Is marriage in the heart or the ring?

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   workloadposted 12 years ago

   Is marriage in the heart or the ring?

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   Gabriel Wilsonposted 12 years ago

   I would hope for everyone that their marriage is in the heart. A ring on the finger without the marriage in the heart is nothing; a piece of metal. In the long run, no ring will make anyone happy. A good marriage on the other hand will. I'd wear a piece of string on my finger to symbolize the marriage in my heart. And if marriage isn't in the heart... forget it.

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   workloadposted 12 years ago

   you have a good point there.thanks for passing by

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   JEDIJESSICUHposted 12 years ago

   The heart, definitely. I didn't even get a ring until four months after my husband and I got married. I'd originally proposed to him and our wedding took place when he was on leave from the army, less than two weeks after we'd gotten engaged. A ring is a material possession. If marriage existed on the premise of how nice or beautiful or perfect a ring was, a lot of marriages would be over by now.

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   wychicposted 12 years ago

   Quite definitely in the heart. My husband likes to joke about, "I have a piece of paper and a strip of metal that says you're mine," but we both know that they wouldn't mean a thing -- and wouldn't have come to be -- if the heart weren't involved first. There was a time, and it still is in some cultures, where marriage was a business contract more than anything else -- a contract for children, economic security, and a partnership in tending to the home property -- but that is not my culture, and it is not how I went into my current relationship. For us, it's just a bonus that children and top-notch business partners have resulted...without the love, we wouldn't have been able to weather the trials to keep these scraps of metal on our fingers.

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   misiuloaf5posted 12 years ago

   Unfortunately, for some people, it's in the ring. Which I feel is wrong! It should always be in the heart. Never in the ring.

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