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Do you think getting married at about 17 or 18 is too young?

  1. Kaleolani profile image60
    Kaleolaniposted 6 years ago

    Do you think getting married at about 17 or 18 is too young?

  2. tjhooper profile image76
    tjhooperposted 6 years ago

    Honestly, yes. The reason though is because at such a young age, the ability to make very rational and logical decisions is still developing.

    "Love" may seem real, but the definition of love changes througout the relationship's life. Love is usually associated by feelings by most people, but older, wiser people will tell you that it's the ability to be patient and compromise. Because one day, those "love" feelings will change into comfortable feelings. That's why you have so many people that "fall out of love."

    It's not that they have fallen out of love, it's that they have lost the euphoria feelings that occur in the beginning of a relationship.

    If the young couple can truly and logically say that they will do everything they can to make a relationship work, then I say go for it! However, unfortunately, with most people this is not the case. Sure, they may say they will stick together through thick and thin, but when the time arises, their "love" just won't hold up under the pressures of life.

  3. your cybersister profile image60
    your cybersisterposted 6 years ago

    It turns out that iit iwas for me.  I was married the first time at seventeen, a month out of high school, to a young man of twenty two that I had dated for a little over a year,   I was head over heels in love with him and he for me.  Things were terrific for a while, but when you get married before you have actually finished maturing you are extremely fortunate if it happens to work out well.  As I kept growing up and some tough life experiences came my way I discovered that the young man I married didn't have the emotional depth that I needed in a life partner.  He would buy me anything, take me anywhere, and do everything for me EXCEPT be emotionally supportive.  We tried hard to make it work, but after twelve years we had to concede that we weren't meant to be and we divorced.  We both married other people later on and are much happier than we were together.

  4. KK Trainor profile image60
    KK Trainorposted 6 years ago

    I think everyone is different and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. It's like asking how long you should date before getting married. It varies depending on the person. Maturity levels vary not depending on age but on the undividual.  I will say that a person in their teens is still growing and figuring out who they are.
    This being said, it's usually a good idea to have the major decisions made before getting married. You should be clear on whether or not you want kids, college plans or going to work right away, etc. This way you can make your life without the later conflicts these issues sometimes bring.
    I got married late, 31, and have never been happier. But I already knew myself pretty well and the biggest adjustment for me was actually sharing my space!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Yes, in my opinion teenagers are too young to get married. Ideally one wants to be as complete of a person as possible before joining their life with another person.  This might include finishing one's education, deciding upon a career path or learning a trade, traveling, dating, and doing some serious introspective thinking about what he or she really wants and needs from a mate. What one considers to be their "perfect mate" at age 17 is not likely to fit the bill at age 27 or 37. I won't go as far as saying it's impossible to find your "soulmate" at age 17 and remain married 80 years. However it's very unlikely!

  6. jdomingo profile image60
    jdomingoposted 6 years ago

    Hell yes!   I'm in my mid twenties and I still think I'm too young to get married....think about it, that is (supposed to be) a lifelong commitment with someone and to do so at the age to where you (legally) aren't even able to party and drink and have a great time, well isn't the smartest thing in my opinion.

    Though it really is up to the couple engaging in the marriage but from first hand witness 8 out of 10 people that I know that got married so young are no longer together.  Call me crazy but they might have realized there is so much to do by yourself before you can tie yourself down with someone permanently. 

    Don't marry young...go out have fun and live a little before you tie yourself down with marriage and kids please!   Both are not short term commitments they are (supposed to be) life long commitments.

  7. Miss Paula profile image40
    Miss Paulaposted 6 years ago

    Yes!! because today at 17 or 18 you are still a kid, you have not even thought of being an adult.  you ares till maturing at that age.

  8. LifeMeansChange profile image58
    LifeMeansChangeposted 6 years ago

    I do think it's too young. You don't really know yourself at such a young age. But I don't think it's impossible for people to get married that young and still have a wonderful, strong relationship. I do, however, think that it's much less likely!

  9. IamAnurag profile image36
    IamAnuragposted 6 years ago

    Of course it's too early.One should first make his/her life before getting married.

  10. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    Yes, my goodness you change so much from when you're a teen to your 30's, you are almost a different person, you develop a different outlook on life and different interests than what you had as a teen.  You see the world differently, and it would be far too easy to grow apart as you mature.  If I had of married the boyfriend I had at that age it would not have lasted long.

  11. Meskarune profile image57
    Meskaruneposted 6 years ago

    marriage doesn't really mean anything anymore. So if people are really truly in love and want to have kids together, I say go for it! The worst thing that can happen is they divorce. So no reason not to take a chance.

    Also my grandmother married her true love at age 16 and her and my grandpa have been together for 55 years.

  12. penlady profile image60
    penladyposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely yes.  Although 18 is an adult age, you're still not mature in so many areas.   You haven't experienced life enough yet to understand the impact of making the wrong decisions.  Furthermore, a person this young doesn't really know themselves yet. 

    You will go through so many changes between 18 and 30.  Even beyond then, you will change, but have a better understanding of life. 

    So it's definitely a mistake to marry at these ages.

  13. Anne Oddity profile image58
    Anne Oddityposted 6 years ago

    I don't know if it's "too young" per se, but I definitely believe that the marriage is more likely to fail if you marry that early.