If you were told something about a person, would it change your opinion of them?
If a person tells you something about someone you occasionally talk to, and it puts them in a very bad light, would this change your opinion of them. Or should you just ignore it.
I would ignore it and have. I know how vicious gossip can be and how easily it can get turned into something that is totally off base. I would ignore it until I personally witnessed something untoward.
Not really. I'm pretty good at reading people so I would have already catched it. However, if it was something way out in the blue, I would get depressed because I didn't assess the individual correctly or was sloppy and lazy.
Never listen to gossip, always find out things for yourself. I never base my value of another person upon another's assesment.
It all depends on what I was informed of. Say it was about a past mistake or something that absolutely has nothing to do with now- and it is not who they really are currently than No I would ignore it because it is in the past and honestly none of my business.
If it had something to do with now and my safety or my families'. Than I would have to take steps of caution and act in wisdom not by my emotions.
This too is an area that would vary widely. Like if someone my child was playing with was involved in such bad,dangerous behavior that could harm my child- than my opinion would change and it would no longer be acceptable to continue as it was.
Or if I found out someone was prone to sexual perversion and couldn't be trusted around my children-than that's it all relationship is over-my opinion of you has changed.
We can forgive people and love them but we can not be a fool and just let there bad choices abuse us,or harm our families in any way.
Over all I am pretty forgiving when it comes to people because I too know that I can't even get it right all the time and I too need mercy,love & forgiveness!
Mostly, I'd ignore the gossip....unless it came from myriad directions or sources. Then! I might consider it a little more. Change my opinion? Nope, not unless the "gossip" involved me and mine.
Depending on who this person in question is for me, and what subject and intention this gossip is all about. If he is my husband then I will interrogate the one who told me the bad things till I extract the source of the gossip and discover the truth. If the person in question is just anybody I occasionally talk to, then I won't care a bit, does not affect me enough to even listen, let alone give a thought about it.
damn right it would. i just found out that an old neighbor is in trouble for molesting his daughter. if he was to walk up to me now and say hello, i would knock him out and i'm quite serious.
it wouldn't change my opinion unless I found out the facts directly.
(I'm around individuals who love to gossip and even lie, so I don't believe anything they say)
No. I am basing this answer from working in a corporate office environment for many many years, and one of the lessons I have learned is to let gossip go in one ear and out the other. I like to judge a person's character for myself and not rely on hearsay from other people. I base my answer on having to listen to countless hours of negative gossip over the years about everyone under the sun and 90% of the time none of it was true about the person they were talking about. In other situations I may have a different answer.
You bet!!! If I learned that my neighbor had won a large lottery prize, and was looking for someone nearby to himself to help him (or, her) spend it.... My opinion would change such that I would now like my neighbor A LOT MORE than previously!!!!
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