What's the best way to respond to the dreaded question, "When are you getting ma

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  1. Ellana317 profile image74
    Ellana317posted 6 years ago

    What's the best way to respond to the dreaded question, "When are you getting married?"

    So... one of my best friend's is getting married in another week and everyone we know will be there (high school/neighborhood/college friends included).  I am knocking on 30 and I have yet to walk down the aisle.  Every time I attend a wedding, someone asks me this question.  How can I respond tactfully knowing that I am extremely annoyed? 


  2. MickS profile image66
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    Forget about tact, tell, whoever, to to allow you your own business.

    1. Ellana317 profile image74
      Ellana317posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Love it MickS!

  3. ashleybunn profile image60
    ashleybunnposted 6 years ago

    Tell them you'll get married if & when you feel like it! Tact isn't important in situations like this - it certainly isn't tactful for people to ask that question in the first place!

  4. lburmaster profile image84
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    Honestly, I would respond rudefully. That is an insulting question from my perspective. Why do they want to know? Do they think they would be invited? I instantly don't like people who ask that question. I don't intend on getting married for the next 3-8 years, so if I hear this question, the conversation will not end well. I have a plan, and you are not worthy to be involved in it.

    1. Ellana317 profile image74
      Ellana317posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      LOL... Glad to nkow someone understands my frustration.

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    Marzimeposted 6 years ago

    Just say I haven't thought about it how is everything with you.. turn the attention on them and they will get the hint smile

  6. freecampingaussie profile image59
    freecampingaussieposted 6 years ago

    As maybe they are nervous , not sure what to talk about with you  I would never be nasty & answer rudely  , make yourself look bad -
    I would just smile and say something like
    " I have too much I want to accomplish on my bucket list first - Whats on your list of things you want to do in lfe ? "

  7. algarveview profile image88
    algarveviewposted 6 years ago

    There are a number of questions I think people ask to make themselves feel important, like I've achieved this and you haven't, that is one, one other can be when are you having children? Have you noticed it? I don't think it's small talk, small talk is the weather, not asking about someone's private life. So, I would say, I'm not sure if I will ever get married, that's not a priority for me and then I would turn the conversation around and ask them about something that they wouldn't feel good about...

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    Larry Wallposted 6 years ago

    The answer should be rather simple--
    When the time is right?

    If they ask when that will be just say,
    "I will know and once we set the date I will send you an invitation?


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