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   Andrea B.posted 14 years ago

   I've seen my dad beat up on my mo so many times and I never understood why my mom is with him he put her in the hopital so may times and she stayed with him.One day my mom packed us up and left.
             We moved so many times and didn't want to make friends.Then my mom met a new guy who wanted to kill her a throw her in the river and go on with his life like nothing happened.he started touching my sister and me after druging my mom.I told my mom what was going on and she never believed me.This went on for four years and I got so pissed that I sat and waited for her on the front step at our apartment.When she got home I started to cry and told her that he was touching me.She went in to confront him and he yelled and threw her into the wall.
           When the cops came I told them what happened and they went in to get him.My mom went into a program were she fond GOD and now she is married to a great guy that tells her she is beautiful everyday.EVERY WOMAN DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH LOVE AND RESPECT.Any man that don't think that can go to hell..

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      Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed. I'm a victim of abuse too. There are good ways to let the past go and start walking into a good life. It takes time and a lot of work. I'm happy your mom found a good man.
      
      You have a lot to say.  I hope you'll write lots of hubs. Glad you are here. Welcome to the neighborhood.

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      DallDposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry this happened to your family.  I feel the anger in your words.  Love should not hurt, ever.  Now that things have changed, work on the help you may need.  This is one way as one person said, sometimes just writing it down helps but, make a promise to yourself.. don't carry the hate around with you, it will just eat you alive.  Find your source of treatment, and find yourself, learn about what you like, learn about you.. I hope you have only good things in your life now..
      Dall

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   archdawposted 14 years ago

   You will find that you have a lot in common with others in this community.  I started off writing about true life things, things that I needed to say and get off my chest, but was ashamed to tell anyone in person.  I found by writing them down it eased my mind a lot.
   
   Good luck to you and your writings!! and WELCOME, WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOU......

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   bearnmomposted 14 years ago

   Your story is so sad and unfortunately not all that uncommon.  Being from an abusive situation, I have seen first hand all of the grief it causes not only the abused person but the others who live in the household with you.  It took a good man for me to see that it was not my fault and to give me the courage to walk away through the court system.  Together we raised a good family but there will always be that hint of what was.  I have come to know it was not my fault but only the fault of our abuser.  He turned to alcohol and it made him what he was.  He has also quit drinking and come full turn away from his old behavior but I still would not trust him which is the saddest part of the whole situation.

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      Andrea B.posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I will never forgive the people who hurt my mom and I either and it kills me knowing that one of them is my dad.

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   AEvansposted 14 years ago

   That is such a sad story and I am so glad that you, your siblings and your mom were blessed. Women are murdered every year due to men like them. I also hope that you will not repeat what your mom went through you to have to break the cycle in order to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship. I wish all of you the best!

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      Andrea B.posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      A guy has hit me before and I left as soon as it happened.I told him that I would never put myself in the position.

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   I hardly know how to respond to this. Some men are just plain evil, and some women too. I am glad your Mom found her way and I hope all is well with you. Brave of you to share, thanks.

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   Luciendaskyposted 14 years ago

   I don't know why people tend to go from one bad relationship to another - the same thing is happening with my sister right now and it breaks my heart.

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      Jewels2940posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Some people truly do not understand. I was once in this type of relationship and I was asked this over and over why I stayed by friends and family members. Usually along with the physical abuse, mental abuse is present. You get so beat down mentally, you just take the physically abuse. You mistake your partner being nice for love and when he/she is nice, you forgive them for whatever they have done before. It's a cycle and for someone to break this cycle, you have to love yourself first and know and believe you deserve better in life! No matter what anyone tells you, YOU have to wake up and realize, if not, the cycle starts over!

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         mward1125posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Great answer. I've worked as a cop for 13 years, and along the way, I've responded to too many domestic violence calls. A lot of the time, even though we handle the immediate situation, the abuser goes back to the abused, for just the reasons you wrote. I saw it too with child crimes, although the reasons there a bit different.  All we can do is keep trying to get the info on what resources are available and hope our actions can make a difference.  I glad to see from the replies here that people do find the courage and rebuild--I usually don't ever get to see the end results. I really like all the positive comments here!
         
         

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   Yesterday is History...........Tomorrow....A Mystery ................Today is a Gift .........That's why we call it the Present ...............If you Always live in the present then the past can't hurt you

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      Luciendaskyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I like this a lot

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         Andrea B.posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         So true I like this one very much..

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   creativeone59posted 14 years ago

   Welcome to hub pages, you'll be right at home here becuse there are people here, like me and others that has been through some harrowing experiences, and writing about it makes you feel a lot better because writing is a release of negative vibrations. I'm glad you stood up for yourself and Thank god your mom got help and is back on the right road. You'll be fine, just cranking out the hubs. lol. creativeone59

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   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   I've watched my Mom suffer years of abuse, I never could figure it out. I hate and love my dad and I can't figure that out either.

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    errum fattahposted 14 years ago

    well, my father is having two wifes one my own mother and second another, my dad use to give equal rights to them he's kind, he never beated any of them even he gives equal love to me as well as my step siblings. but ur story is so sad.
       i dont know y men dont agrees tht he is living cuz of women
    i hate mans

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    FrankiesGirl6Yrposted 14 years ago

    I am also a victim of Domestic violent. The question to why women stay with their abusers can't be answered by one because there are so many different answers as to why.. Most involved in DV relationships have deeper issues that exsisted before the relationship began. Although those issue may be deep enough that they weren't consciously noticed, they are there. It seems these abusers know exactly how to dig those issues up and use them against you.
    I am so happy your mother found a wounderful person to share her life with. God, seemed to be her thearpy.
    
    How lucky we are, those of us who have been in a violent relationship and survived. Every 6 minutes a women is killed through Domestic Violince. Check out my True Story of suvival

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