What makes a soulmate?

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  1. The Gift of Pen profile image61
    The Gift of Penposted 11 years ago

    What makes a soulmate?

    Do you believe in soulmates? If so, what makes one? And how do you believe you can go about finding one? Do you even have to try?


  2. Cristale profile image85
    Cristaleposted 11 years ago

    I married mine. A soul mate is your other half that can always read your mind and know what you are going to do before you do it. You can complete each other's sentences and connect on a totally different level than any one else before that person. You can try to find them, but it always seems to happen when you are not expecting it or not even looking for it. And it is true when they say "You just know"

    1. connorj profile image69
      connorjposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I was going to answer this question; yet, you have answered for me. If I was to leave my thoughts, they would indeed be relatively the same...

    2. iamageniuster profile image67
      iamageniusterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer. I totally agree.

    3. jellygator profile image92
      jellygatorposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto. It's weird, compared to any other relationship I've had. Our worst arguments don't involve raised voices and are within minutes. He asks me "Did you say such-and-such a minute ago?" and it was something I didn't say, but was thinking. Etc. Etc

  3. neeleshkulkarni profile image40
    neeleshkulkarniposted 11 years ago

    soulmates are made not born.they have to be forged by working on the relationship which gradually evolves into one where the closeness is unbeatable.all those that keep looking for soulmates and facing disappointment all the time are only escaping form reality by looking for something which has to be created.
    True, when you start off in a relationship there have to be commonalities, but then that is how we get into relationships anyway and for extending it beyond the limits of just another relationship to a soulmate status one has to work on it.

  4. krsharp05 profile image72
    krsharp05posted 11 years ago

    A soul mate is the person who makes you a better version of yourself.  It’s a partner who champions every success and picks you up when you falter and fail.  A soul mate recognizes your quirks and uniqueness and loves you even more because of them.  This person is not afraid to ask for your advice, apologize or say they are wrong if they hurt you.  It’s a partner that teaches you and learns from you and recognizes that this life is an adventure and the two of you are in this together – through good times and bad, uphill or down.  This is the only person you want to wake up to in the morning and go to sleep with at night - the only person you want to love in this life.

    Don't search. It will happen when the time is right.  When a person is emotionally mature enough to turn loose of predispositions about relationships and really love someone, that's when it happens.

  5. epigramman profile image59
    epigrammanposted 11 years ago

    ...a  very deep soulful and probing question: hard to just go out and pick a soulmate.
    Perhaps it's just a bit of good luck, timing and karma ......a soul mate is not necessarily someone who enjoys the same interests as you; I believe that a soul mate can be someone much like a kindred spirit who not just 'believes you, but believes IN you' - so you could take several lifetimes and never find your true soul mate' - it's all about destiny and fate and it doesen't always arrive in a tidy neat package like in the movies ...... lake erie time ontario canada 10:32pm

    1. krsharp05 profile image72
      krsharp05posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well put epigramman

  6. Voxxen profile image69
    Voxxenposted 11 years ago

    A soulmate is someone with whom, no matter at what age you meet, you feel a kinship with them as if you’ve known them your entire life.  They just “get you” on a level that no one ever has.  They are the melody to your lyrics; the rhythm to your dance, and the beat to your heart.  It may not be the person you’ve expected, and it does not have to be someone with whom you have a romantic, intimate relationship -- A soulmate could also be a dear friend whose life intertwines with yours, sharing the celebrations, tragedies, and everything in between -- without question or judgement, only love and unconditional support.  It is rare and beautiful to find your soulmate -- there is a school of thought that believes that true soul mates will find one another, and that is the philosophy to which I subscribe.   And if you do.find one another, hold tight and cherish every moment

  7. connorj profile image69
    connorjposted 11 years ago

    I agree with Cristale's answer; although if I may add, when you meet your "soulmate" it may well be significantly coincidental in nature. The coincidence may be the key to discerning the moment. You and her/him met at the same time and space. Think about it! You may begin to discern that another force was perhaps responsible for this collision...

  8. JIN1128 profile image91
    JIN1128posted 11 years ago

    a person that warms your heart.  And time seems to go so fast when you spend time with that person.

  9. mackyi profile image67
    mackyiposted 11 years ago

    A person who is always there for you, not only in good times, but also in bad times. Someone who you can trust. Someone you can always talk to, just about everything.

  10. Jaggedfrost profile image60
    Jaggedfrostposted 11 years ago

    IMO a Soulmate is a rare phenomenon where a relationship deepens much faster then average.  The connection between the couple is unalterable and irrevocable.  It either causes the couple to grow stronger because it doesn't matter what baggage exists in the relationship there is a compulsion to get through it and an inability to walk away that feels almost as binding as shackles. 

    A Soul mate is a dangerous person because they will either build you up or the unalterable connection breaks both down till both start doing anything they can think of to destroy the relationship and get the other person to walk away because they can't bring themselves to do it.

  11. Winsome profile image78
    Winsomeposted 11 years ago

    One of the most enjoyable movies around this theme is Serendipity with John Cusak and Kate Beckinsale. I don't know about their method of five dollar bill and book coming back to you, but I do know there is a power at work that brings people into your life.

  12. CriticalMessage profile image68
    CriticalMessageposted 11 years ago

    It is that feeling.. that unquestionable knowing.. little needing to be said.

  13. padmendra profile image45
    padmendraposted 11 years ago

    The fact of life is that it is very rare when someone meets his/her soul mate. You need not to go and search your soul mate as it happens only when decided by destiny. If you are lucky enough to meet your soul mate, you may experience an amazing feeling with palpitation of your heart would run faster and you would feel . sizzling.  I personally believe in soul mate as some of the real stories have given us an understanding that   soul mate definitely exists in and around us.

  14. Mmargie1966 profile image85
    Mmargie1966posted 11 years ago

    A soul mate is another person who can look into your eyes when you first meet, and you both feel as though you know each other.

    I believe soul mates can communicate without opening their mouths.  They instinctively know when their partner is hurt or upset.

    I don't know how to tell you to look for your soul mate.  Actually, I think you should just wait for your soul mate.  Continue on with your life as you please without expectations, and your soul mate will find you in time.

  15. Hunbbel Meer profile image77
    Hunbbel Meerposted 11 years ago

    Two persons, who can really understand them. Compatibility is a big concern here. Moreover, true love, compassion, honesty and loyalty are other important factors IMO.

    Maybe, you would like to read my hub about it: http://hunbbel-meer.hubpages.com/hub/So … onal-Prose

  16. profile image0
    Ladybuledposted 11 years ago

    The one that shares our happiness with. The one and only one that stays when we're in trouble and tears. The one that says "do not change", accept us for who we are and won't hesitate to remind us when we're not. The one that knows when to be a friend, a listener, and our lover..

  17. tHErEDpILL profile image83
    tHErEDpILLposted 11 years ago

    There is no such thing as a soul mate.  This is something that was invented years ago to trick people into staying together.  The trick doesn't seem to be working anymore.

  18. algarveview profile image76
    algarveviewposted 11 years ago

    Being what's missing in you... I do believe in soulmates, I think I found mine, he was far from me, then for years we lived next to each other and never met, then at the right moment, when we were ready to meet... when we had been out and about, grown, lived, learned... when we were just right for each other, ready, we met... We didn't have to try, we just met and it was right... he is what is missing in me... he is part of me... he is my friend... my lover... and I cannot get enough of him... I mean, how could I? How would I get by without half of me...

  19. dashingscorpio profile image82
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    A soulmate is someone you feel a strong connection with. You (naturally agree) on the major things in life as well as share the same values and goals for the relationship.
    This does not mean they can "read your mind" nor are they exactly like you. One needs to be with someone who can offer a different perspective from time to time. Our goal is not to marry the mirror but rather to find someone we (naturally) are in sync with in order to build a future together.
    Lastly, in order for him/her to be "the one" they must also see you as being "the one". The underlying definition of a soulmate is having (mutual feelings) or desires for one another. If for example one person wants to get married and the other one does not, I would say they are NOT each other's "soulmate". Obviously their desires or goals for the relationship are not in line.


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