How do you know when you're in love (not infatuated)?

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  1. seriousnuts profile image64
    seriousnutsposted 7 years ago

    How do you know when you're in love (not infatuated)?

  2. tritrain profile image83
    tritrainposted 7 years ago

    My Mom always used to tell me to wait a good 6 months, which is about how long it takes for the infatuation to wear off.

    To me there is a difference of feelings involved.

    Love is less about nervous butterflies in the stomach and more about overall appreciation and respect for the other person.

    Infatuation is more like nerves, constantly thinking about the other person, very superficial, almost like shock.

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    Jussara Scottonposted 7 years ago

    For me passion is restless, full of questions, makes me anxious. Love is more peaceful, makes me lighter ...

  4. Matt in Jax profile image68
    Matt in Jaxposted 7 years ago

    I agree with tritrain. It takes a long amount of time and also I think experience with past relationships to know what was just a crush and what was actual love also helps tremendously.

  5. curiousx profile image59
    curiousxposted 7 years ago

    The day you really are in love, you would feel very funny for posting this question..

    When you are in love, no one can challenge it, including yourself..

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    Infatuation usually consist of you coming out of yourself trying to appease and impress the one you are attracted to.  Usually when you are in Love you don't do that.  You may start out doing that but for whatever reason you feel good being yourself regardless of who you are.  In addition to feeling good about yourself you want to improve yourself amongst other great things

  7. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    You have to know "yourself".

    When we don't know who we are, what we want, or need in a mate then we can never be sure if we are "in love", "in lust", "infatuated" or simply feeling strong "chemistry".
    It takes time to figure out who you are and it also takes time to learn if someone is a suitable match.(Thus fall in love)
    One can become "infatuated" in a single afternoon!

  8. Ranzi profile image80
    Ranziposted 7 years ago

    Imagine this person becomes deformed in a fire. Would you still be able to love them after that?

  9. maria.rose profile image35
    maria.roseposted 7 years ago

    It’s when you are pinned down by a force so great that you are blinded by it. It’s knowing that even when the worst shows itself that you will never be separated from that special someone.

  10. zduckman profile image59
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    I think it is really easy to  have constant thoughts of that person, you want to do things to make them enjoy just being in their company ...and yes ...Infatuation is different

  11. Ashantina profile image59
    Ashantinaposted 7 years ago

    You dont want to change them... you like them alot... and you love them for who they are... there are no airs or graces... there is passion... there is respect... and a connection that goes beyond words...


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