessarily indicates infatuation. It is more likely that you'd fantasize about someone with whom you're infatuated though. A lot also depends on whether the object of fantasy is real/imagined as well.

  6. SpiffyD profile image83
    SpiffyDposted 7 years ago

    The person who "inspired' the question had the notion that infatuation was much worse than fantasizing. I don't agree, since I believe that when you have a crush about them, you may fantastize about being with them on different levels anyway. However, to say that fantasizing necessarily leads to crushes may be a bit far-fetched.

    Many persons probably are non-exclusive about fantasizing without developing a crush. You may know that someone has a crush on you, but there are those who persons may fantasize about without their ever knowing. There may be an area of intersection between the two, but there are also areas where they may be separate and where one may not necessarily lead to the other.

    Thanks for the answers to this; it was interesting getting different viewpoints.


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