We've all heard the saying that it's in man's nature to cheat. Do you agree?

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   angied83posted 12 years ago

   We've all heard the saying that it's in man's nature to cheat. Do you agree?
   
   I think men who cheat use this as an excuse to justify what they do. What do you think?

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   LisaKoskiposted 12 years ago

   I agree that it's just an excuse. I've written about this in my hub called "My Rant on the Victimization of Cheaters."

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I agree with you. Those that say it is in their nature are trying to excuse the fact that they cheat or their mates cheat.
   
   They know full well when they become committed that they promise to be true and exclusive.  If they cannot stay committed they should be man or woman enough to end the relationship rather than betray their partner.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Cheating is basically (falling off the wagon) whether it's a promise to be monogamus or stay on a particular diet. I suspect what these men who cheat mean is it is (human nature) to want variety in all things. However as with anything we as human beings always have a choice in what we do no matter what the urge is whether it's getting a second slice of cake or having sex with someone new. Anyone who has watched the TV shows "Cheaters" or "The Maury Povich Show" aka "You are NOT the father!" is aware cheating is not monopolized by men.
   Monogamy is a life-style (choice) not a genetic code. Most people who get married don't plan on getting divorced or cheating. Quite a few people make promises without doing some soul-searching. Biting off more than you can chew does not make you a "bad person". It makes you an "irresponsible person". If you aren't sure you can commit to something it's probably best not to make the promise in the first place.
   Regardless of what a man or woman for that matter says when asked (why) they cheated the vast majority of people will tune them out. In fact the question of (why?) really is a retorical question or "reflex question". They could care less what the reason, excuse, or justification is. It's almost pointless to get into that discussion if one has already made up their mind regarding the outcome.

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   courtlneygdtmposted 12 years ago

   I agree  this is an excuse to justify why men cheat.  When one is in a truly committed relationship, the idea of cheating should be the furthest thing from their mind.  However, time and time again, this has been proven wrong.  You may recall a while back when Kathie Lee Griffin was bragging that her husband would not cheat on her.  We all know how that story ended -- even though they are still together today --  for what ever reason.
   
   Men just seem to not have the fortitude or will to resist the urge -- and therefore not give in to cheating.  I guess you may call this circumstance a causal effect -- most all men cheat -- so it would appear that it is in their nature to cheat.  I disagree and instead would say that in my opinion, most men will cheat if they got the opportunity -- whether cheating is in their nature or not.

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