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How to amuse yourself specially if you want to get over with someone?

  1. Julie Nou profile image59
    Julie Nouposted 6 years ago

    How to amuse yourself specially if you want to get over with someone?

  2. Lord De Cross profile image81
    Lord De Crossposted 6 years ago

    Get busy in your own field: Music, writing or a hobby that might help you to clear feelings. If you miss him, just write in a piece of paper why you miss him and on another piece, why you should get over with. This process will trigger your mind to get to ponder the situation better. sometines we look for excuses to hang on to someone. And lastly, get a female or best friend to talk about. good luck.

  3. dadibobs profile image60
    dadibobsposted 6 years ago

    Remove all evidence of being with them. Move your furniture round, that way the memories of where they sat etc are reduced. If you are bitter you could set up a blog with all of those just woke up pics lol, if not you could just send them back or even bin them. Either way you then need to concentrate on you, do whatever makes you happy, but try not to throw yourself into another relationship yet. Remove the rubbish from the past, before restocking your cupboards lol.

  4. gauravamberkar profile image59
    gauravamberkarposted 6 years ago

    Well kinda difficult to remove memories. All the answer are right here so I will not write the same words as 'lord de cross' said is appropriate but let me include one thing, time is the best solution. Your unconscious mind will start rejecting your negations or happenings after some time. So let it be as it is just do your work and learn some new things that you have not included in your life or you could not because of your business with that person.

  5. KrystalD profile image79
    KrystalDposted 6 years ago

    I agree with lord de cross...get into YOU!
    1.    Follow your passions or discover them if you don't know them. Doing what you love is a positive, self-affirming action.
    2.    Try something new that you have always wanted to do. Adventure is fun and shows you how courageous you are!
    3.    Reconnect with friends and family. Nurturing healthy relationships in your life will boost your self-esteem and ease any loneliness that tries to come in.
    4.     Go on a retreat to refuel and reflect. It is important to process what just happened. I like to think of it as reviewing lessons learned smile

  6. wonderful1 profile image85
    wonderful1posted 6 years ago

    Great points here, and lord de cross is spot on: do what you are passionate about, makes you happy, and spend time talking with people who care about you.

    If that isn't working, you can always "break the emergency glass" and have a one night stand. Use protection and stay safe. It may not make the heartache go away, but it can sure release a lot of pent up steam (or maybe that was just me?).

  7. Julie Nou profile image59
    Julie Nouposted 6 years ago

    thanks for the input guys, you all helped.. I'll jot down your ideas big_smile

  8. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    * Delete them from your facebook friends and block them.  You don't want to know what someone's up to when you're trying to get over them.  Delete or restrict their friends on your profile too. No news about an ex is good news as it helps you to fade them from your thoughts.
    *  Delete all of their numbers and email addresses from your phone and computer.  Just so your not temped to contact them at some weak point.
    *  Call up those single friends you haven't been in touch with lately and organise to catch up with them.  Make plans to visit relatives to catch up too.
    *  If the weather's nice - get out in the sunshine, have a dip in the ocean, or go for a run - It's amazing how good it will make you feel, and how peaceful it is.
    *  Take up that leisure class you've always wanted to do - Salsa, Tennis, etc.
    *  Take a mini-holiday - Just a night away somewhere you can drive to with your close friends will do.
    *  Get yourself a new haircut, or new dress.
    *  Have a big night out dancing.
    *  When your at home alone do something to occupy your mind, craft, painting, reorganising your wardrobe, anything that doesn't allow you time to sit around moping.

    Hope these ideas help, best wishes for a new start in 2012!

  9. juiwei2000 profile image61
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    Remeber, love is not a necessity of life, it is a luxury.

    Remeber, if you never met him/her before, would you have this problem now?  So, just pretend the two of you never met

    Remeber, if you like Disney land, would you get depress by the idea you can't stay there 24/7.  Just like Disney land, keep the good memory, but remeber, life need to move on.  Just like you need to move on with your life, after Disney land.

    Remeber, he/she is not a necessity

    Remeber, why you guys break up

  10. profile image49
    Crushedposted 6 years ago

    It's hard to find much amusing during this time but my true friends keep me company and invite me over to keep me occupied wink I'm taking baby steps towards feeling happy again. But. Just one thing....have self respect and don't rush into another relationship!! Stick to going out with friends and take the time to grieve !! It will give you a better outlook and see the lessons learned. You will feel much more whole in the end AND when the new beginning, begins!!