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Is moving out of the state you live in a good way to start over in life?

  1. cincin621 profile image57
    cincin621posted 6 years ago

    Is moving out of the state you live in a good way to start over in life?

    I have been contemplating a move out of state in order to start over with a clean slate. I just feel like a change of scenery will jump start a new beginning.

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    Indeed it is.........or then again can be!  I knew I needed a change 4 years ago when I left New York.  But unfortunately for me I really just needed a vacation, some time away and I got it and now I am back in New York because there is really no place like home!  I don't know if you'll get a clean slate but you definitely get a chance to meet different people, reside in a new environment as well as experience rare mentalities amongst other things-----> Best of wishes with your decision

  3. Rhachael profile image56
    Rhachaelposted 6 years ago

    I believe it is. But only if that is what you make it. You can move out of state and still end up in the same situation, just in a different place. So make the most of the opportunity! I myself will be moving out of state soon partly for this very reason. moving out of state is the best option for me but isnt always necessary to make a change.

  4. Jonesy0311 profile image60
    Jonesy0311posted 6 years ago

    Definitley. I moved out of state when I was 18. Then again to another state at 22 and I am planning another move in about two years. I don't think anyone can experience life when their entire world is only as big as their home town. You have to gain perspective. I like to go on at least one cross country road trip a year. In fact, it was on a raod trip that I decided where I wanted to move this next time around. I recommend travelling as often as you can. Don't get sucked into the system; spending your life in one chair, at one office, in one building, only to drive your car to your couch in your house.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    If you are thinking about it then it's probably the right thing for you. When I was 21 I moved from the Midwest to Southern California and it was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life.  Whether one stays relocated forever or not they are bound to learn something about themself during the journey. In past generations moving away for better opportunities or adventure was a common thing. You have to be willing to "embrace" the change/differences you will encounter.

    One has to "grow or evolve" which leads to making decisions .
    "When we change, our circumstances change." Make sure you are moving because YOU have changed and not because you hope a new place will change you. "Wherever you go, there you are." You can't move away from yourself.

  6. cincin621 profile image57
    cincin621posted 6 years ago

    Thanks to all of you smile. I have always known I wasn't meant to live here that is why I have never purchased any property in doing so I would almost certainly be stuck here. At this point in my life I have grown so much and have discovered that I have many toxic people in my life that I was blinded to before. My job is in constant turmoil and I have rolled with the punches for 8 years and it never stops and I'm realizing the drain on my postive energy daily.

    I know these kind of things can happen anywhere and I'm fully aware if I move I can be in this very situation there. i just really want out of the city and live somewhere closer to nature since being with nature is what really feeds my soul and is a place for me to recharge and become centered and always helps me fight the negativity smile

    1. manatita44 profile image83
      manatita44posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Cool. I feel for you. There is no hard and fast rule in anything. Know for certain that the voice of conscience is your only Friend. If it is strong enough so that you can get a clear message, then follow it. Be alert with toxic others. Much peace.

  7. Eric Winship profile image57
    Eric Winshipposted 6 years ago

    I'm 37, recently divorced and just did such a thing.  Ive lived in Arizona for most of my life and decided to move to Minnesota to live near my brother.  Here are the pro's and con's:
    - You miss all your friends (this is the hardest for me)
    - You lose all your networks
    - You get introduced to all new cultures
    -  Allergies (lol...this was an issue for me)
    -  Adjusting to weather
    -  Being lonely

    It does not fix anything.  I got away from my ex and that circle of friends but also left all my other circles of friends.  So in a way it kind of hinders you.  I don't regret moving because I have met new people and I really do enjoy Minnesota but it didn't really fix what I was trying to escape from.  Dont know if that helps any.

  8. NiaG profile image89
    NiaGposted 6 years ago

    Don't see how it can hurt. You never know what's over some place else's horizon.

  9. formercal profile image54
    formercalposted 5 years ago

    Absolutely. Prime example: I left California in 1994, headed to Washington, DC to continue my career I started in Northern California. I never looked back, and it is 2011 now. I subsequently retired in 2009 after 22 years with this particular agency on Capitol Hill. But my point is, changing your environment is always the best policy. I believe in one main conceptual theme, and that is, people do not change. But, their changes come with adapting to a changing environment. California, in particular, is a dying state. It's only a matter of time. Voters in that state have elected some of the most ignorant unknowing politicians within the past 30 years, that is oftentimes embarrassing for me to mention to people I am from California. There are very few states in this Country with an even temperament and knowledge base worth actually living in. I would suggest, however, to anyone looking to relocate, the North-Eastern section is probably the best, i.e., Vermont, Mass, Rhode Island, Upstate New York, etc...

  10. manatita44 profile image83
    manatita44posted 3 years ago

    It may help initially, but know that wherever you go you take the mind with you. The quest for peace necessitates an inward look and not an outer one. Not 'she did this to me', 'they are my enemies', but rather How can I best rest in joy? How can I be in tune with the Inner Will.

    Think of the words 'Accountability' or 'Personal Responsibility'. One day you will leave this world and do not be surprised if you are not asked about anyone else but you, in Heaven. Go inward, and start NOW. The Mind rarely changes with re-locations, and unsolved issues with oneself is sure to reappear or reveal its ugly head. Pray for guidance.

  11. Jennifer Bart profile image58
    Jennifer Bartposted 3 years ago

    You can only run  so far from yourself  if the problem is you then the answer is no. If the problem is your environment then yes. It all depends what your running for or from.