Why are some people afraid of commitment in a relationship?

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   rajan jollyposted 13 years ago

   Why are some people afraid of commitment in a relationship?

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   I honestly believe there are very few people who are "afraid" of having someone who loves them through thick and thin. In fact I suspect everyone wants that eventually. A lot of this "fear of commitment" is a label used by lovers/mates of people who are upset because they do not see them as being "the one".
   
   Another common expression is "He/She doesn't know what he or she wants". If a person is indecisive it's a "clue" they don't believe you are "the one".
   The most important question then becomes, "Why would I want to commit to someone who isn't sure they want to commit to me?"
   
   Your "soul-mate" will always be someone who recognizes you as being THEIR "soul-mate".  Anytime you have to "sell", "persuade", or give an "ultimatum" in order to get a person to (commit) to you then you are with the wrong person. Every (serious relationship/marriage) should at least start off with BOTH people wanting the same thing.

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   ubanichijiokeposted 13 years ago

   Some view it as a kind of 'cage' whereby their freedom [sexual fantasies with the men or women folk] and happiness will be restricted.
   But, some are still waiting for the Mr or Mrs 'riGHt' Thanks

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   courtlneygdtmposted 13 years ago

   I think maybe the one of the persons involved may have endured a hurtful relationship and do not want to go through that experience again.  Another reason, among others,  is the person does not want to be beladen to one person, and still wants his or her freedom.
   
   --courtlneygdtm

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   Trevor Davisposted 13 years ago

   Some people are afraid of change and they're scared that commitment might change their lives for the worse. They may be unwilling to trade the life they have now for what may seem to them a gamble for the future.

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