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Why are people afraid of making mistakes?

  1. LensMan999 profile image52
    LensMan999posted 4 years ago

    Why are people afraid of making mistakes?

    It is said that we learn from our mistakes. So why to be afraid of making a mistake?


  2. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Some people are scared to take a risk and feel making a mistake will discourage them but one should be  learning  from their mistakes. Mistakes also can put them on edge.

  3. KDeus profile image95
    KDeusposted 4 years ago

    I think the biggest reason that people are afraid of making mistakes is because they fear failure. As a society, we are scrutinized on nearly every thing we do - how we do our job, run our business, raise our kids, even our body image. Heavy people get made fun of, there's always someone next in line for our job, a new company is competing for your business with a fancy new website, society watches to make sure our kids aren't disciplined in a way that could be perceived as something it's not. We are always being watched and the pressures can add up to the point we stress ourselves out for even the tiniest mistake.

    I think, in general, we worry too much about what other people think or how we'll be perceived. We have to learn to be comfortable with "us" and how we approach things (as long as it's really not detrimental). When we become accepting of ourselves, I think we'll be less afraid to make mistakes and when we do, take lessons from them and apply them to improve upon ourselves for US.

  4. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    I am afraid of making mistake or many mistakes. Afraid to be scolded in front of others whether outsiders or family members. Afraid to be looked down and lost of confidence.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image91
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      peachpurple, you say that and yet you put yourself out here on HubPages for all the world to see! I think that you are not giving yourself enough credit for being the awesome person that you are and capable of taking risks and occasional mistakes!

  5. EJ Lambert profile image73
    EJ Lambertposted 4 years ago

    Fear of a mistake is drawn from the disappointment and anger other people exude when said person makes that mistake.  That is almost always the sole reason people are hesitant to be decisive in anything.  It is why we sometimes idolize those certain characters, in any profession, who are able to ignore the idea of making a mistake and going ahead with their decisions.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image91
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very true, EJ Lambert! I totally agree!

  6. Billie Kelpin profile image86
    Billie Kelpinposted 4 years ago

    The greatest response I ever heard was from a person who had been been involved in the Viet Nam War.  When asking him, many years ago,  why he wasn't afraid to make a very bold decision at work he responded, "What are they going to do to me?  Draft me?  Send me to Viet Nam?"  I use that phrase every once and a while when faced with a difficult decision and worry about the mistake I might make.  "What are they doing to do?  Draft me?  Send me to Viet Nam?"  I ask myself.  While that phrase has no relevance to me in the year 2013, it portrays the concept that when you minimize what you have to lose, you become bold in your decision making.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image91
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Brilliant analysis!

  7. Andy McGuire profile image78
    Andy McGuireposted 4 years ago

    Most because a lot of us don't know how to learn from them. I've written a hub or 2 along these lines.

  8. Darrell Roberts profile image69
    Darrell Robertsposted 4 years ago

    Most people want to be loved and thought of in a positive light.  I think that people fear making mistakes because they think that other people will think less of them.  Another reason is that a mistake could potentially harm another person and not many people would feel good about harming another person. 

    Best wishes

  9. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    We've been taught that no one's perfect yet when we make mistakes,it's treated as ineptitude at best& a mortal transgression at worst.What people don't realize is  mistakes are growth opportunities. read more

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      This hub is an answer to this question, please check it out.

  10. IDONO profile image82
    IDONOposted 4 years ago

    I believe fear of making a mistake is due to a low self esteem. A lack of confidence in ones self, both in decision making and ability. Many tend to sell themselves short and in the process, cheat themselves out of obtainable things due to lack of trying. Fear is the most powerful of emotions and can make us do or not do things that we would never dream of.
         I had an old boss that told me," There are no mistakes. Only opportunities." It took a long time to understand that, but I think he meant that a mistake gave you a chance to realize exactly where you stand in a situation, which gives you a foundation to build on for a better result in whatever you are trying to accomplish.

    1. Laura Schneider profile image91
      Laura Schneiderposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Another brilliant analysis, IDONO! Your old boss was wise--I wish all bosses were like that.

  11. Laura Schneider profile image91
    Laura Schneiderposted 4 years ago

    Sometimes the consequences of making a mistake can be extreme, such as losing your job or house or spouse.

    Most of the time, however, I think people are afraid of making mistakes because mistakes are considered failures--negatives--in at least my society, if not most. People generally want to please others and be agreeable and successful (those traits are society pluses), so making a mistake can indeed be a big negative and people are often more ashamed of making mistakes rather than pleased that they took the chance to do something and learned from their mistake.

    Also, some people DON'T learn from their mistakes (I think most people are guilty of that at times, some moreso than others).