What is the appropriate age to become sexually active?
I have heard everything including 18,21, when your ready, when you're married and never! I think its interesting to see how what people say corresponds to where they are in their life's so if you feel comfortable, please include a small bit about why you feel this way.
I don't think there's a general specific age or right of passage to start becoming sexually active. If you're body is capable, then you can have sex.
But since we all must live under social restraints and our sexual decisions can result in huge shifts in our lives and the lives of others - here are some guidelines to determine if someone should have sex, at whatever age
1. When you're ready and responsible. This includes when your partner is ready and responsible as well.
2. If you're not financially and emotionally prepared to have children, then you need to know about, understand, and use at least one of the many types of contraception available.
3. You need to be aware of the different types of infections you can contract from sexual activity and know how to spot the symptoms. You need to know what to do to receive treatment as well as prevent catching and spreading such infections.
4. You need to be mature enough to associate intercourse with intimacy, as physical way of connecting with a person you care deeply for.
5. If you're still living with your parents, you need to come to an understanding with them about sexual activity, guidelines to follow at home, etc.
When YOU can afford the possible results of your actions. Can YOU afford children? Can YOU afford insurance to pay for any diseases? If YOU can't pay your own way, keep your pants on.
Physically, emotionally & mentally spoken: As soon every of theses mentioned
Levels in you, work hand in hand & have no issue with the
subject and you're mature enough to come to a healthy
conclusion for yourself to have a sexual relation.
Point is, the more you as a parent, will make the subject something "dirty" or scary in the eyes of a teenager, the more you're likely to fail on your goal to make them avoid to do such decisions when they happen to be really strong individuals and "Self-aware"! After the age of 15-16, you might as a parent, do a better job by making sure they are well informed about everything that has to do with sexuality, their own desires and what makes the experience a beautiful one, rather than to run them into guilt & morality concepts about sex that often have nothing to do with how they feel inside and will make more damage than any good. Strong individuals are going to do it on their terms anyway and without you knowing it as a parent. So, personally I prefer give my girl/boy advices on what to take care of when it comes to it rather than to brainwash them into avoiding the practical aspect of the question! That just isn't healthy. Some people preferably would have their children to remain their "little baby" for their whole life and miss to see that they grow up. Yes, they see it ... but have issues to accept it, & so it is with their children's sexuality that should also grow on a healthy manner.
No matter the age, be supportive instead of restrictive and make your children be smart about the way they handle the question, what doesn't mean here:
"Let's Extend the moment of their sexual experience as far as possible in time..like... -No Sex Until Marriage- ...or... -the later it happens, the better- ..."
That's manipulation to fit your bill, not theirs!!! They've to make these decisions on their own at some point and making them dysfunctional about their own sexuality won't help at all and is even likely to back fire in your face one day if not directly! Something for every parents to discover on their own I guess ...
The needed Maturity & being ready for Sex is not a question of age; it just doesn't work that way, no matter if we accept it or not!
The age where you're an adult capable of supporting a child on your own without government assistance.
What about for those who use Debo (a type of birth control that prevents pregnancy) or another type of birth control
I think that people who truly love each other should wait for marriage. Sex is truly underrated, it can lead to so much and means so much. Unfortunately, in the real world, we have real hormones so if I had to choose an age,I'd say 21,if your old enough to drink, you are probably old enough to get it on, as long as you are SAFE!
When your old enough to understand what virtue is and what REAL love is all about
I agree with the answer given by 'madmachio'.
It is all about understanding the true nature of anything, before implying it.
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