Should women be blamed if they are sexually abused due to their promiscuous dres

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   tonytochimposted 10 years ago

   Should women be blamed if they are sexually abused due to their promiscuous dressing?

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   TheYoosufposted 10 years ago

   I would say that if the woman who was raped was promiscuously dressed prior to being raped then yes she certainly did increase the chances of the rapist choosing her over the other ladies. However, this does not necessarily mean that the entire blame should be on her, in fact the primary blame should be on the rapist because the rapist could even rape a fully covered woman if he is thirsty for it!
   I haven't done statistics on this area, but I would say that the way a woman is dressed contributes to about 30% chance towards getting raped and this could be seen by examining the number of young teenage girls in the west who have got raped or sexually abused by even their own mothers boyfriends or even worse by their own fathers and brothers!

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      Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      If you don't know the statistics, then you should probably refrain from making them up. Your estimate has nothing to do with teenage girls getting raped by known perpetrators.

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   chef-de-jourposted 10 years ago

   No, women should be allowed to wear what they like without the fear of being abused in any way. Purely in terms of clothing, you can't put blame on a woman simply for wearing something fashionable or beautiful - it's the right of everyone to wear what they like within the boundaries of decency. Each country has to work out just what the limits are in their particular society.
   The blame should be fair and square on the shoulders of the perpetrator. I would shudder if I heard this in a courtroom:
   'Why did you abuse this woman?'
   'Because she walked past me wearing a short skirt and a low cut t shirt.'
   'So you attacked her?'
   'Yes, she was obviously asking for it.'
   
   Judge: Whilst you are to blame for the rape young man, for which you'll spend 1 year in jail, I find the woman has been provocative and so I fine her 50$. End of case. Next please!

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   There is no such thing as "promiscuous dressing". Clothes don't have sex. What is sexy, classy, or slutty is in the eye of the beholder.
   Should a man who is carjacked be blamed for driving a Mercedes? Should a family whose mansion is burglarized be blamed because they're rich? What about height, weight, race, age, religion, sexual orientation, or nationality, wrong place/wrong time? No!
   Fashion and style are an extension of the individual wearing them. In a free society you have the right to dress as you please in most places.
   The committing of a crime is a choice the "criminal" or "attacker" makes. The only (obligation) one has is to use commonsense when dealing with people especially strangers and be aware of their surroundings. Looking out for #1 makes a lot of sense.
   Pedestrians have the "right of way" and yet we look both ways before crossing the street. It is possible to be "dead right" 
   However if one is naïve/gullible about the ways of the world or chooses to count their money while walking down an alley, leave their car keys in their ignition overnight on a street, or leave their front door wide open overnight, or even if a woman walked the streets naked....None of these things would be "smart" nor is it giving someone "permission" to take advantage of them.
   The victim does NOT choose the crime!

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   Aime Fposted 10 years ago

   Uh, no.
   
   Studies have shown that women of all ages with different styles of clothing are sexually abused. Vulnerability and opportunity are what rapists look for, not the hemline of a woman's skirt. Not to mention that most sexual assaults come from perpetrators known to the victim, so it's something that's probably been swimming around in their mind for a while and not just a sudden urge when they see a friend showing cleavage.
   
   Victim blaming is for people who are unwilling to take responsibility for their own disgusting actions. It insults everyone's intelligence to insinuate that some men simply can't help but attack a woman or feel that they've somehow been granted permission because she's dressed promiscuously.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   
   
   I see it from both sides slightly. A woman should be able to dress however she chooses without fear of being attacked for it. Men should be taught not to rape. Women shouldn't have to dress a certain way to keep from being attacked. It seems similar to saying "Don't own anything nice and you don't have to worry about being robbed".
   However on the other side we must do more to teach our girls to stay out of situations that increase their chances of being a victim to one of these idiot rapers.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Agree! Everyone has some obligation to look out for themselves and attempt to (reduce) their odds of being targeted for ANY crime. It's just the smart thing to do.

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   deecoleworldposted 10 years ago

   No!!!!! Rape is not about sex but power/control!!! Of course sex is a big part of it, but its not the main part. A lot of men like to think women are only here for their pleasure or to play a mother (cook, clean, have babies). While men are just seen as protectors and providers.
   Men are also physically stronger than women. While oftentimes the victim knew her attacker and alcohol/drugs are involved (I am not saying all cases but a lot of the things I list are the facts in many cases) From that standpoint the attacker/perp acted in a predatory,opportunistic, indirect, and sneaky ways to deceive and sometimes impair the victim to get what they want. But that isn't directly what they want, they want something else which is power. Perhaps alot of rapists feel victimize and powerless and the only way to gain/get power is to physically take it from others.
   Men and women are different and they don't understand each other vice versa. Generally men are sexually motivated perhaps cuss of higher levels of testosterone and women are motivated by companionship/commitment. Both sexes interact with each other based on these agendas in mind. By the way not all men/women are like this, there is room for grey areas but in my personal experience and understanding that is the case.
   I would say that men and women need to understand each gender's basic nature/motivations. Men need to be smarter and women need to be smarter (and careful). This is sad world we live in but we all gotta be careful.
   Even so, a women doesn't ask or wants to be raped, women of all ages, races and dressed in different ways have/can be rape. There is no discrimination. Just as people don't asked to be killed, if you remove the offender the act wouldn't have been committed. Anyway society does need to change its ways and evolve the social construction of gender.

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   Link10103posted 10 years ago

   I cant help but think any GUY who has ever used that excuse is the biggest idiot on the planet. The logic of it reverses itself the moment it is voiced, it implies that the guy had absolutely no self control and just makes them seem like cavemen. Its basically like saying "My penis made me do it, but she is to blame for me raping her". No sense at all.
   
   Walking around naked or completely covered up will hardly have an impact on most rape cases since they involved people who already knew each other to begin with.

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   lisavollrathposted 10 years ago

   Clothing is not consent. Nobody has the right to sexually abuse anyone, for any reason. Nobody who is sexually abused should be blamed for their abusers' actions.

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    christiananrkistposted 10 years ago

    though its poor taste and probably not very smart to dress with a lot of skin showing, especially in certain area's, you must still put the blame on the rapist. rape by its very definition and nature is a FORCED sexual act. in what other area would a violent use of force be questioned just because the victim is being a little naive or has poor taste?

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    cebutouristspotposted 10 years ago

    No.  Everybody or anyone should have the freedom to wear what they want. 
    
    An abuser is the one who cant control his own lust.

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    SweetZ Detroitposted 10 years ago

    No! Just because she dresses like a slut doesn't mean she wants to have sex.

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    Hope Steadmanposted 10 years ago

    The answer is: No.
    Sex predators don't care what clothing the person that they're preying on wears or what age the person is as long as it's within their desires. People have the freedom to express themselves within society's normal boundaries and the freedom not to be sexually abused.
    
    But being aware that some fashions can attract the wrong kind of attention (even if the person is not intentionally looking for attention) and it's just being self-aware and taking precautions to avoid those situations.
    
    This applies to all genders.

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    JThomp42posted 10 years ago

    NO. The way anyone decides to dress is not an invitation to be sexually abused in any case. It is their rights as human beings to dress as they see fit. But, of course some do take it too far. Saying that. promiscuous dressing is not inviting promiscuous behavior.

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    TwerkZerkerposted 10 years ago

    Sexual abuse, assault, and rape are ONLY ever the fault of the abuser, assaulter, or rapist. It is never the victim's fault.
    
    Blaming these crimes on the women they hurt because of "promiscuous dressing" is probably the single most passive-agressive way that people (mostly men) can think of to deny personal responsibility for one's actions. I can't think of any other crime (besides sex crimes) where people try to spin it as the victim's fault. That's just madness.
    
    True, a woman may be able to reduce her risk of rape or sexual assault, but not so much through her clothing. Wearing a halter-top isn't going to put you at nearly as much risk as, say, wearing a halter-top as you walk alone in a dark alley in a large inner-city at two in the morning, drunk as a skunk.
    
    If a woman wanted to significantly reduce her risk, she should be more concerned about where she is, what time it is, who she's with, whether or not she can trust the people she's with, and how alert (sober) she is.
    
    But even still, lowering risk is not the same as prevention--just like having an alarm system doesn't mean your house cannot be robbed. Sometimes terrible things happen to good people. Nobody is 100% safe from mongrels who would sexually abuse a woman--even if she's wearing full-body sweats at a Denny's at 8am on a Sunday.
    
    So no victim should ever blame herself (or be blamed by others) for the vile actions of her abuser.

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    levicolemagicposted 10 years ago

    NO!
    Should people be blamed for being robbed because they have to much stuff?
    
    Should the murder victim be blamed because they had to good of a life?
    
    What does the assumption that dress can contribute to rape say about men?
    That they are so completely unable to control their sexual behavior that it is quite possible for them to launch a sexual attack if sufficiently provoked at any time? Is this how men want to see themselves?

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    Melissa Noonposted 10 years ago

    No, we should be able to wear what we want just as much as guys get to. It is unfair to ever blame a victim for something that was done to them by a selfish person who in my opinion loses any bit of humanity by even committing the act of rape. Instead of blaming women why don't you instead put the blame where the blame lies, the rapist. They chose to commit a crime, they get no excuses.

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